What do you do when someone breaks up with you?

Question

I feel so lost right now. My boyfriend broke up with me and I don't know what to do. I just want to get my mind off it because it's driving me crazy. I feel even more depressed now than ever before.

rosemilk · Accepted Answer

yeah that'll hurt for awhile. but the good news is, time heals all. you cannot control this situation, but you can control how you react to it and get yourself through it

a few suggestions to get through the days:

take your day and put it into small goals/manageable tasks

do something kind for yourself, some self care, like taking a shower or a bath, eating your favorite food, watching your favorite show or a new show you've been wanting to watch

cliche, but exercise some of that pent up energy out. or do some stretches

focus on the present instead of dwelling on those negative thoughts. let it be. feel those sad feelings and then let them go to grieve for another time. only allow yourself to focus on the hurt for a short while, don't stay there forever

let out some emotions in a creative way like drawing/writing, etc

a few suggestions to better yourself:

develop new skills like a language or a hobby

educate yourself (whatever subject that may be)

self reflect, take time to reflect on your experiences and behaviors by journaling (super helpful)

surround yourself with supportive and positive people who encourage you

you're gonna be okay!

Explorer91 · Accepted Answer

Have you ever had a job you did for a while.. and when you quit or left the job you realised what a huge whole you have in your life. And the next few months you feel a lot more empty. Then eventually when you start a new job and get involved and start to become familiar with the people and routine and situation there and get attached to the new place.. suddenly the old place isn't that important anymore.
This is sort of what its like. Try and imagine your future self in a situation where you are attached and involved and distracted by new people and situations. Realise that this new attachment always arrives. Whether its with a new person or new situation. A new distraction arrives eventually. Remember that. And strive towards creating that new distraction asap =)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

First of all, I feel sorry for you. I hope you can get over this and find a better person.

As for your question, I'm trying not to get too carried away from the beginning. This way I won't fall into a serious depression when I leave. I will only be disappointed for a short time. I will look for another partner later.

I advise you this: Love is temporary and turns into liking over time. But liking is permanent. And one falls in love only a few times in one's life. However, most of the time he may like the opposite sex.

Likewise, when a person falls in love, he may not be able to think logically under the influence of love and may ignore the characteristics of the other person that may negatively affect the relationship. In case of separation, depression may occur. I've experienced this in the past too.

Therefore, looking for the person we like, not the person we love, increases our chances and provides the opportunity to establish a logical relationship. We should not forget this either. For us, no one is more valuable than us. So we should not love others more than ourselves.

melnc · Accepted Answer

It's depressing but inevitable. Accept the relationship's end as a fleeting moment that doesn't define you. Surround yourself with supportive and caring friends and family. Avoid rebound relationships, harmful habits, or alcoholic drinking. Focus on self improvement and cherish the positives in your life. This phase will pass, and you'll emerge stronger. We've all been there before, and we've all survived. Be strong, it's just a matter of time.

ohsheeT · Answer

First thing you take a moment to realize what really happened you have to be 100% honest with yourself

Whether it was justified or not you have to accept it and once you accept it it's a little bit easier..

And then you either just kick back relax you talk with friends you come on here if you have friends here talk with them if you don't. Then meet somebody and talk with them.. . But you have to stay busy.

. I personally would go to a roleplay site or app and want to role play with somebody something very hot and passionate.. . Because I want to feel something...

But it's going to drive you crazy until you don't want it to anymore and that's usually when you're busy and you're doing other things are you started talking with somebody

jennifer_bloom · Answer

My uncle who passed away over 10 years ago said - think about who you want to be with - think about what this person wants in a wife - then become that person. If you work on yourself - you will have new prospects that are just as good or better than the previous one. Break ups are a normal event in contemporary times, and you have to acknowledge that if you want to lower the risk of depression if it somehow happens to you. You still have yourself and you still have the things you invested in over the years.

DishLady · Answer

Smile more, work out more, stay busy, move on.

Luv2BRealExotic13 · Answer

Go right back to chillin like a villain. I just detach, I give myself a timeline to feel my feels. Once I cried three days and moped around because of a guy. I got all my feels out and allowed myself to be upset and no one was really in my way to interfere nor inserted their opinions so I was fine. I found something realistic I didn’t like about it focused on that and rewired my brain. If I saw him today it wouldn’t be disgust or animosity he’d just kind of be a stranger to me and hopefully he’s living a life that makes him happy.

luvstoned4him · Answer

I mean it could be a phase. Sometimes men just need to blow off some steam, sometimes they just need to reminded how much value you bring to their life a. k. a to miss you. Sometimes you both have issues you need to either compromise on or to mature a bit more.

abc3643 · Answer

Feel like shit for several decades OR find someone new and better after a few years. (TIP: If you can't find someone new and better, you will feel like shit for several decades.)

FreyaRed · Answer

Just put some tight rag on your butt and go walk in the city. After that you start to think he wasn't worth my time.

Anonymous · Answer

Before I got married I used to immediately find someone else to fuck to put her in my rearview mirror as fast as possible.

strangeatcircleK · Answer

I'm still trying to figure that out myself... I guess it's staying busy and being social. Something like that 🤔 Too much time to dwell on the past that you cannot change is like poison

WhitneySnow · Answer

I cry a lot and I talk to people I’m close to

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Seek closure so I can move on to the next relationship.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I accept that it was not meant to be, wish her well, and move on.

ballıbörek01 · Answer

I recommend you the series "The Good Place". Perfect series to refresh yourself and gain the belief in yourself again🙌😊

daskapitalllll · Answer

after long time i lost my feelings, u need to take a break for while, just focus on urself in this journey

Anonymous · Answer

This, Rocky Montage. 😆

noohair · Answer

If someone does not want to be with me then I don't want to be with them.

dsrice071966 · Answer

I talked to a friend and got support, cried a little and I missed the relationship.

jahaims · Answer

Focus more on hobbies and friends

MoroccanPrincess · Answer

I keep myself busy with work

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Go visit my family and friends

thecosmos · Answer

I retreat into my shell

Gabriel-Chicanito · Answer

She's "replaceable"..

letmex-plain · Answer

First I have to ask, ?

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

Move on

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