What do you do if your interest in your partner decreases over time? Do you consider breaking up or do you make an effort not to break up?

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Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

This is something that needs to be discussed as long as two people are honest with one another some things can be worked through while other times it’s best to end things on good terms.

Sometimes relationships can last on mutual trust and respect as well as love for one another.

The biggest thing to know is why you’re loosing interest the last thing someone wants to be is silently resentful that will make for a very toxic relationship later on down the road once things start to boil over.

One huge thing is if you’re starting to fancy other people it’s probably best to break it off before any kind of cheating happens even emotionally cheating. If two people are loosing interest because the relationship has become toxic or indifferent even… Where you just coexist with one another.

I think if it’s just decreasing the honeymoon phase is coming to a end just talk to one another. Express that as long as you still genuinely love the person how you’re feeling and see what can be done to strengthen the relationship over time.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

What does "interest" mean in this context?

At the beginning of any relationship, it's exciting and new. This is the "honeymoon period" where your excitement for your new partner is high and you tend to overlook any minor issues because of your excitement. But that is infatuation, and it never lasts.

Eventually, things become more routine as you integrate your relationship into your life, and the excitement is reduced. That's a normal development for everyone. The question at that point is whether you made a good choice in the first place; if you vetted your partner for his morals, values and life goals and made sure your relationship had a solid foundation. If you chose him for shallow reasons, rather than morals, values, and life goals, then things will start to fall apart. If you made good choices, then there will still be plenty about him that you love and appreciate.

The work you do (or don't do) in the beginning with the vetting process will make a big difference in your outcomes later on.

NoDecision · Accepted Answer

Kind of puts you in a quandary, doesn't it? My question is, why did you have an interest to begin with? What changed? Why did it change? I think you should sit down and have a heart-to-heart conversation. Find out what the issues are and how you both are going to work to fix them. You both just have to be open and willing, because if one has already given up in their heart, there may be no going back to the way it was.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Depends on WHY you're growing apart. If it's because of a small thing like scheduling, then that's fixable. If things are falling apart and he's cheating or showing interest in other people... then that's not cool and it's time to go.

exitseven · Answer

I dated somebody for 4 years. We went to the same school, forma year and a half and we both transferred to different schools. We had a long distance relationship for the next 3 years. She put very little effort into the relationship. Eventually i started to get sick of being ignored most of the time and the last time i saw her I started to wonder why I was with her in the first place. Even though I tried not to think ablut it, a few months later I cslled her late one Saturday night and broke up with her over the phone.

Screenwriter · Answer

What's made you lose interest? That's the bottom line. Maybe you've found out this person is boring, and you learned this over time. You've tried to interest them in various events, hobbies, but it's a no-go.

You can't change someone's personality.

If what you've discovered is that you aren't suited to each other, where in the haze of those rose colored glasses of first blush of love you THOUGHT you were, then it's time to cut bait and move along.

But if it's a momentary lag in excitement and interest because of children, jobs, all the adult responsibilities that get in the way, you might give it another chance.

If it's unresolvable friction between you, move on.

Miristheiss · Answer

Western women.

Life should be about some guy making you happy. The moment you get bored, the tingles go away, life gets boring move on to a new, exciting dick.

Get on birth control at 16,17,18 then start riding the cock carousel.

Wise people look for a person that they have, SHARED VALUES WITH, SAME LIFE GOALS AND COMMIT.

Having committed you work on maintaining the relationship. You accept life can get more boring and routine after years with the same person. Work on continuing to do new things together.

Sparks and butterflies fade. No one can make you happy all the time. You just be a happy person in and of yourself.

emeraldsaphire · Answer

I put high value on commitment. So if my interest were to start decreasing I'd talk to my partner. I'd talk about how I'm feeling maybe we'd go to counseling. Maybe we'd try something new.

Right now me and my partner both keep a conscious effort to keep things fresh. Each week we try one new food dish. Each month we go to a place we've never been to before. We try new games, new shows, new hobbies. I wish I could say we always keep to these goals, but we keep to them enough.

Anonymous · Answer

Always the women a majority of the time who initiate breakups. I’m just not happy. He’s a great man, he takes care of me, provides for me. But I’m just not happy lol then women wonder why men don’t want to be in relationships. Exactly why are you losing interest? He not paying attention to you?

Anonymous · Answer

Long term relationships are full of peaks and troughs so you probably carry on if things are generally on an even keel or you have joint commitments.
But if they are just a short term toy, you have a decision to make. Depends if you think it's run its course or whether this is just a transition to another phase of the relationship.

SamIam96 · Answer

Why waste your time trying to create interest? What's the point? Do you want to marry a guy who you're disinterested in? I'd move on. Maybe remain friends.

NicholasRedone · Answer

@creativewritings hence the pressure (one's self politely like a job like a car like choices) to pick properly the first time 🥇😁 and do it properly - puns intended

strateguy632 · Answer

That is the main reason fool gals dump me a decent guy. Just stay with the boring nice guy.

nawtee_me · Answer

Relationships take a lot of work to work. If someone is not willing to put forth that effort then it is not going to work anyway. If someone is considering breaking up just means they don’t want to put forth the effort.

HungTexan · Answer

It hasn’t happened to me in 40+ years, but I’d make an effort to stay together if it ever happens.

leahzrc · Answer

I usually get angry towards them and it leads to break up

Nikki1989 · Answer

There's no one-size-fits-all answer, it all depends on the specific circumstances.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Why would it decrease? I've never had an interest of any kind decrease over time.

Professor-college · Answer

That would depend on her attitude... And she shows actions which prove that she has feelings for me then I would try to keep the relationship a lot but if she doesn't then it's all over

Wise4myage · Answer

I’d definitely make an effort to fix whatever is at.

PrincessC1678 · Answer

You have to write down the pro's and cons of the relationship.

YayaArias · Answer

I would make an effort not to break up, find the things that made you guys like/love each other again and hope it works out.

BlueJeanBaby1994 · Answer

I’d evaluate reason why first to see if I can fix it.

Brandani · Answer

I’ll have to consider it at first then give it a time if I can hold up to the situation

Agape93 · Answer

I'll stay until it's gone

bidjade000 · Answer

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