When you know you need to break off the relationship, should you do it right away, or wait until you find someone else?

[coachTanthony]

[Finchie40]

Do it right away , if you know you no longer want to be with someone just end it , why string them along , while you are being selfish trying to find a replacement? Sadly I know a lot of people tend to do this shit , especially girls , Most girls will latch onto another guy while she is still in a relationship with someone else , because those girls’ are selfish people that only truly care about themselves , Those girls’ will fuck your brains out behind their partners back until she feels you are in it for the long haul , I had my fair share of married women that did this shit with me , that lied to Me that they were single and treating me like a King , to eventually find out she has been married or in a relationship the whole time with someone else. Don’t get me wrong the sex was amazing , and some of the best sex I ever had was with a lying cheating girl , because she tends to worship you and rocks your world every which way she can to get you to be with her , Girls are very weak and scared to leave he unhappy relationship , she feels having another guy will protect her while she goes through a divorce or a break up because she feels her current partner will hurt her if she just packs her shit and leaves , sadly to say most girls’ that do this are selfish people that only really care about themselves , that think they know what they want but they truly don’t

[Avicenna]

Right away, of course. After making efforts to fix things.

[Pinay_ako]

Nah that’s wrong. If you feel the relationship isn’t working out, break it off. Take a break from relationships! You need to figure yourself out if you can be happy and single! Rather than dragging some poor soul to be with you.

[Guardian45]

Sage advice

[Mamaliv]

Right away! It’s unfair to keep someone around if you have no intention of anything long term with them.

[OlderAndWiser]

My stepdaughter was dating a boy with a wooden leg, but it didn't work out, so she had to break it off!

[AviatorTom]

When I was much younger, I was a cad. I'd drag her along for one more romp in the hay, and then break it off. Fortunately, I have matured.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

The minute you know it’s over for you…

[TonyMetal___86]

You mean when you have no lives anymore than it's game over? Can't we use the reset button sponge? 🤣

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@TonyMetal___86 some people are worth a second chance, some aren’t… but a third, fourth, etc., etc… yeah no

[TonyMetal___86]

There are lots of chances cards in the monopoly 💆🏼‍♀️😬

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@TonyMetal___86 except relationships shouldn’t be a game 🤷‍♀️ but these days people play with people’s feelings/emotions/lives and that ain’t cool

[TonyMetal___86]

True sponge, let's end this convo and think abiut you're going to make me for dinner when you arrive home, it's the chicken day 😁

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@TonyMetal___86 nope not cooking tonight… It gonna be another sandwich night 🤷‍♀️

[TonyMetal___86]

Beating the sponge with a sandwich on her spongy forehead 🤓

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@TonyMetal___86 with that comment, you’ll never be invited to dinner😝

[TonyMetal___86]

REALLY NAUGHTY SPONGE 🤓🔨😈

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@TonyMetal___86 😇😇😇😇

[Anonymous]

This question assumes you're in the power position of doing the breaking up. It's been my observation that when people are doing the breaking up they get over the breakup exponentially faster than if they're the one getting broken up with.

Of course I would say "do it it right away". But if you're looking to break up as you have said. You already know there's something wrong in the relationship. And you're either trying to fix it or you've abandoned all hope. Well if you've abandoned all hope then why are you still together. And if you're working to fix it then why are you looking elsewhere? I guess the point I'm making is know your focus. Some people's relationship is on the rocks and they may not be looking actively. But maybe they find someone who gives them what thier partner is not. I'm not excusing this behaviour. Just stating it as a fact that it happens.

In short, yes if you know it's over break it off. Otherwise you risk making it very messy. But if you're in it be in it 100%

[0verthinkExpert]

You need to break it off right away. If you feel the need to wait until someone else comes around then that's probably an indicator that you have some issues you need to work out.

Why do you constantly need to be in a relationship? Are you putting your self-worth on your relationship status or are you trying to distract yourself from something else in your life?

Nothing wrong with some self-evaluation. We each grow as a person when we start asking ourselves questions and seek for answers.

[DizzyDesii]

Its better to end it right away but a lot of people like a more tempting, motivating, better option of a reason to leave. And you dont even have to see it as “a person who refuses to be alone.” Its not always that. They could just want to know there is better out there before stepping both feet out the door. And i dont mean in a cheating since. But in a, is it worth starting over again and being single for a while again

[Shark_61695]

Life isn't that simple. It would be nice if relationships were a ticketing system when you could just move onto the next one. It could be hours or months so if you are unhappy just break it off. Unless you are defined by who you are dating in which case you have my pity.

[Flatmanlewis]

Break it off. Leaving a bad relationship has no correlation to whether I have another one available. Plus, and I think most importantly, you deny yourself the opportunity to recover and reflect on the previous failed relationship and extract the lessons and growth from it by jumping right back into another rebound relationship.

[petitedollbabee]

Do it right away, or do it when you feel that it is safe to do so (if it’s an abusive relationship). You should never break off a relationship only when you’ve found a “replacement”. You may aswell cheat if you’re going to be scummy enough to do that.

[Bricealan]

Naw, coach, break clean. My wife played that 'monkey bar' romance BS, she never let go of one bar, (man) until she had a good grip on the next bar (man) She was cowardly about relationships. I always tried to break clean. My opinion only, Coach.

[purplepoppy]

Straight away because otherwise it looks like your the type who's always looking to upgrade or worse people will conclude you were two timing.

[Anonymous]

Right away.

Not only is it unfair but honestly it's likely more stress than value. Like I'm with a guy I seriously thought could be long term just 2 weeks ago - like honestly long term, potential husband material - but really his recent poor communication, blaming me for getting confused / frustrated by the lack, and passive aggressive responses is just far too stressful to bother with.

[Ninania]

Right away, unless it's unsafe to do before you have a plan for getting away (in case of abusive or toxic behaviour). The plan shouldn't include a new relationship, though.

[StarWarGirl]

Answer to this question is in this another question.

When you know you are going to die, should you start saving your life then and there itself or should you wait for some professional expert to come and try to save you?

[catarecute]

depends how happy you are about facing the fact that you might not find someone else. if you can face this do it now. if you can't wait until you find someone else. i am not saying this is morally good.

[elizamichale1]

if u feel its not working how can u keep going... u just need to end it right away

[sheenagwapa]

me i'm more of what yoy see what you get. i don't lie. i don't pretend. if i love you i love you. if i hate yoy then i hate you. my ex told me before he knew me very well he noticed i'm just like a child. i thought about it and i agree.

[Peanutbutter1221]

Right away because why are you leading them on yet you know its over... its not fair to them

And also, it's cheating to look for a partner while you have one already

[MsTaniaUncensored]

If you are seeing someone and looking for someone else well I am sorry to tell you that is cheating.

[coachTanthony]

Not sure it matters if you know it's over.

[Finchie40]

It’s disrespectful and it shows someone’s true colors if they string someone along until they find a replacement, I know this shit occurs a lot because most people that cheat are scared to admit they were wrong and will make excuses for their own selfish behavior , they feel having a replacement will save them not realizing all that person is , is a rebound , Most people are scared to be alone so they latch onto someone else before ending it with their current partner, I have slept with married women that lied to me saying they were single , that kept it a secret from me as much as possible until they felt like I was in it for the long haul , then they would tell me the truth or she would eventually get busted by her husband , little did she realize , I am not going to commit to a girl that cheats period , so I dump her as well and tell her thanks for a good time but not a long time

[whirled_up_girl]

Right away, no need to prolong something if it clearly isn’t working. I think there is also less resentment when there isn’t someone else waiting in the wings.