When you know you need to break off the relationship, should you do it right away, or wait until you find someone else?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Do it right away , if you know you no longer want to be with someone just end it , why string them along , while you are being selfish trying to find a replacement? Sadly I know a lot of people tend to do this shit , especially girls , Most girls will latch onto another guy while she is still in a relationship with someone else , because those girls’ are selfish people that only truly care about themselves , Those girls’ will fuck your brains out behind their partners back until she feels you are in it for the long haul , I had my fair share of married women that did this shit with me , that lied to Me that they were single and treating me like a King , to eventually find out she has been married or in a relationship the whole time with someone else. Don’t get me wrong the sex was amazing , and some of the best sex I ever had was with a lying cheating girl , because she tends to worship you and rocks your world every which way she can to get you to be with her , Girls are very weak and scared to leave he unhappy relationship , she feels having another guy will protect her while she goes through a divorce or a break up because she feels her current partner will hurt her if she just packs her shit and leaves , sadly to say most girls’ that do this are selfish people that only really care about themselves , that think they know what they want but they truly don’t

Avicenna · Accepted Answer

Right away, of course. After making efforts to fix things.

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

Nah that’s wrong. If you feel the relationship isn’t working out, break it off. Take a break from relationships! You need to figure yourself out if you can be happy and single! Rather than dragging some poor soul to be with you.

Mamaliv · Accepted Answer

Right away! It’s unfair to keep someone around if you have no intention of anything long term with them.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

My stepdaughter was dating a boy with a wooden leg, but it didn't work out, so she had to break it off!

AviatorTom · Answer

When I was much younger, I was a cad. I'd drag her along for one more romp in the hay, and then break it off. Fortunately, I have matured.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

The minute you know it’s over for you…

Anonymous · Answer

This question assumes you're in the power position of doing the breaking up. It's been my observation that when people are doing the breaking up they get over the breakup exponentially faster than if they're the one getting broken up with.

Of course I would say "do it it right away". But if you're looking to break up as you have said. You already know there's something wrong in the relationship. And you're either trying to fix it or you've abandoned all hope. Well if you've abandoned all hope then why are you still together. And if you're working to fix it then why are you looking elsewhere? I guess the point I'm making is know your focus. Some people's relationship is on the rocks and they may not be looking actively. But maybe they find someone who gives them what thier partner is not. I'm not excusing this behaviour. Just stating it as a fact that it happens.

In short, yes if you know it's over break it off. Otherwise you risk making it very messy. But if you're in it be in it 100%

0verthinkExpert · Answer

You need to break it off right away. If you feel the need to wait until someone else comes around then that's probably an indicator that you have some issues you need to work out.

Why do you constantly need to be in a relationship? Are you putting your self-worth on your relationship status or are you trying to distract yourself from something else in your life?

Nothing wrong with some self-evaluation. We each grow as a person when we start asking ourselves questions and seek for answers.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Its better to end it right away but a lot of people like a more tempting, motivating, better option of a reason to leave. And you dont even have to see it as “a person who refuses to be alone.” Its not always that. They could just want to know there is better out there before stepping both feet out the door. And i dont mean in a cheating since. But in a, is it worth starting over again and being single for a while again

Shark_61695 · Answer

Life isn't that simple. It would be nice if relationships were a ticketing system when you could just move onto the next one. It could be hours or months so if you are unhappy just break it off. Unless you are defined by who you are dating in which case you have my pity.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

Break it off. Leaving a bad relationship has no correlation to whether I have another one available. Plus, and I think most importantly, you deny yourself the opportunity to recover and reflect on the previous failed relationship and extract the lessons and growth from it by jumping right back into another rebound relationship.

petitedollbabee · Answer

Do it right away, or do it when you feel that it is safe to do so (if it’s an abusive relationship). You should never break off a relationship only when you’ve found a “replacement”. You may aswell cheat if you’re going to be scummy enough to do that.

Bricealan · Answer

Naw, coach, break clean. My wife played that 'monkey bar' romance BS, she never let go of one bar, (man) until she had a good grip on the next bar (man) She was cowardly about relationships. I always tried to break clean. My opinion only, Coach.

Ninania · Answer

Right away, unless it's unsafe to do before you have a plan for getting away (in case of abusive or toxic behaviour). The plan shouldn't include a new relationship, though.

purplepoppy · Answer

Straight away because otherwise it looks like your the type who's always looking to upgrade or worse people will conclude you were two timing.

Anonymous · Answer

Right away.

Not only is it unfair but honestly it's likely more stress than value. Like I'm with a guy I seriously thought could be long term just 2 weeks ago - like honestly long term, potential husband material - but really his recent poor communication, blaming me for getting confused / frustrated by the lack, and passive aggressive responses is just far too stressful to bother with.

StarWarGirl · Answer

Answer to this question is in this another question.

When you know you are going to die, should you start saving your life then and there itself or should you wait for some professional expert to come and try to save you?

catarecute · Answer

depends how happy you are about facing the fact that you might not find someone else. if you can face this do it now. if you can't wait until you find someone else. i am not saying this is morally good.

elizamichale1 · Answer

if u feel its not working how can u keep going... u just need to end it right away

sheenagwapa · Answer

me i'm more of what yoy see what you get. i don't lie. i don't pretend. if i love you i love you. if i hate yoy then i hate you. my ex told me before he knew me very well he noticed i'm just like a child. i thought about it and i agree.

Peanutbutter1221 · Answer

Right away because why are you leading them on yet you know its over... its not fair to them And also, it's cheating to look for a partner while you have one already

MsTaniaUncensored · Answer

If you are seeing someone and looking for someone else well I am sorry to tell you that is cheating.

whirled_up_girl · Answer

Right away, no need to prolong something if it clearly isn’t working. I think there is also less resentment when there isn’t someone else waiting in the wings.

OddBeMe · Answer

Depends on your level of empathy and care. If you have little of it, ride the wave of free sex. Then dump her like yesterday’s garbage.

msc545 · Answer

Find someone else first. Women always do this, and in fact do it as backup to curent relationships that are going well.

genericname85 · Answer

i mean i might stick around for a bit untill i see a plan b in sight. cause even if the relationship sucks, i can still get laid. and that's something that doesn't come easy if you're a single man.

Sparkie460 · Answer

Just end it as soon as you know you need to break it off

RobT312 · Answer

I waited until I found someone else and that was a mistake ( for me anyways) . I should have just ended it immediately

strateguy632 · Answer

i used both methods. i decided to break up, and also how unbearable, staying would be, until finding a new lover.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

You do it right away. You don't slide into your next relationship. That's a jackass thing to do.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I have no need to wait until I find someone else. I would just break off the relationship.

Hal2002 · Answer

When you need to end a relationship, it is best to break off things as soon as possible.

summiter · Answer

When it is done it is done... do it sooner rather than later

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Do it right away. Anything else is just pathetic.

katiesmuff · Answer

It would be wrong to stay in a failing relationship!

exitseven · Answer

I really had to think about it for 4 months. I called her on the phone one night and broke up with her. Afterwards I was afraid I made a mistake.

RavVid · Answer

I think it is morally wrong to wait till you can swap old the old and ring in the new.

slatyb · Answer

If you are going to end it, do it now. Don't waste the other person's time. That's just cruel.

babyboo069 · Answer

Right away. Don't wait because that will cause pain to you only

Radiate143 · Answer

Women: I will leave. Men: I'll just use the bitch.

YouKnowMe2 · Answer

Just break up. You also need some time alone after a relationship. If you enter to a new relationship right after breaking up, you will likely choose the first option and may not see all the red flags

BarryLiverstone · Answer

You not only break it right away but you communicate with your partner so that they are not being used and you are honest with intensions.

Apple1996 · Answer

Do it right away

Nikki1989 · Answer

Do it right away.

boobliker · Answer

just get it over with it's done then the heart fades. you're just making it harder

elianmuse · Answer

Right away, staying in the relationship might delay your efforts in finding someone else.

driven159 · Answer

break it off fast why be unhappy any longer than you have to.

Anonymous · Answer

There’s definitely something wrong with people’s brains on here 🤔

jimmy2 · Answer

In that case and there no forgiveness, bry ever one can forgive, then I can believe he would run fast

Anonymous · Answer

Id do it right away, why prolong the inevitable.

Constatine · Answer

Instant exit.. over and gone

LazerBean · Answer

Right away.

Alex-Snow · Answer

Do it right away and get it done with

Massageman · Answer

Cut your losses ASAP.

bolverk · Answer

I do it right away, not let it drag on.

zagor · Answer

Right away. Why drag it on?

LiamJHayden · Answer

End it immediately.

Christoff92 · Answer

I'll do it right away

jammcm · Answer

Give the other person a break.. End it now.

Minahh · Answer

Do it right away

overthinkergirl · Answer

right away

shades777 · Answer

yea just do it

Riverdog · Answer

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