Should I forgive him?

[Anonymous]

my ex boyfriend went to a strip club after a week of being broken up and when I found out I couldn’t stop crying and a friend of mine told him and he came over to comfort me and wants us to get back together he says he regrets going there and loves me.. and only could think of me.(I find that disgusting..) should I get back together with him? I do love him

[OneViewpoint]

More 18-24 child brain drama. Sigh, I guess that's how people learn.

• You broke up with him. I'd like to hear why.
• Full stop. You gave up any claim on him and his actions / choices.
• He went to a strip club. For craps sake, he wasn't beating puppies with a hammer.
• You couldn't stop crying. That sounds like a you problem.
• He's a pussy for apologizing when he did nothing wrong.

No, do this guy a favor and do not get back together with him.

[Asker]

We broke up because he said that he can’t handle my work schedule.. saying I work too much

[Anonymous]

This is a deeply personal decision, and only you know the full history and future potential of your relationship. Your reaction to him going to a strip club feeling "disgusted" and crying intensely is a strong indicator of how this action fundamentally clashed with your values and hurt your trust, especially so soon after the breakup. While his immediate action to comfort you and his stated regret show that he cares about your feelings, you need to ask yourself if you can truly move past the disgust and whether his immediate action to seek comfort/distraction elsewhere aligns with the kind of commitment you want. Love alone isn't always enough; a healthy relationship requires mutual respect, shared values, and trust that you can rebuild. If you are considering getting back together, take time to figure out if his regret is genuine and if he is willing to do the work to restore your trust, or if this issue will resurface and cause future pain.

[Anonymous]

I don't care for the concept of strip clubs but he was single. He's allowed to if that's what he wanted to do. He doesn't need forgiveness for anything, sorry. Whether you choose to get back together or not is up to you and you can judge him for going to one but it should have nothing to do with the amount of time you were broken up before he went.

[Abbycado]

What's the problem? You were broken up. I find the idea of strip clubs disgusting too, but you two weren't together. He can do what he wants.

[avery58]

Going to a strip club after a break-up is not the end of the world in my opinion, but the thing is that other more dubious things happen in those places sometimes than just watching women dance naked. So I don't know. You have to talk frankly with him and come to your own conclusion on whether you trust him or not. Also think well if this is something you're comfortable enough to leave in the past for the remainder of your relationship or not. If it's going to bother you forever then I suggest you seriously reconsider.

[Anonymous]

He was single. Get over it. If you can’t then don’t get back together. Guarantee things going to be something you’ll toss in his face when you two have an argument. He’s an adult. You’re not married. You winter even his girlfriend at the time. I think I I’d focus on why the two of you broke up to begin w for a week? Focus more on that unless it has to do w something similar to the strip club then you shouldn’t even be w him or considering giving him a second chance.

[dudeinohio]

Nothing wrong with going to a strip. club even if you are in an active relationship. Hell, my wife went to one with friends a few months ago. Didn't like it though.

[jahaims]

He doesn't respect females if he goes to a strip club

[melnc]

Nope

[slatyb]

WTFF? So he went to a strip club. Grow the F up.

[seeyounexttuesday]

You were on a break.