Should I forgive him?

Question

last week he told me he didn't love me anymore (i accused him of cheating because he wasn't texting me while i was texting constantly). but i got an apology two days ago and he didn't texted me since. he told me he was sorry and he regrets telling me he doesn't love me. he realized that he loved me and he wants me back. we were dating for two years on and off by the way. should i forgive him or am i the problem?

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

Girl, I wouldn't trust him if I were you. A few red flags here:

- You were accusing him of cheating (for not texting back right away?) which shows underlying trust issues already.

- Then he suddenly hits you with "I don't love you anymore" out of nowhere during a fight. Major disrespect.

- That's not something you just "take back" after 2 days of thinking when you've been together so long. Sounds like a cop out.

- The relationship has already been on and off which means issues kept coming up before too. More games are not what you need.

- Him blaming you and saying "you're the problem" is manipulative BS. Major gaslighting vibes.

I know you've invested time but don't ignore those red flags. Someone who really loves and respects you wouldn't pull that kind of stuff. Take the apology with a huge grain of salt sis. You can do way better than this drama! Consider if it's worth putting up with more broken promises down the line. There are mature guys out there who will treat you right.

TommyMountainFigure · Accepted Answer

Honestly? I think you're both to blame. Because he doesn't text you whenever you want he has to be cheating? Come on.. You don't honestly believe that about him do ya?

As for him? I get why he said what he did.. Of course he loves you, he is just annoyed at being told he was cheating... It's horrible being in a position where yo are scared in case you don't text quickly enough.. Really horrible.

If you can be more relaxed about how long it takes him to text? I think you will find him being much more loving towards you.

I hope you take this as it was meant.. constructive criticism, not as an attack on you!

laly520 · Accepted Answer

accusing him of cheating just cuz he didn't text as much as u wanted is not ok

AviatorTom · Answer

A group of random strangers can't tell you what to do. It's your choice. Do you care for him?

AnAmazingGuy · Answer

no you should not. its not from his heart but his mind. i can share more ideas and ticks if i come to know about more details but i think you can't share here because thats so personal