Should I forgive him?

[RuneScimitar]

My ex boyfriend cheated on me for months.. Had no idea we both really liked each other too. Does he deserve forgiveness? All his friends knew he was cheating and never told me. I gave him my everything. Its so hard to open up now. He ruined the trust i have for people.

[Okumanchōja]

Fuck that guy, he cheated on you! Just because he says all this bull shit about missing you, well he shouldn't have cheated on you then. Its more understandable if it was like a drunken mistake but he's been doing it for months. He was purposefully doing it with out regard of your feelings. He just regrets getting caught not doing it, otherwise he would not have been doing it for so long. You can eventually forgive him but dont forget what sort of shitty person he is. After he gets his keys back i wouldn't bother wasting a precious nano second on his wasteman ass.

[Brewmaster531]

Forgive him? Yes. Get back together with him? No. He ruined it. You have to forgive or your resentment towards him will eat away at you. You need to forgive people in your heart. But that doesn't mean you should get back together with him.

[Rose318]

No absolutely not, this wasn't just a mistake, he was knowingly hurting you for months and you deserve much better. Also all his friends knew thats horrible, you can choose to forgive him but taking him back will end in tears. I've been their and I'm sorry to say it just doesn't work, the trust is broken.

[potatoisme]

No, never ever forgive a cheater. Cheating is not a mistake and he should've thought twice before doing it. I don't think he even has the right to say he loves u. And even if u go back together, if he's cheated on u once he can do it again. If not now, after 10 years

[RuneScimitar]

Cheating is not a mistake as he have been doing it for the longest time consciously. He knew how much it would hurt me. His reasoning behind it was if i didn't know it wouldn't hurt me. He keeps telling me he loves me and i feel like its all lies.

[potatoisme]

So he would have just kept on cheating if u didn't know, which means all he ever cared for was himself. He's an asshole, don't even think of forgiving him

[RuneScimitar]

he's a very selfish asshole i should have known from all the red flags. I overlooked it cause i liked him

[potatoisme]

Then don't allow him to enter your life again, time to move on and find someone who deserves you

[RuneScimitar]

It will be a loong time before i open up to someone again. For now i will enjoy my time while i am young

[potatoisme]

Yeah, take all the time you need to get over him and completely move on ^^

[Anonymous]

I wish I could say I wouldn't. I gave people more chances then they deserve. They hurt me over and over again. Not saying he would do that. Ultimately it's your choice. You have to have trust to have a working a relationship. Would you be able to trust him again?

[RuneScimitar]

In this life time i will never trust him again. I gave him too many chances. I loved with my heart and soul and he destroyed the trust for no reason. I dont know why he would stray on me.

[Opinion Owner]

I was cheated on before. The guy said he didn't know why he did it that it just happened. I wish I understood cheating but never will.

[RuneScimitar]

If you can't be in a committed relationship then dont be in one... Break up and dont hurt the other person.. Loyalty is so rare nowadays

[RuneScimitar]

You didn't deserve that either

[Opinion Owner]

I would respect a person more if they would just breakup with me if they want to be with someone else. Before they sleep with someone else. That would be the right thing to do instead of cheating on them. Yeah I might still be hurt but at least I wouldn't be cheated on. I hope whatever you chose that everything works out. I know that this is a difficult situation to be in. It's hard when you love someone who hurt you so bad.

[RuneScimitar]

It makes my blood boil to think of all the times he had been infaithful while i would be daydreaming about him and thinking about our future together. Ill learn to take precautions and not give my all until they have shown they deserve it. Its a learning experience

[brownboojie]

He knew what he was doing at the time and continued doing it which shows he doesn't respect you. Now he's sorry, you can forgive him but that doesn't mean take him back. Forgiving will be good for you so you can get pass what he did to you.

[KrispyKrunch]

Forgive him. but don't take him back. Don't end up like me taking back my ex after he asked for a nudy pic from someone. It really was hard to trust him again

[jc_84]

Forgive him but for you to move on. Don't give him any more than he deserves. Block him/remove him from your life/move on afterwards, as well as his friends. His actions 'for months' makes it habitual/normal.

Cheating on you was toxic, disrespectful and you deserve better. You need time to heal and trust and you won't find that in him again. You'll find it again though, just let him teach you valuable lessons rather than break your trust in/happiness with new guys/possibilities.

[HardFacts]

Forgive him because that is healthy, but do not get back with him, because he may just feel guilty and wants to get back together to feel better. Even if he is genuinely wanting back together you will never fully trust him again which will never work.

[Miristheiss]

Sure forgive him... don't keep bitterness in your heart... now if he has had sex with another woman while with you break up, start dating other guys... faithful guys and don't EVER take him back. He's shown you he's unfaithful and how much he is capable of hurting you. Don't ever stay with a cheater.

[Logorithim]

Sorry to hear that this happened.
I see no reason why you should take him back, nor do I see any reason for any contact with him ever again. He showed a complete lack of respect for you. It will be hard to move on, but the sooner the better.

[xoxofan]

No don't do it. If he really cared he wouldn't have cheated. You deserve so much better and someone is going to give it to you one day.

[RuneScimitar]

I took care of him when he was sick and would always drive him to work and he does this to me

[xoxofan]

This happened to me to and he wanted me back but I didn't get back with him because in a relationship you should trust your partner 100% and if you don't why are you in the relationship. In my opinion.

[Astoriana]

I think you should forgive him, but that doesn’t mean you should take him back. Holding on to your anger will only hurt you in the end.

[RuneScimitar]

Its hard to give him the satisfaction of forgiveness because he is a liar and cheater who brought a girl home every other weekend

[Astoriana]

I know. But holding on to your anger won’t help you either. You don’t have to invite him back into your life.

[RuneScimitar]

Ill think about it. Its easier said than done. I want him to think for the rest of his life how much pain he caused me. You have no idea..

[Astoriana]

And if he has a shred of decency, he will. Forgiving him isn’t the same as forgetting what he did to you.

[Richareens]

Forgive him BUT don't take him back. I repeat, don't ever take him back.

[Rfelic1]

The bible says forgive but never says anything about forgetting. In your case, as he's willing to seek forgiveness, it's ok to forgive him but he must understand the pain he put you through.

[Sweetmom]

Forget that douchebag if you forgive him he will no would do it again and just figure out a way to be more sneaky so you wouldn't find out about it again

[outsidecurve]

Just give him another chance and this time let him know cheating is ok. If you five him permission to cheat there is no reason to lie. Trust will be established again. Problem solved 🤣

[TexasTexan]

I would give him the chance to become friends again, but not a relationship.

[Sojex]

NO. Fuck him, fuck his friends, fuck his stupid little key.

[TheUglyMonk]

I don't believe a single word he said his intentions are pretty obvious and he is trash at hiding them. Anyways, what keys?

[RuneScimitar]

I have his house keys i could literally break in his room

[TheUglyMonk]

Why would you though? Give back the guy his keys and just end communication with him.

[RuneScimitar]

I want him to feel the pain he put me through.. You dont understand. He looked me in the eyes telling me he loved me everyday.

[TheUglyMonk]

Honestly, the faster you let go of it the better you'll feel. I say life is too short to waste holding grudges. Enjoy your life and stop letting him have an impact on your life months after he has cheated on you.

[RuneScimitar]

Ill think about it it will take some time

[Willyboy54]

Cheating should be unforgivable. And since it wasn't even just ones, makes it even worse. Maybe talk to him for closure. Dont take him back though.

[RuneScimitar]

He knew what he was doing the whole time he only felt remorseful when i caught him.

[Charleslvajr]

What does this mean?

"Had no idea we both really liked each other too"

[RuneScimitar]

I had no idea he was cheating. All the times we hungout we both shown that we both liked each other.

[Charleslvajr]

But were you in a relationship or did you just assume it was a relationship?

[RuneScimitar]

We were in a serious boyfriend girlfriend relationship. I stayed loyal the whole time. He strayed because he was an insecure party boy.

[Charleslvajr]

Well, go however you wish to in life but I have to say, you chose to be with that boy. He made poor decisions but just like everyone on GaG keeps saying, you shouldn't judge a woman by her history, maybe it also pertains to guys. If you are going to judge everyone by what he did, then everyone should judge you by what some chick did in the next county. If you can't trust him, move on. If you love him enough to give him another chance, that's up to you.

[Eamiewonder]

I wouldn't, a cheater is a cheater and you will just get hurt again, you don't deserve it! Give it a couple of days or weeks and he'll stop! If it happens once, the chance of repeating is over 70%

[Soph09]

If you stay with him you will only end up resenting him; never trusting him and driving yourself crazy trust me, it's not worth wasting time on even if you think it'll make you happy for a minute and he's demonstrated he isn't worth your time.

[garrett_da_grand]

I recently had a falling out with one my best friends because he was exactly this type of person. I would forgive him for the closure, but don't take him back. If you do, lack of trust will plague the relationship.

[spakadoo]

You have to forgive him to move on its not worth being bitter. Just have one last serious talk and that's that.

[Adam_INTJ]

I wouldn't, but the both of you are already twats for sleeping together without putting a ring on it.

[hornymike6969]

i’d give him another chance and have him but you self. at least you’ll have stuff when he cheats again

[Anonymous]

Don't take him back. Once a cheater always a cheater. Go get yourself a guy who deserves you.

[Wi_Fi]

Give him a second chance. Everyone makes mistakes and you have forgive and forget. ❤

[anametouse]

Lady fam, cut this guy out of your life. Forgiveness is meaningless to scum like this

[TheIceCreamQueen]

Tell him and his friends to fuck off.

[inettexx]

Don't forgive him, please move on I beg of you

[smg1018]

I wouldn’t take him back.

[Prakbio]

Never forgive a cheater...

[Zaibi786]

In relationship there is no space for big mostakes

[Mothon77]

I want to say don't