Did the breakup make you a better person?

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I feel like since I got the realization that my ex and I are never going to get back together, I got an epiphany that it needed to happen for me to become a better person not only for my next partner but for myself.

I'm way more attentive, empathetic, and observant than I was when I was with my ex. I'm also more of my own person and I don't obsess (as much) over someone I like now.

I've grown so much since the breakup and I feel stronger than ever.

I think this will be my last post about my ex because it's gone on long enough and I know you guys are tired of me talking about it lol

But I'm finally free! 🙌

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

I'm glad that you took the lessons from that relationship and learned them well. That's very positive. A lot of people don't do that. But you did. When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.

WhitneySnow · Accepted Answer

Yes! Definitely the same for me. And I’m glad you’re free 💕.

ohsheeT · Answer

I think my last break up made me a wiser person it's been about 6 months and I don't think I'm all the way over it

But I do know I'm not under it
I dont allow it to guide me in any manner I new the outcome before we started

Just like with your relationship I feel hers and mine has happen maybe in every life time and this time.. in this life the bond was so beautiful so deep so fast

But at the sametime the clarity the understanding because of age and timing it was going to be short

The hard part is not the break up
It's the understanding of something we both believe that is truth moving on. and giving all of yourself to another

Until next time
So when this happens the next move is to love your self so deep understand yourself so deep and then you start to understand we are all one. And the depth of love that you have for that person and yourself you have for everyone

So once again
Become one with self
Become one with others
Become one with our universe our God

What does the last paragraph mean to you broke down?

Anyway to your question
It made me wiser. smarter kinder. happer and 100 other things. So yes all the above could only make me a better person

Each and every day we all go through things and in the moment. it happens we stand up and acknowledge it deal with it.. except it.. we grow from it. we learn from it. It will always make us a better person.. but not until then . No matter how long it take.. but not until then

And now day to day I Become a better person

HawkPerception · Answer

I think each breakup did teach me to put my foot down on certain things and have some backbone rather than be a simp and just trying to be agreeable to not get on my partner's bad side like in my first relationship. I've learned to become more masculine and not compromise on what I want in a partner. Now when I'm in relationships, I feel much more confident.

I'd say I haven't changed my views much so not exactly a better person, but I have definitely become a stronger and more confident person over the years.

AviatorTom · Answer

After 20 years of marriage, our amicable divorce has been good for both of us. We are each remarried and enjoying life.

MrChinaski · Answer

I am very happy for you. Well done.

Maybe I share your views. Every loving relationship I have had has made me a much better person; no breakup ever has. But sometimes the time and space after the breakup allows me to... well after cleansing negativity... to reflect on what I learned during the relationship, what I want to keep and what I want to leave behind. In that sense, they have made me a better person. More balanced, reflective, confident, self-aware and happy.

And also more reflective on partners' strengths and weaknesses. First relationships are hard going because you do not know what you want, what you don't want, what is love, what is fear. That bit, at least, gets easier with experience.

So go forth, line up and get shot down mercilessly. It is what romantic love wants you to do!!

NathanDavis · Answer

I would not call them "break-ups" because we didn't break each other but... there was a completion, yes

and yes... from each, I became a better self

and, good thing to see you feel better about all these things... as it should be (=

FreyaRed · Answer

Better? no.
Smarter? yes
I recognizes in those how much wish think I had and how naive I was all those 4 years with this guy. He didn't play optically, mentally and even financially in my league but I had a weakness for him he exploited without any scruples.

Beckybooboo · Answer

I haven't had many breakups but they've all taught me something. If they made me a better person is up for debate, I'd like to think they did but I did grow from them. I've always said, in a small way or maybe not so small way, every guy I've dated has made me the person I am today, for better or worse.

Anonymous · Answer

I feel like I have a lot more self value, so that in my current relationships (and not just dating) Im not clingy nor desperate. Im a lot more trusting of others, and feel that I can let others be within the relationship, as I can be myself.

It also made me realize that I should chose who and how much much of my energy I should spend on someone. If someone (like my ex) doesn't want to fight for me, then why should I fight for them?

lightbulb27 · Answer

yes for sure... but you gotta do the work. breaking doesn't make you better, doing work does. Looking at weights doesn't make you stronger, doing the work does. It's hard work...

Nikki1989 · Answer

I think so. Every relationship I have had has been far better than the one before, except for one major bump in the road I went through.

Bitter_Sweet94 · Answer

Yes.  It forced me to set boundaries, see my worth, and let go of what wasn’t serving me.  Breakups aren’t just endings, they’re lessons in clarity and growth.

Staximus · Answer

This is not your last post about your ex, there have been 100 before

ABC1x1x · Answer

I've never actually broke up with anyone. They just called less and then I started talking more with other people until I noticed I wasn't talking to them much. I still talk to all my exes. Just not really clear when the became exes.

queenofcardio · Answer

Breakups have made me realize exactly what I'm not looking for. I cut people off so fast now.

exitseven · Answer

Nietzsche says "What does not kill us will make us stronger."

Shiprex · Answer

It made me more wary and conscious of having my own boundaries.

dudeinohio · Answer

Glad you are free! Each breakup builds more character. Gives you more experience on what to. look for, positive and negative.

Ariesman81 · Answer

(as much)...😂😂 Congrats on the self awareness!

Chocolatetwopoint3 · Answer

never broken up with somebody

Anonymous · Answer

I never had a breakup.

Evsisa · Answer

No definitely not.

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