Our breakup is still pretty fresh (she ended it, but not because of anything relationship-related - long story...but it ended on good terms). We've texted nearly every day, and she called me the other day because she wanted to talk about the relationship, why she ended it, and she really hadn't wanted to. She was upset the entire time, so I didn't get much talking in.
Anyway, I texted her yesterday afternoon and asked if I could call her last night, that there were some things (not bad things) that I had wanted to say to her. She said okay. I called last night, and it went to voice mail, so I texted her, asking if it was still okay if I called. She replied a few minutes later that she didn't feel like talking right now. She's been like that before when she's in a "mood," and I don't force it, so I said that it was okay and we could do it another day. She then asked if we could just text, and I said we could about casual stuff, but I'd still prefer to call her about the other stuff. Then she was like, "just tell me, [my name]." And I, again, replied that it was too long and too hard to explain over text, that we didn't have to do it tonight, and that I was fine if she didn't feel like talking right now. Then I added that I wasn't trying to frustrate her with this, so please don't be. She didn't reply back, and I left it alone.
Honestly, I didn't want to cave on this because I thought it was unfair of her not to give me the same chance to talk that I gave her when she wanted to. And I really don't think "serious" conversations are something you should have over text, but I wasn't going to argue at that time. When she's been in a bad mood before, she just needs to be left alone to work through it.
I thought it came off kind of selfish of her, though - what do you think?
Anyway, I texted her yesterday afternoon and asked if I could call her last night, that there were some things (not bad things) that I had wanted to say to her. She said okay. I called last night, and it went to voice mail, so I texted her, asking if it was still okay if I called. She replied a few minutes later that she didn't feel like talking right now. She's been like that before when she's in a "mood," and I don't force it, so I said that it was okay and we could do it another day. She then asked if we could just text, and I said we could about casual stuff, but I'd still prefer to call her about the other stuff. Then she was like, "just tell me, [my name]." And I, again, replied that it was too long and too hard to explain over text, that we didn't have to do it tonight, and that I was fine if she didn't feel like talking right now. Then I added that I wasn't trying to frustrate her with this, so please don't be. She didn't reply back, and I left it alone.
Honestly, I didn't want to cave on this because I thought it was unfair of her not to give me the same chance to talk that I gave her when she wanted to. And I really don't think "serious" conversations are something you should have over text, but I wasn't going to argue at that time. When she's been in a bad mood before, she just needs to be left alone to work through it.
I thought it came off kind of selfish of her, though - what do you think?
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