What reason would hurt you the most if someone were to break up with you?

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

In this case I'm not talking about ghosting or you breaking up with them. I am curious what reason would hurt the most if they left you. Maybe it has something to do with your personality? Maybe they found someone new?

So how about you? What would be the most crushing thing to hear in that case?

[Bricealan]

@Ez-Bri-Z_v2 Not easy to answer, because if you are in a relationship with someone, they, as well as you, must like everything about each other, your/her appearance, your/her personality and habits, etc.

I have been 'left' by a wife and a lover because we did not have enough sex? In both of those cases, my lack of interest was in response to THEIR lack of 'real passion' with regard to our supposed sex life.

My wife left me for another man, and I suspect the other love interest did for the same reason. The divorce was painful, but the other break up was a 'relief' on my part.

I was most hurt by the divorce, simply because of her leaving.

[Zack-Bann]

Definitely cheating or wanting someone else but choosing to end the relationship first.


Feeling discardable and not worthy of any consideration is probably the worst feeling in my mind.


If it’s something I did, at least I could raise my hand and say “mea culpa” and take the consequences.


But doing everything right and STILL losing to someone else who wasn’t even here when it was just us two is crushing

[Phunk_Fenomenon]

The reason that would probably hit me the hardest is:

“You’re boring.”

Not because I think being calm, peaceful, or low-drama is a bad thing. I actually think that’s a strength. But I’ve heard versions of that before, and it sticks with you if you happen to be one of those people who see it as a strength.

A lot of people nowadays confuse chaos with chemistry. They think danger, status, emotional highs, and constant tension mean there’s a real spark; not knowing is just a temporary dopamine high. So when a man is steady, calm, and not trying to turn everything into a movie scene, they read that as boring.

I used to be too naive about showing interest in women whose values clearly didn’t line up with mine. I’d try to prove myself to people who were never really looking for what I had to offer in the first place.

These days, I’d rather get rejected early than waste my time trying to impress someone who needs drama to feel attracted.

Peace might look boring to the wrong person.

But to the right one, it looks like stability.

[Tomislav7]

@Phunk_Fenomenon boring means dull lacking interests and personality. If you ain't Hot you need other qualities

[Phunk_Fenomenon]

@Tomislav7 not saying I disagree with you 100% but according to the women (if we can call them that) that I've crossed path with, being boring means you refuse to be their Khal Drogo in public and their walking credit card whenever they need you to be

[Tomislav7]

Our experience with women is different. Im boring and not one has cared to be a friend let alone a lover

[Lesbologist]

One chick left me like that, and then tried to stay with me. That hurt. Come to find out he fucked like 3 other chicks the same night he fucked her... I'm jumping ahead...

My chick thought this guy was the mother fucking shit and was in love with her.. turns out he was a 5'6" midget in platform shoes, buff because steroids, had nothing to offer her, and was just on a spree of fucking as many women as he could.

That's why it hurt... cheated on me for that? Obviously she knew she fucked up and begged me to stay, and because of the situation I had to stay for like 2 more years. I hated that woman after that. I was for the first time faithful and putting a lot of effort in... that's the result I got...

Over the two years it just got worse... the guy was around us, he shrunk because steroids don't last forever and it wasn't mainly him that pissed me off, it was her. She lied so fucking much around the topic. Like tried to claim he raped her until I was going to get the law involved type of lies... one of her friends told me the truth... she was agreeing to be friends with benefits's out in the open in front of a lot of people. I go outside and all those people point and start talking. I got buff as fuck as a result, so... I did get revenge cheating in there. Not really cheating because I'd just do it in front of her face and advertise it... she would green light a lot of it because she said she deserved it.

Cheaters make a committed relationship a shit show. I don't want to write a book, but it's way deeper than just that... it was causing problems long before everything I just said. One of those chicks that justifies flirting... because she thinks she can control it. All it did was fuck with me, and my mind. Pretty much why I'm so fucked up in thinking now... at least according to some users here on G@G...

[lightbulb27]

Well, if she died or became lost and I could have prevented it, that would hurt the most.

I know I'm not in full control, but I like to be relevant, to know I'm thinking and doing God's work, as love, as protector. If I had a chance to save her and I blew it, that is the hardest to deal with. It's regrets which weigh hard for me.

So I aim to live so that do not to have regrets (going backwards to make change that is... difficult). Regrets are bad energy only addressed by going forward.

In my view of things, God, that is via Christ, ensures our security. Security is the fundamental issue troubling humanity, and Christ addressed this issue, so can live fully in the moment, which is what I have.

[PeachyPie93]

I think them leaving me for someone else.. Main reason is I have abandonment issues but also cuz even when I didn't really like my ex anymore it was waaaay more ego bruising because he replaced me straight away and seeing him treat her better than he ever did me.
It took me about 10 months to get over it since it made me feel like I wasn't good enough and he old me I was a 6 but I got over it because really he was never my person. He wasn't a cuddly person, games always come first, and things always have to be his way. So I doubt he could ever actually change his shitty personality in the long run, his old self will come out soon enough and that slut can have him lol.

[MrChinaski]

I don't think it's so much the reason. It hurts when someone is seriously deeply close to you. Someone who doesn't know you well... meh, whatever. But it's hard to shrug off rejection from someone who knows you almost as well as you know yourself.

[TonyMetal___86]

Finding someone new, because this ain't a reason to dump someone at all and it shows that this person was a liar all the time while they were with you!

I hate such people and i hope that i don't have someone like that in my life because i might end up beating the sh*t out of them!

[queenofcardio]

I’m not sure what would hurt the most, but personal attacks on my character and personality can be painful. When someone tries to diminish who you are, it can hurt

[NathanDavis]

maybe if they cheat with your best friends, family?

you know... if you lose two in one swing? something like that? lol

[Nikki1989]

I can't think of anything that would be that bad. Life always has to go on.

[Kelley1]

He only dated me because I was a pretty virgin, just another notch in his belt before moving on to the next pretty young thing.

[Agape93]

If it was because I was worthless, and only one person can do that to me

[exitseven]

if she told me that she could not deal with my moodienss.

[msc545]

I think if they thought I was terrible in bed, or I wasn't good-looking enough, those would be hurtful reasons. Luckily, that's never happened.

[fish5505_87]

If they said they never loved me, and i thought they meant it.

[Thesecretlollipop]

My appearance or them preferring someone else's appearance

[Diddyday]

Just to give up on the things we had together

[Godihateyou]

None. I've never been bothered at all. Their reason is just as useless as they were. Good riddance to bad trash.

[Marissa4]

Thinking we were going good. But then it sudden.

[Jen_oic]

I’m not in a relationship so I’m not sure

[Khyabaldwin06]

Cheating for sure