Why does my ex keep using me for support after all I sacrificed?

[tempirl2012]

I thought my ex man left the woman that he got pregnant on me, alone. Turns out, she's online saying he came by her house to see their kid. I'm so mad. I told him not to talk to her anymore.. he drove to her. Smh in my car. AGAIN! And no, we're not together. Im the an old girlfriend. He has a new girlfriend. I'm just the one who helps him with his house, bills etc. And yes, he didn't help me with my house. I lost mine 4 months ago.. Why does he keep on playing with me? I sold my house, my car just so he could keep his house. This is thanks I get...

[kitty_404]

Girl, have some self-respect. He cheated on you. That should've been enough reason to cut him off completely. Instead, you're paying his bills, helping him keep his house, and sacrificing your own financial security for someone who has repeatedly shown you where you stand.

Ask yourself: are you his ex or his mother? Because this isn't what an ex does. He's benefiting from your kindness while giving you nothing in return. Whether he visits his child's mother or dates someone else isn't even the biggest issue anymore—the issue is that you're still letting him use you.

Never put yourself in financial trouble for someone who has already betrayed you. If you keep helping him, he'll only become more dependent on you because there's no reason for him to stop taking what you're willing to give.

Cut him off completely. The only reasons people usually stay in situations like this are either they're still emotionally attached or they don't believe they deserve better. Either way, continuing this is only hurting you, not him.

[midnightmoon05]

When are you planning to cut all ties and block him? So that you can work on rebuilding your self worth.
if not… you will ask the same question in the next few months…

stop doing things for a stranger.

Why should he stop getting free things?

[HollyK21]

It’s either a vicious cycle or potentially trolling😩 she never listens and just comes right back every month with more madness. SMH.

[midnightmoon05]

@HollyK21 we have encountered multiple girls since we joined gah. Me - 2012. My hubby joined 2016.
We actually talked to some like her… we also met one after talking for over 7 years. 3-4 bfs in between…
We met her finally after she is now with a boyfriend.
But these girls has server low self worth… many are also very pretty 😂

It’s easy for us to spot one nowadays.

By the way… I like your personality 😊

[HollyK21]

It feels like a rarity to meet anyone on here that’s been around as long as I have lol, that sounds crazy though! Also thank you, your personality seems cool as well! I’m going to shoot you a follow, the OG users are some of my faves, love running into you guys lol

[ohsheeT]

Because you allow him to you need to stop doing what your doing and get and stay away from him

If you don't he's going to take everything you have

And then when you have nothing he will kick you to the curb and not look back

He's not using you for support he's using you for everything you have because you are allowing him to

You still like him and you think by being nice to him you're going to get back with him it's not going to happen you can say you don't like him I guarantee you do in your subconscious you are being so used and so taking advantage of he's not even your friend because a friend would not do what he's doing a friend would not take money from you would not borrow your car would not have you pay bills his bills he's using you and you are allowing him to and you're going to have nobody to blame except for yourself when you have nothing

[Finchie40]

Because you made dumb decisions by continuing to help him , when he was clearly your ex , . So by you still being there for him , you dug your own grave by doing so. Why would you lose your house and car to support his sorry ass? He clearly took advantage of you and you allowed it to happen , so the only person you can blame is yourself for being so clueless and dumb. An ex is an ex for a reason , exempt them from your life period

[TonyMetal___1986]

He's a bad person and using you just for his own benefits, you shouldn't have any contacts with such a toxic person!

I blame you because you kept talking to him and believing what he says, especially that he's a cheater!

[Calyptomaniac]

Not sure why you are still doing all these things for him when he is your ex, but at least take this as a sign to stop and cit your losses and learn your lesson?

[choco-latte]

You really need to cut him out of your life. Focus on yourself and your own life, not your ex.

[DonaldDarko]

Why do you keep playing with him? Isn't it obvious he's not only worthless but harmful? How do you not see this?

[Nikki1989]

I can't add anymore to what has already been said.

[sawno]

Why do you keep doing all this stuff for him? He's your ex.

[Anonymous]

I think you’re trolling. Probably a guy exaggerating what he perceives as a woman playing the victim role.

[whosnumber_1]

You are playing the fool. If you keep letting him treat you like a toilet then shame on you

[LiamS95]

You have to get rid of this man and cut all ties fnancially, physically and everyway you can

[In_Trance]

Stop interacting with your ex ffs
Do you not know how to break up?

[Staximus]

Are you stupid or something

[Alexson_stormzy]

Your desperacy is transparent and accessible

[canamlusciouslad73]

He's a user.