Why do I still want my ex after he treated me poorly and divorced me?

[Anonymous]

I have been with my ex husband for 5 years married, 10 years together. We share a 2 year old. He divorced me 5 months ago because he fell out of love with me and said we grew apart. But claims that I nag and question everything which I do. He cheated on me before we got married and use to constantly call me a whore or other names while we married if we ever argued. He laid his hands on me before. He was always looking at other woman. Yes he showed me love but also made me feel like I was walking on egg shells. When he was checked out towards last year of our marriage he was trying to talk to other woman and going to the clubs getting drunk and lyin to me about it. He left me and I feel like it’s my fault and keep beating myself over the fact that I stayed with him even though he did that and he still left me.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I'm guessing in your head you have built up this perfect life, with a perfect family and a perfect history together. Everything about it is perfect. The fact he has walked away from your fantasy doesn't stop you still wanting to live it out. The cold hard fact though is exactly what it is. Fantasy.

Now, the quicker you wake up and realise life is not a fantasy, the quicker you will finally break free from this bubble you have created around you.

I'm sorry to be brutally honest, but you need to hear it if you are to get back to some sort of reality.

[AviatorTom]

Familiarity. You were in a stable situation and liked it. It's difficult to move on and change it. Nit impossible though.

[Anonymous]

Because of trauma bonding. If you want to read about it you can find info through google.

[AnAmazingGuy]

because you have not meet me yet. It's not your fault. its fault of time.

[andreasderjuengere]

Shit happens.
You' ll get over it eventually :)

[jahaims]

Because you are a moron