My ex boyfriend throw a tantrum?

[Anonymous]

I broke up with this guy like 2 months ago after he treated me coldly for a complete month. Now I'm currently in a relationship with a new guy, but my ex boyfriend keep sending me text once in a while, saying how he misses our sex and he wanted it again. He sent this text even before I met this new guy, so at that time I told him if he wants me back we can reconcile but he has to promise to behave nicely this time. He agreed, we reconciled and again he acted all cold. I gave up on him, I let it go and that's how I ended up with this new guy. Recently he got to know that I'm dating this new guy, and he sent me a text saying he wishes me happiness. After few minutes he sent me another text "this guy just be together with you for sex. He completely won't love you" I got upset and confronted him, and he started babbling how he gave me value, but it's just that he refused to be in relationship with anyone right now. I told him that I am so confused with his attitude, he doesn't want to be back together, but he's acting like he owns me? He got upset and said he did that because he loves me and even though he doesn't want to be in relationship with anyone, he still try to protect me. I was like WTF is wrong with this guy? Why can't he just leave me alone? I gave him chances again and again to get back together, once I'm his, he take me for granted and when I walked away, this is how he behaves? Once I told him why did you acted bad last time, if not I won't leave you, we will still be together now and I'm still yours. He said "You're still mine and you will always be, don't go and shackle up with other guys... I'm jealous :'-(" at this point, he really started to sound weird, because we already broke up!? Guys? Care to shed some light on why he's behaving like this? What does he wants actually?

[Zuzuka]

I won't say just guys, but some people don't realize what they have until its gone. I was in a similar situation to the point that its not even funny. It seems like he doesn't want to date you "right now" but wants to keep you on a lease until he feels like he is ready to date again. So while your with this other guy he feels like he doesn't have the control over you anymore and comes back into the picture to cloud your head. He now knows that he just can't comeback when he wants since there's a new guy so he's trying to push his way back into your heart.

Cut him off, because if not he will try to get more and more into your head until he has you. Guys like him don't know how to quit and the more you let him do it, the more riskier he is going to get. Say if you took him back, he would just get comfortable again and not try anymore because he has you. Selfish people like him only want to work hard to get you, but could careless after they have you.

Block his number, he has some serious control issues something you are better off without.

[Asker]

I deleted him from my FB and his number too, when he knew it he got mad and was acting like a drama king! I wish I could give him a kick!

[QueenBeatris]

he wants to control u,you said it is over because he treated you badly but he doesn't believe you and continues to control you..it is not love,it is control...you decide if you should move on and stop contact or continue allowing him to treat you badly even after ending things with him,he doesn't take you seriously so you must like how he treats you,if you didn't you would have cut his ass off along time ago.He knows nothing about your new boyfriend but acts like he knows the guys intentions with u,even if this new guy turns out to be another ass,you are smart enough to leave and stay gone..like you should be doing with the douche bag ex who doesn't want you ,he wants sex.

[Stacyzee]

I'm not sure if your ex boyfriend actually wants to be with you. From what you mentioned here, it seems to me like he cares more about to sex you are giving to someone else and not to him anymore.

If you want all of this to stop, it's best to cut ties with him. He is trying to get in the way of you and your happiness. When he speaks about how men will only want to use you, he is describing himself. He only wants you for sex (which is why he mostly mentions it). Notice, he is not speaking of the great times you two mentally shared, but only the physical times.

He cannot handle you giving your body to someone else, and only wants you for those reasons.

[martyfellow]

So many guys think they own a woman, even after a break-up. This happens across many cultures, as you know.

He can't accept that you're with someone else, regardless of how he treated you. He can't face his own shortcomings, the coldness you mentioned, which is normal for men who treat women as their property or their empire.

Well, the days of the khans, they are gone!

[martyfellow]

Best Answer, right?

[loda1994]

imao he can't find girls easily. he wanted you just for sex. and he's a jerk and stupid.

like who's sane man would tell his exgf I miss our sex. yeah he probably does but he should have said I miss you and I love you. I wish you'd be mine again.

I think you will be better steering away from him, he could be dangerous especially if he gets drunk.

[Asker]

He can find girls easily, he's tall 188cm, and he's good looking. Trust me one of the reason I left him was because I thought he had another girl, but he kept on denying it.

[loda1994]

any way he might not be that great of approaching girls. plus I feel he's obsessed and dangerous. may be that's just me

[Asker]

I think he has no problem in approaching girls, but yes I think you're right about the part being obsessed. He admitted himself that he's a really jealous person. But that's supposed to be when I'm his girl, not when I'm not his girl anymore?

[loda1994]

honestly if I were you I'd tell someone about that. you don't know he might make the wrong move. plus he seems to be in it just for sex.

[Asker]

Yes, I already told my current boyfriend about this guy, and my current boyfriend he's working in an elite police team, he said he will talk to this guy later when I am nearby him. :(

[loda1994]

well that should be fine then.

[kangaru]

agree

[abundantlyrich]

Time for you as a female to step up on your podium and tell him nicely that it is genuinely over between both of you and that you don't have feelings for him anymore (assume you don't? :)). I know it won't be easy as there is still some emotional bond left and you have to trying and stop responding to him so he knows he cannot try to mess with your head. Take control of the situation. Some guys find it hard to let go. Good luck.

[Asker]

He knew I still have feelings for him, that's why he's messing with my head, but my new boyfriend is working in an elite police team, and I'm making him call this stupid guy to stop whatever he's doing :)

[abundantlyrich]

Ok so you have things to work out too in letting him go. Well give him a nice chat first. If he is still aggressive. Then that's when your new dude should step in. I'm just saying this in case your ex does something really bad and isn't afraid to challenge you or him. People are unpredictable sometimes.

[Asker]

I already nice talked him since when he started to give me a cold shoulder treatment, and after we broke up, he came back and I even accepted him back, and nice talk him. Then when still didn't changed, I walked away, and now when he's talking like this to me, I still nice talk him. I think I gave him enough chances already... It's just that I don't know and couldn't understand what he want, he seems like he want to own me or something. When I 1st broke up with him, he thought I was with someone

[Asker]

And there he goes, making the same comment, like this guy is being with you only for sex, he won't love you. He basically said that about everyone except himself!? He just keep claiming he's protecting me, but apparently he's the one who seems like coming back into my life just for sex?

[abundantlyrich]

G00d for you. Hope all goes well for you.

[Anonymous]

hes a guy, he misses the sex. He even said so. You took him back and he still treated you bad. In my opinion, he's only wanting sex my friend.

[Asker]

I already thought so too, I said that to his face so many times and he kept denying it, actually we never even had sex yet! All we did was dry humping and I gave him a BJ, and he said it doesn't matter it's still wonderful to him. Actually all my ex is trying to come back for the same reason? My current boyfriend said, if you could sex this well, I don't need to go to other girl? Maybe that's why he's desperate now?

[Anonymous]

You shouldn't care about what he says. If you find a new guy, settle with that guy. Don't be shackled by your ex's chains.

[Anonymous]

You should block guys number.he is selfish and a jerk

[Anonymous]

He's just having a hard time letting go