My ex still wants to know all about my life, does that mean anything?

[Anonymous]

So my ex and I broke up about 3 or 4 months ago and it was a really hard thing for me. He broke up with me saying he didn't have feelings anymore and tried to help me through the through it. Having him in my life while trying to get over him was just too difficult so I told him I needed to have some distance from him. He understood and I cut off contact with him for a month. After a couple weeks I started getting emails from him asking about how I was doing and such they became more frequent so after 4 weeks I invited him over. (before this he had invited me to over to his place a couple times).

We ended up sleeping together, I told him that I didn't want anything casual and he said he couldn't give me a commitment. I have been sleeping with him for the past 2 months because it is so hard to resist him. He treated me like we were back together and said he wasn't interested in dating anyone else but in his eyes we were not back together. I didn't want to settle for this non-relationship so I told him last week it was over.

I have been writing exams for the past two weeks and he knows my exam schedule. Whenever I have an exam he writes me a message to see how I did. He has also been writing other messages to see how I am and also writing to me saying he needs me to send him something and then trying to talk to me after (he has stuff for uni on my pc and I can't ignore him when he needs something).

Why is he still interested in my life and how I am doing if he doesn't want a relationship?

[Kickrockslosers]

Kick that Loser to the curb! To the left with him, I say! He doesn't want you back, he just wants to see if he could have you back. There's a distinct difference.

You are smart enough to know that you needed to cut off contact with this guy. It's like opening a fresh wound every time you hear from him. What ever is on your computer from your uni you can get a flash drive and save it on the flash for him. To the left I say, to the left! He's useless and a time waster. How will you be able to meet a new guy, if you have this loser hanging around. He knows that it's difficult for you to get over him as long as he's in your life...um, that's why he's there.

Both of you should move on. You are taking yourself through unecessary drama. Also, he probably just wants to 'hit it' again. Tell him to Kick Rocks! To the left!

KRL

[Anonymous]

You need to cut all contact off with him for good. He is still trying to get all the benefits of being your boyfriend without actually having the label and that is not fair for you...If you can't resist him then don't put yourself in that situation that you might have to try to resist him... in other words stop talking to him and stop seeing him outside of where you have to... If he doesn't have feelings for you then why isn't he interested in being with someone else? He is telling you what you want to hear because he still wants to have you on the side in case he ever needs you. You need to cut that string. No talking No sex... etc... I am not trying to be rude so please don't take it that way I am just telling you from my point of view what it sounds like to me.

[BBGyrl]

Seems like he wants the relations without the relationship. What I would do is burn the stuff of his on the computer and give it to him so that he can't bother you for it anymore and tell him that you need him to stop communicating with you. If you do want to be able to have a friendship with him then tell him that when you're ready that you'll get in contact with him but until then he needs to respect you and chill out for a while. It's not right for him to lead you on like that, you deserve better then that. You were right to end it just make sure that you keep to your word.

[MaxPrime]

ok I didn't read your paragraph at all but only the initial question.

The key with you girls (this question comes up a lot on this site) is that whatever he is doing NOW, isn't what he was doing THEN (when you were dating) so DON'T get back with him because you THINK he wants you back. If he wanted you, pleased you, made you feel special enough in the FIRST place then you guys wouldn't have broken up. So ya he wants you back but it's USUALLY not because he LOVES you. He just wants the FEELING of having a girlfriend. Good luck babe.