He suddenly removed me from Instagram after we stopped talking—should I ask why?

[Datssi]

[HollyK21]

I personally would not. I’m not sure what the state of your relationship (this can include friendship) with him was when you stopped talking, but he clearly only wants people on his social media that he does speak with. I personally am not that petty, and unless a relationship ends on bad terms then I don’t care if they view my socials. However I know there’s plenty of people who put a lot of emphasis behind social media “etiquette” and don’t want you getting regular updates rather online rather than communicating directly.

[Datssi]

He has a lot of girls on instagram I mean there are a lot of girls he doesn’t talk to that he keeps on Snapchat and Instagram. He ended everything because I wanted serious relationship and he didn’t, and I accepted this , I never reached out him again, I took a step back the only thong I did was I leaved his private story multiple times because he kept adding me there. He never unfollowed me first, or he just unfollowed and left me as a follower. This time he deleted me everywhere.

[HollyK21]

Taking this context into consideration, I get the impression that he unfollowed you just to draw the line in the sand. You two haven’t been talking, and on top of that you keep leaving his private stories whenever he adds you. In my opinion, you were sending a pretty firm message of “leave me alone”, so now he’s putting that finalization in place.

In any case, I would still advise you not reach back out to him. Why? Because there’s nothing for you there. This is not a friendship worth fighting for, but instead a failed situationship that you seem to wanna leave the door cracked for it to spark up again. Sometimes when a situation needs to be finished, it takes one person being stronger than to other to finally shut that door for good, and in this case it had to be him.

[Datssi]

Maybe you are right, but I was shocked because we have talked about this and he said that he is okay with us following each other on instagram. I know that for him following someone doesn’t mean anything. Maybe he just wanted to do this for me to stop thinking about a comeback anytime.

[Datssi]

by the way I really appreciate that you are giving me answers I don’t have anyone to talk about this and you really helped me today. Thank you 🤍

[HollyK21]

No problem at all love, I’m just glad I can help🫶. With this guy, I’m not sure if his decision to delete you was based off him being dishonest (saying he was fine with staying added on instagram), or if he was bothered by you leaving his private story repeatedly (which also makes sense). But in either case, I would just let him go. Keeping him added on social media was just the last cord keeping you attached to a man who you know you’re better off without. Who knows, maybe you were subconsciously hoping for things to change between you one day and remaining friends sorta keeps that hope alive, but you deserve someone who knows they want you today, right now. Without having to have some sort of epiphany or realize it weeks, months, even years down the line. You can do a lot better, and this man is not a loss.

[Datssi]

From what I know about him, I think it has something to do with the private story because he’s a bit childish. Deep down, I actually thought that maybe one day we could try again, and I think he kept me on Instagram so he could see the photos I posted.
I don’t know… he keeps all kinds of girls on Instagram, and I’ve never seen him remove someone himself—usually the girls are the ones who remove him. So maybe I’m the first exception, haha. That’s why I was so surprised, because he’s the type of person who can keep you on Instagram for years without ever messaging you

[bear34]

He doesn't want to see you, he doesn't want you to see him. In short, he doesn't want you at all. You don't need to ask. Just keep living your life.

[loveslongnails]

Seriously? I mean, really? He's done with you. He's moved on. So should you.

[Nahid1707]

You should move on and not chase.

[wkhan_87]

Yes you should ask

[In_Trance]

What for?