What is the psychology behind blocking someone after a breakup?

[Anonymous]

I just broke up with my boyfriend. It was basically a horrifying relationship with a lunatic. Upon breakup, I told him all the things that were wrong with him, things that I never had the guts to tell him during the relationship. All the evidence of why he was crazy, why he was so difficult to deal with, examples of all the times when he been disrespectful- which I never mentioned to him.

Suddenly, he started insulting me and ended up blocking me. Acted as if I were the ultimate problem in the relationship. I didn't get an apology or compassion but rather anger, insults and a block.

If I found out I was being disrespectful toward a lover, I would feel so incredibly bad and apologetic.

[Orion84]

Emotions tend to run pretty high after a breakup, and people are usually a little raw and vulnerable during that process.

Adding additional criticism into the mix is not usually going to be well received by the person that just got dumped. It's kind of like rubbing salt in the wound, and just makes a difficult time feel that much worse.

You dumped him, and then basically listed all the reasons why he sucks. Did you expect him to say, "Thank you, I will take this contructive criticism to heart, and use it to better myself in the future?". Of course he's not going to do that.

He probably felt like you were attacking him, and kicking him while he's down. It's no surprise that he blocked you. He wanted to stop what he perceived as personal attacks so that he can start healing.

Everything you said to him was probably completely valid; I'm not saying it wasn't, but a person is not going to be that receptive to criticism from someone who just dumped them.

[In_Trance]

I think blocking should be a standard practice after a breakup.
Why does either party need any type of insight into the other's life?

[Nikki1989]

Well, if they can be that immature after a break-up, imagine what they must have been like while dating.

[Anonymous]

It maybe was best for you both to cool down a little before the argument got worse.

[dudeinohio]

You block someone to permanently cease communication and move on.