Was his effort the problem, or do women really love conditionally?

[Anonymous]

This guy and me has been speaking for 3 months without meeting, calls still we connected and we still liked each other and I always had to beg him to meet he'd say things like I'll plan.. I'll plan but he did not. So I ended things 4 days ago and whenever we used to go no contact I used to contact him. He never did first. Now i see his like on mastering women is the reason why we cannot give 100 percent their love is condional once u accept it that their feelings can change anytime is when you'll understand u can still love her but not need her. I was like BOY.. i never asked for smth fancy i just needed u to make time for me and u think i need smth return from you like u can do anything go out, play games but u cannot plan a meetup? And u say that u like me a lot? Like hellooo sir!!! Not even fancy restraunt just sit spend sm time and leave. What u guys think

[HollyK21]

I’d say your willingness to deal with such nonsense at all, let alone within only 3 months, is what the biggest problem was. You liked him more, and it shows with how you accommodated excuse after excuse rather than cutting that off after like the second time. You’ve got to get better about walking away when you see red flags rather than rationalizing and excusing them simply because you’re really crushing on the guy (because it is not unconditional love in such a short time).

[Nikki1989]

He wasted your time, but you brought that on yourself. 3 months? I would have been well and truly done in 3 weeks.

[Chayce]

I've been that guy ngl. He probably feels since he already has you there's no point to really go all out and try so hard. Also, I personally feel weird bout commitment.

[Malwi93]

wum? whats weird about it?

[Chayce]

@Malwi93 Nothing is wrong with it per se, just that the woman I commit to has to be extraordinary. I'm looking to build with someone who is equally as ambitious as me if that's what happens. If not, I'll just sleep with women with no strings attached and no emotions involved. Or be friends too. That's cool too.

[Anonymous]

He is just making excuses to blame women instead of himself

[Asker]

Yeah its annoying

[Abbycado]

Nothing is unconditional

[jahaims]

Real life isn't a movie