Is she considered not his actual choice?

So my friend has 4 kids and she was messing around with a married man. She knew who he was married to and didn’t care. He always told her “my friend you are first because I will never put my wife second or first to a hoe” he said to her that his wife is his second choice because she’s still his first and that’s something my friend would never be in his life

Is she considered not his actual choice?
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