Please don’t be mean. Why did he chose her?

[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriend were together almost 3 years. During the last year this other girl became a real problem. He started played on a coed team during covid. That’s where he met her. We fought about it a lot. Whenever We try and work on things I find messages from her saying how she missed spending time with her. And somehow he always started things back up with her. She knew about me the whole time and was still doing this. I’m sure he told her we broke up or weren’t doing good but still if he bacante distant with her why wouldn’t she let it be. We got into a huge right the last time I saw messages. Because over the holiday Thanksgiving and Christmas we decided to put it all behind us and make it work. And there she was okay texting “why are you ignoring me”. She always seems so nice and I guess seemed like a better option bc at this point I was pretty angry. Then at our last huge fight people I live with said they don’t want him here anymore. He went completely cold and has been spending time with her. He totally distant n cold with me. I just don’t understand if he can be like this with me why wasn’t he this way with her in the beginning. I know my anger pushed him away but I had a reason to be really upset.

[Pyrofox]

Guys go where they are wanted. The ugly reality is ya gave him permission to leave and the added fact your pointing your anger at him. Only made him feel like you needed time alone. And that the relationship was doing nothing good. So he scrammed.

I've found over time women have been more and more inclined to give men the easy go when relationships go wrong and then act surprised they found someone else. Despite the fact there's about 3 to 1 ratio of women to men its no longer women who are the ones that pick and choose but its the men who are the ones now a days who really decide if a relationship floats or sinks as hard as the Titanic.

[Danny_dan92]

Fuck your dude for being a scumbag piece of shit


And fuck that girl for being a home wrecker.


Drop this two timing fuck, before things get more serious

[melnc]

Are you still together?

[Asker]

I ended it bc I kept catching him cheating with the same girl. I know he doesn’t love me anymore bc he wouldn’t act this way otherwise. But it hurts so much.

[melnc]

Yeah, especially when you see someone else take your place, I know. So, instead of looking for answers to what happened, take the time to put this kind of pain into perspective and just move on. Try not to feel embarrassed or to worry about how the situation will look to others. Don't worry, there’s nothing wrong with you. Try not to take it personally because relationship breakups happen all the time.