I don’t love my boyfriend, but I’m still with him. How do I break up with him?

[Anonymous]

He’s clearly in love with me, and I really don’t want to hurt him, but I’ve never loved him from the beginning. There’s always been someone else on my mind. Please help me

[Laws-Of-Existence]

Do not follow nikocado's advice about "feelings changed".

Instead admit that it was fake all along, nothing changed. So that he doesn't get trust issues, expecting real feelings to change for no reason. ㅤ

[Asker]

Don’t be ridiculous. He’s madly in love with me. If I said that to him, he’d hate me and might even fall into depression. I don’t want him to lose his will to live.

[melnc]

There's no easy way outta this without hurting him and pushing him away.
You shouldn't have done that in the first place. If he pulled the same crap on you, you wouldn't be okay with it either.
You really messed things up bad.

[Abbycado]

You just tell him feelings have changed and it is not working for you.

[Asker]

Yeah, I think that’s probably what I’m going to do. I just feel really guilty because I know I’m going to hurt him.

[Abbycado]

There are few good ways to break up, unfortunately.

[Nikki1989]

Like ripping off a band-aid. You don't need to say much.

[Alex-Snow]

Let him down gently. Let him know that you appreciate his feelings toward you and that he is a good person but you do not see the relationship going anywhere. Do it IRL not via text. Is he near your age? Are you sexually involved with him?

[Asker]

Yeah, he’s around my age. And yes, we are sexually involved. I know I need to talk to him in person, I just feel really bad because I know he genuinely cares about me.

[Alex-Snow]

Well since you have experienced some intimacy with him and shared some fun orgasms together I'm sure it might be a challenge. But you do need to talk to him , let him down gently but also stand your ground in case he starts to guilt you out. Why do you want to break up with him? How old is he? Message me if you want to chat about it.

[Asker]

Because I don’t love him. We’re both 20, and there’s someone I still haven’t been able to get over. I know I’m in the wrong, I just don’t want to hurt him.

[Alex-Snow]

Well he will be hurt. No one likes to be dumped. But reassure him that he has a lot going for him and the right girl will be lucky to have him. But it will suck for him for a while and I'm sure he will miss the sex and have to resort to just solo sex for a while.

[MountainMetal]

Humans are resilient, he can survive the breakup and so can you. You can feel sad for hurting him but he is an adult, that means his feelings are his responsibility not yours

[NathanDavis]

nicely and honestly

all break ups hurt... lol

[Pterodon]

You need to end this now. It isn’t fair to him. He’ll be hurt no matter what you do or say but you have to be honest to yourself

[queenofcardio]

Be direct and honest

[Anonymous]

How long has this person been in your mind

[Opinion Owner]

Why did you get into a relationship when u never loved them? How long has this relationship going on for

[Asker]

I got with him to try to get over someone else. I know it’s a shitty thing to do, but I just wanted to see if it would help.

[Opinion Owner]

Why is this person on your mind? Just forget them?

[Opinion Owner]

Sexually involved are you serious?

[Asker]

I can’t. I’ve tried, but I just can’t get over him. That’s why I even got intimate with someone else, and I still couldn’t forget the person before him. I know it’s a terrible thing, but I don’t want to hurt my current boyfriend either. I’m going to do everything I can to make him lose interest in me. I won’t give him much attention, and honestly, if he cheats on me, I really won’t care.

[Opinion Owner]

Why are u obsessed over the previous guy? Do you really think he will accept u after u got physical with someone else

[Asker]

lol, ignorant as hell. such a caveman, straight out of the middle east

[Opinion Owner]

Excuse me