Why did my ex block me after four years of mixed signals?

[Anonymous]

We’ve had 4 years relationship, the break up happened because we had different cultures and religions. I’m also out of her league, but I don’t care about looks, we were so compatible with each other personality wise. After trashing me 3 times in the 4th year, I step away and gave her what she wanted. She seemed confused too, at times she wanted me and at times she would cry and blame all her problems on me. The 3rd time she trashed me a year ago I went completely silent. No more good mornings, sweet dreams or anything. I texted her on her birthday and she did the same. Over the year she has texted me multiple times for help with her car, electronics etc. just a month ago she complemented my dish cuz I own a restaurant and introduced something new on instagram. She wanted to try it and wanted to stop by. She sent hearts after the bday messages and when I was helping her with her car issues. At the breakup she wanted to be friends but I didn’t want to, but I initiated the talks again after her birthday couple of months after that final fight. I thought we were friends but turns out right after hearting my bday messages and wanting to meet up she blocked me on instagram. I could see she still had my number saved cuz I could see her status and picture on WhatsApp. I messaged her hey how are you, she checked the messages and 2 hours later I was blocked.
I wouldn’t mind if she gave me a reason either getting over me or new partner, I find this extremely annoying and reset my healing. The fact that there was no reason given.

[HollyK21]

Honestly, she doesn't owe you an explanation or a permanent spot on her friend list after a breakup. It's normal for someone to eventually decide they need a clean break to actually move on, especially if they've been stuck in an on/off dynamic for a year. People are allowed to change their minds about staying in touch without having to give a formal reason to their ex.

Also, throwing in that you're "out of her league" while claiming you don't care about looks comes across pretty arrogant. It sounds less like you're genuinely hurt about losing a friend and more like your ego is bruised because she finally pulled the plug and cut off your access to her. Let her move on in peace and focus on your own healing instead of keeping tabs on her WhatsApp.

[Asker]

I think it was deliberate, she waited 2 weeks until I contacted her on whatsapp, saw my messages and blocked me. If she wanted to move on, why do you have my number still saved and waiting to block me on whatsapp.

[HollyK21]

I think you’re reading way too much into a simple oversight. Most people don't go through their contacts with a fine-toothed comb to delete every ex's number after a breakup — they just leave it there and forget about it until a message pops up.

She blocked you on Instagram when she decided to move on, and she simply didn't think about WhatsApp until your text reminded her she hadn't blocked you there yet. It wasn't some calculated trap waiting for you to reach out. She was just finishing the clean break once you popped back up on her screen.

[Nikki1989]

She doesn't have to explain anything.

[Anonymous]

Only she knows unfortunately. The timing sounds bizarre though.

[Anonymous]

What do u mean out of her league? If she was beneath u why did u like her

[slatyb]

Why do you care? Move on.

[In_Trance]

Stop paying attention to your ex

[MrChinaski]

Move on.