Unexplained hickey? Please help!

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend, whom I've been with for three years, has something that looks like a hickey on his neck. I spotted it when he picked me up from work on his day off, I was frustrated about my horrible day at work, and asked him what it was, he said he didn't know, making me more frustrated I asked how he possibly couldn't know what it was! He said it might have been from the gym, like a rope burn or scratch from some rope machine. I didn't know whether to believe him or not but he started getting really mad, shouting at me and saying I make something out of nothing, and that I have trust issues. Now I'm not the insecure kind of girl it's just with him there has been issues in the past with other women that he has lied to me about, never cheating but meeting up with ex's and such. That hasn't been an issue for a while but another thing that strikes me odd is I have a best friend, he's a guy, and he's only been my best friend for maybe 12 months, great guy, listens to everything I say and is always there for me, anyway my boyfriend had a huge issue with him for ages, we used to argue all the time about him because he always thought something was going on. Lately he's been completely fine with him. Doesn't care that I hang out with him as long as I tell him. I've gone through his phone nothing from other girls, he deleted his Facebook. I don't know what to think, is there someone else? Is it a hickey? Any opinions would b great.

[CuddlyCarla]

First of all, none of us can definitively answer your question as we can't see it and speculate. Perhaps he is right, perhaps he isn't. I tend to think his overreaction to your question suggests there may be more to this story, though I also suspect it depends on how you approached it with him - he could either be an honest guy who is upset that you suspect his intentions, or a guilty guy who is getting upset and trying to shift blame onto you for his mistakes. If he's had shady behavior in the past - lying to you about women, meeting up with ex's, deleting his Facebook, etc, the best way to judge behavior is to look to their previous actions and if you've had your doubts about him for some time and now suspect this is a hickey, you should trust your instincts. Unless you have proof that you need to be doubting him than I guess you can't know, but if you are getting tons of warning signs left and right, it may be time to find a new man.

[ShootingStar5]

Given that he's lied to you in the past and considering his extreme reaction when you questioned him, he doesn't sound too trustworthy. Most guys who didn't do anything wrong wouldn't flip out on you for questioning something like that, unless you have a habit to doubt him often when there's not much reason for suspicion. Honestly, I think you'd be better off finding a new boyfriend. If you can't trust him, your relationship will never be healthy.

[kidmichael1]

He's fine with the other guy because he's guilty as hell ! Ever heard the saying "Thou doth protest too much" ? If nothing had happened he wouldn't have a problem talking to you about it.

Major guilt complex.

[dIO_oIb]

I can't tell you what it is since I can't see it.

[plastika]

Go with your gut