Does a one-night stand with an ex girlfriend hold any meaning?

[Anonymous]

I dated my girlfriend for 3 years. 7th – midway through 10th grade. I broke up with her twice (I initiated both). About a year and a half later she got a new boyfriend. They’ve been dating for about a year and a half. I forgot about her for awhile, and had some experiences with some other girls, so I have not been hung up on her since our breakup. We had a one-night stand 6 months ago (First time being back with her since 10th grade), the one night she was single, and broke up with her boyfriend, I was the first one she called, I was unaware that she was still interested in me. We had sex (which we never did when we dated before). It was great, but the next day her boyfriend got mad and they got back together. I still think about her a lot, and have feelings for her. About 3 weeks ago we were texting and my ex said she never meant to bring me into her current relationship and that it was not her intentions. I asked her why we had sex then, and she said because she wanted too, and always has. I said I respect her and her boyfriend, but that I still care for her. She said she feels the feels the same way. What does this mean? Has it been too long for me to still be into my ex, and still be interested and ever being with her again?

Just too add some info, when we met we were 13, dated until about we were about 16, and we had our one night stand 6 months ago, while I was, and am currently 19.

And would reaching out to her and expressing how I feel be too risky and stupid at this point considering she has a boyfriend, or would that come across as weird? I Feel like I should let her know so I can either move on or know how she feels.

Thanks for the help!

[elliesaur]

This seems a little complicated. When you were dating, you were quite young so a various number of reasons could've been the cause of your break up. I'm not a fan of getting back with ex's because it's a waste of time to try and fix a relationship that didn't work in the first place.

In your case though, it seems you didn't actually get the chance to consume that relationship, hence the feelings that got back to you after you two got intimate for the first time. Teenage relationships are different, in a lot of ways incomplete due to both lack of intimacy/ sex and immaturity. Maybe the thought that you could go at it a different way this time, along with the pleasant experience you had recently got you thinking it can work out. And it might, but she's seeing someone else now.

If you think you can make her happier than he can, then tell her, but don't ask her to break up with him for you. Just let her know how you feel and let her figure out what she feels for you and her current boyfriend.

[libidoboost]

in time you'll probably be able to get her back. be patient and stay in touch. hope it all works out.

[scott63a]

She basically used you to comfort her because you are "comfortable" and "Safe" to her. She has obviously become sexually active with this other dude. when things seemed like they weren't working with him, she came running back to you to get the sex she always wanted, but, for what ever reason you guys never engaged in (the right thing considering your age at the time).

The new guy gets her to go back with him, so your left in the dust. She probably does feel bad for getting you involved in her mess. She may still even have feelings for you. Don't be foolish and get in the middle of her drama. Let her figure her sh*t out. If she gets rid of the other dude, permanently, then maybe you guys can see where your feelings are. In the meantime, go find some other girl to spend time with. Don't get sucked into the nonsense of the ex. just have some fun.

[Anonymous]

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[JennieF]

Only if you want it to.