My ex texted me, should I reply?

[Anonymous]

My ex texted me. We didn't end on good terms at all and he really broke my heart, should I text back?

[Dobie_Gillis]

If you don't want to hear from him again, ignore it. If you're looking for some form of closure and expecting him to answer your questions if you text back, well then, you're not completely over him yet. He probably isn't texting you to reopen old wounds, but ask yourself if you really do want to have him in your life again.

[Asker]

i don't want him in my life again, but I must admit it would be pretty satisfying if it turned out he was jealous that I found myself a more caring and affectionate boyfriend.

[7gnat]

If you already seeing someone then don't bother texting him back.

[Asker]

yeah, I'm not interested in restarting things with him, even if that's what he wants (which I doubt) but I do want closure and for him to stop checking up on me. the last time he did it I told him to knock it off and he's done it again and I feel like he's scratching at fresh scabs.

[7gnat]

if you ignore him he will leave you alone. if you reply then it will drag on for much much longer. closure will not be worth the risk of answering back.

[Skygirljenn]

Depends if you want to open that door again? If not, ignore it, he will go away :)

[coolbeans01]

I'd say reply back and see what he wants

[Asker]

what if he says something cruel like "nothing bitch, I told you never to talk to me again"...i'm not sure I can handle more mean words from him.

[Asker]

read below, what I said to 7gnat ...

[coolbeans01]

well he texted you first so for him to text you have you reply and then him reply "i told you not to talk to me again" would be pretty pointless.

He might have realized that he was wrong for dumping you and when you told him you had a new boyfriend he got upset because he might have wanted to fix his mistake. But now he texted you again he might realized that he over reacted and shouldn't have said that

[coolbeans01]

You have a new boyfriend so you should be over your ex even though he hurt your feelings. Just be the bigger person and be nice but also be straight to the point, you can even ask him why he's texting you now after he said he never wanted to hear from you. Put him on the spot. If he is a coward still then he'll probably freak out again and you can now move on with your life

[Asker]

but he knew I had a new boyfriend for weeks, it's why I told him to quit checking up on me and that I was fine. I'm guessing he was drunk because it was St. Patty's Day. I just want that wound to heal and it's not gonna happen if he keeps drunk texting me...it could also make a mess with the current guy I'm with if he finds out that my ex periodically texts.

[coolbeans01]

So then you should just do what is best for you now. Ignore the rest of his texts from here on out.

[7gnat]

When did you break up? Did he cheat on you?

[Asker]

no, he broke up with me because he accused me of cheating on him over Facebook (false) 8 months ago and out of the blue 2 months ago he dumped me citing that reason and said that he never wanted to hear from me again. then a 3 weeks ago he texted me asking how I was and I said I was doing well and that I have a new boyfriend who I was happy with and he replies, good, you won't be hearing from me again, I was happier when we weren't talking, then last night he texts again...what's the deal?!

[Asker]

the guy that he accused me of cheating with is a guy I met once, and did nothing with, a year and a half ago who lives 6000 miles away. and it took my ex 6 months to decide to dump me over it.

[Ugliness]

He's your ex for a REASON. Take the hint.

[Nicefuture]

"Don't" replay,just dont.