It's because it's easier that way. Why would a guy act like everything is "normal"? Moving on is exactly that, moving on. Unless the both of you feel no attraction for each other and no feelings are had by the couple, there is no sense in giving yourself or the other person false hope. Usually when a girl breaks up with a guy, she has already move on. Guys learn the hard way, and most of the time it's the guys that treat girls like they "want to be treated" that get dumped.
If it's the guy that's doing the breaking up, he disappearing does you and him a favor. Think about it. There's no drama, no BS, no leading on or being lead on
Go out and party? Yes, keeping busy and having FUN does many things. It gets the person out of the house, they can meet other people and find potential new mates. Hang out with friends? Yes, as long as the person isn't crying or bitching all the time about their ex. Stay home? Only to rest up unless they person isn't hurt. Ice cold and disappear? Come on, girls do this way more than guys do!
Some break ups are serious, and some are just making excuses to get the freedom to meet other people or to be with the person they really want. Girls do this all the time because they are always chased and many are never satisfied. Talk to an ex? No. Hell no. It's not being bitter cold. That's moving on, and that's the best thing to do. I don't talk to exes because it wouldn't be a real friendship, and I won't lie to myself like that.
I will tell you this much I know.
Guys are likely to crash completely after a break up. Most all break ups I know of amongst friends were initiated by the girl. Guys tend to be content with their relationship, while girls become more and more at unease as the time goes by. Most guys don't see it coming at all.
Then girls usually want to 'stay friends' whatever the f*** that may mean, like I'm going to spend time with a girl I used to go out with only not to have sex and to be able to witness it as she is approached by other guys.
She will state that she 'needs alone time' to 'work on herself' and 'is through with men for now'. 2 weeks later she will be sleeping with some a**hole that when you dated her she swore 'would never go out with such a guy'.
Guys know this and they know it will save a lot of heartache if you simply cut loose all connections and try to never have contact again.
I just experienced a breakup myself 3 weeks ago and honestly I have been more than "cold." Meaning,i have not called,i have not texted,(we live VERY cloose to each other,a 12 Minute walk...and I DON't "accidentally bump" into him in the neighborhood),and lastly,we worked together a week ago.Did I speak to him?NO.Did I put myself around him on purpose?NO. In theory,this person is dead to me.Its part of the survival mode,and I think a lot of it depends on how you end things.If hurtful things are said and done DURING the breakup (meaning one or both parties going out of their way to break the other),then yes...the likely hood of being friendly goes out the door.Hence my behavior...and maybe even your exs.
Part of moving on from someone means going out,partying,living life and enjoying yourself...but mainly getting back in touch with YOURSELF.Sorry to say,but your ex-boy has got the right idea.And I think you should condsider leaving the past in the past,and moving on like he is.Hell...ive been doing that myself instead of sitting around and moping...and I have been able to move on in 3 weeks as opposed to hanging on to something that's OVER.I know it hurts,trust me I do.You want some type of validation from the relationship and it's possible you will not get that...sorry to say.But...if you need to talk,im here.
But not only guys do this like thetheme says...women do it too. :/
Girls can do the same thing. I can't even begin to tell you how many girlfriends of mine have went all out the very next day after a break up. It's not fair to point the finger at guys cause girls do the same thing.
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I can see how most are not interested in being buddy buddy with their Ex right after a break up. Breaking up with someone is saying "You are not for me" That can slight anyone.
Although if you don't like that your Ex has disappeared from your life, maybe you should have kept him as your boyfriend? Seems illogical too assume thing would still be the same.
Because it's natural for guys to hide their emotions. That is what they are doing. I realize not everybody is like this, but I believe that some guys feel they may get emotional if they bump into that ex.
My ex of 2 years moved on in 3 weeks after we talking about house and engagment last year.
Never spoke to me again after break up
There was cheating and we only had one small agrument and she wanted break then 2 weeks us not really speaking she broke up. Met up with flowers and ask we could sort it out as we were only away on our holiday month before. But she didn't and she was loving till the end
Because most guys' first instinct after a breakup is to move on. Completely. And by move on we mean cut off contact with the ex, eject her from our life completely. It beats the hell out of moping.
I wouldn't say that all guys are bitter cold after a relationship, but we are outdoors, thanks for that =(
As you know, some of us have somewhere to go ... =)
You sound like a girl that likes to kick em to the curb ... true or false ?
Guys like to pretend they have no emotion whatsoever.
It's so annoying.
I find it rather silly to be lovey-dovey best friends with the person who dumped me for the guy she has been chating on me with.
What do you expect? Hugs and kisses?
i don't know... MAYBE CAUSE YOU BROKE UP WITH THEM!
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