My boyfriend's brother doesn't like me

[MIKI88]

My boyfriends brother seems to really dislike me. He is my age and my boyfriend is 3 years older. Me and my boyfriend have been together almost a year, and his brother is always hot and cold with me and I can't figure it out. When its me and his brother alone he is all nice to me but when my boyfriend comes along he not only has a fight with him he goes cold towards me. He used to text me to c what I was up to an invite me to certain events but now nothing at all. When me and my boyfriend were separated for two months before I went over seas, he stopped me and asked me to sit with him on his break for a drink. although it was a little awkward being my ex's brother and all I still did Because the way I saw it was he didn't do anything wrong. when me and my ex reunited overseas his brother went cold again if I said hi on the phone he would get angry or if he saw me and my boyfriend together. My boyfriend then told me that when they were with their cousins overseas how his brother was saying nice things about me and how we are all gonna move out together etc.. Now the other day its been 3 months since I've been back and I haven't even talked to his brother. every time I see him he can barely look at me and won't say hi if his brother is there. but wen he thinks I'm not looking I can c from the corner of my eye he is. My boyfriend always says he's just like that with everyone its his own issues and dw about it just don't say hi and don't try with him. But I can't just ignore it because its his brother and you can't be rude and he shouldn't be acting so immature. I don't ask him to b my best friend but he can't even say hi now and last time I saw him he was happy to c me and talking and now I'm with his brother and he hates me.. I don't get it at all.

[coolbeans01]

Sounds like he either has issues/treats everyone like that as your boyfriend said or he has feelings for you and when he sees you with his brother (your boyfriend) he gets upset and tries to play it off so your boyfriend doesn't get suspicious.

Its like a girl that was mean to a boy back in grade 2. She was mean to him in front of all his friends but when they are alone during recess or whenever she's nice to him...its cause she likes him but is afraid to show it when others are around. Same thing could apply here.

[MIKI88]

ye when I mention anything to my boyfriend he jst tries to avoid the topic and says he's like that all the time. but seriously its been 10months wouldn't he get over it?. my boyfriend at the beginning of our relationship asked if his brother ever liked me and I sed I don't know but when I asked why he changed the topic. now ten months later he randomly brings up how he thought his bro was seeing me before we got together but then found out we were not dating and just friends.

[MIKI88]

the night I met my boyfriend I met his bro too through a friend and they both made comments to my friend how they thought I was pretty etc and tried talking to me but at separate times. but we all were jst friends hanging out. even if he did like me why be rude to me and by now you would be over it I mean its not even minimal convo or awkward I seriously think he hates me and it doesn't make sense how he's hot and cold. its frustrating especially because its awkward being around family and friends together

[parkway]

Are you dense. The brother is in love with you and it hurts to see you with his brother.

[MIKI88]

Ye but still nearly a year later , why should I be treated that way a simple nice hello is hard?, plus I doubt he is because he is always apparently hooking up with other chicks . I'm only concerned now because not only is he hot and cold with me but he's been fighting with my boyfriend a lot lately which causes fights between us.

[Anonymous]

Hehehe I think the brother likes you a bit! don't get caught up on it just be polite and friendly with him and ignore him being up and down.