Ex cheated on me multiple times, how can I torture him (mentally)?

[iamnotshaniqua]

I met my ex a few months before I left the country and we decided to keep it a long distance exclusive relationship. Our relationship was about 9 months long...I found out my ex cheated on me multiple times in the relationship when I left the country with his ex, and then more recently with some random girl. This means over 6 months of cheating. The whole time, he's been a lying sack of sh*t and also abusive (that should have been why I left, but I was naiive). He told me and I stopped talking to him completely. He keeps trying to gain closure from me now and wants to talk.

I would like to make him feel immense pain (although I know its not the best thing) for a long time, and for me to heal.

Basically, I feel that if I don't give him the closure he's desperately seeking, that might add on more pain...I know its vindictive but this dude told me he wanted to move in together, exposed ME to disease, became controlling, destroyed my things and was crazy jealous.

Advice ?

[missymarkath]

I have found the best thing to do is walk away and ignore them. people HATE being ignored.

I wouldn't give him anymore of your time or waste a single thought on him.

i really believe in the saying - a leopard doesn't change its spots.

if you keep talking to this guy or keep giving him anymore of your time he will think its okay to continue treating you the way he has been.

[Anonymous]

I think if you continue ignoring him that's the best thing you can do to get at him. Everything else would require for you to get in touch, which is what he wants. The thing that bothers ex-partners the most if you just walk away, without showing how hurt or sad you are, and live an awesome life. Any form of contact will just play right into his hands.

[SweetHeart09]

The best thing you can do is ignore him completely he doesn't deserve closure, move on with your life, be happy, be single, date, live it up. Him realizing you'll still happy without him is the best revenge.

[standUP]

You do not hold any resentment and thoughts about him anymore. You forget about him he simply was just a story in your life that now you're turning the page to a new and better chapter. You live your life and you enjoy every moment and learn to grow and to love and to keep you're heart open for that great guy waiting for you to open up once you stop the resentment of something so minimal

[Dionysos]

Walk away, live a good life, fall in love, raise rug rats and become a millionaire.

[Anonymous]

From my own experience, long distance relationship never works. my advice is leave him and live your life.

[leilin]

He isn't your Mr.right.You will find the right one next time I think.