How to be less needy/dependent on boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

Hey everyone!

So my boyfriend and I have been together since 8 months. We've been through ups and downs but we love each other very much and trust each other. Lately though I've realized that I constantly check my phone to see if he texted me, I have spent a lot of time with him and see him as much as I possibly can - but while I want to see him a lot, he is just fine. He always does what he wants and I normally give in to him. But I really miss being independent and I don't want us to become attached to the hip together. He always gets what he wants from his parents as well because he is an only child and they adopted him and love him a lot. I want to do stuff with my other friends and keep my mind off of him but sometimes it's hard because then I'm sad cause I miss him. For NYE though he is choosing his friends over spending it with me and my family. He wants me to be with him but I don't want to give in this time. I want to celebrate with my family and have fun as well. But does anyone have any tips? How can I gain my old independence back? I think this would benefit the both of us.

[Dionysos]

Embrace your feelings for him and learn to control your actions separately. Easier said than done. :-) being in love is cool. You don't want to get rid of that. One idea is to use your need to build tension and passion when you're making love. Turn it into a plus. :-)

[DrPhiI]

Well, you already know the answer to that. Throw yourself back into the things you enjoyed before dating him. Get involved with yourself and enjoy what you enjoy. Ignore him, focus on yourself. Sleep around a bit if you feel like it.

[sweety3]

Well constantly keep reminding yourself that he needs space.

Do things which makes you mesmerised..Like in which you are passionate about. which involves just you!

and try to keep a distance for some days you would be okay

[bruvleigh]

stop complaining about it (no offence) and spend the time with your family, we have mobile phones for a reason lol (cell phones for you yanks lol)

[TokusatsuComicLover]

well it's more socially acceptable for a girl to be like that as compared to a guy

[Maxen92]

This is so true. A girl can be like the "overly attached girlfriend" meme and still have a decent relationship depending on how the boyfriend in question is and what he accepts.

[TokusatsuComicLover]

and girls are allowed to seek validation meanwhile we guys are not, we guys have to have something other than girls and sex that we are into that give our life meaning above and beyond a relationship, dating and sex