I'm currently engaged but I can't stop thinking about my ex-what should I do?

[aussielad2014]

It's been about 3 or so months since I've heard from my ex. I've been with my current partner for 7 months and I proposed 3 months in. I know, too soon.

I really like this girl, but... I don't feel the connection like I had with my ex. I think about her more than my current partner and I know how bad this is. I try to push the thoughts of my ex girlfriend out of my head and I have trouble sleeping at night :(

When I was with my ex girlfriend my heart would beat out of my chest every time we kissed or saw each other! We could always read each others minds and we loved doing all the same things together.

I miss her, I thought I would get over my ex but I Haven't and I am really confused.

I have an engagement party coming up really soon and I'm not sure how to tell my partner that It's not going to work.

The thing that bothers me with my partner is, when I said can we live close to my parents house and close to her parents house, like in the middle so we both get a choice she started crying and saying that it isn't fair and saying "don't you know its the girl who gets to live close to her parents etc" and every time I bring anything like that up she will start crying. Is this emotional bullying?

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also, if I don't compliment my partner every time I see her, she get's mad and says "I know you think I'm ugly etc." I'm lost as to why she is like this... It's kind of a turn off to be honest.

[CrystalMinds]

Maybe she is really sensitive and cries because she's sad, not to influence you.

But if you know relationships can get better, feel better, make you happier than this, I think you should call the thing off. It'll be a matter of time before you realize this was a mistake. I'm not saying you should stop it, or go through with it. That's your decision. But I do feel that, if you think things can get better with someone else, you shouldn't waste her time and let her think she'll spend the rest of her life with you.

[vmw2008]

Making your current partner look bad isn't going to change anything, so don't let that be reason you sway your guilt. It was still your choice to propose to someone with those qualities, and so soon. That being said, there isn't much left to do but break up with her right away. Even if you don't get back with your ex, this girl clearly isn't the one for you. Don't drag it out longer than you need to.

[snowangle]

It'll be hard ending it, but the sooner you do it, the better it'll be. I don't think it'll work with this new girl either, but I'm not sure about going back to your ex. That's your call. But I recommend ending this relationship before you get deeper in it.

[RedSmartie]

Why the hell did you get engaged at 3 months? That's not even long enough to save for a ring.