What should I do about my roommate?

[Anonymous]

My roommate is my best friend..but she is full out just nasty she was not like this when we first moved in the apartment together...she pays rent and stuff so its her apartment too so I really have no say so...i can't move out right now cause I have no where to go but ..im really working on it..but I don't know what to do till then...so these are some of the problem..shes has sex with guys with her door crack when I have company over and have the whole apartent smelling like sex...and you can hear them going at it...she doesn't care..or clean...anything she leaves species in the toilet or on the rim of the toilet ..sometimes urine...after she use the shower ..she leaves her filthy footsteps in the shower..one time she left a dead big ass daddy long leg spider in the shower and I'm terrified of spiders... she could of least rinsed it down the drain...she eats my food and burps in front my company ...and she haves a fishy stinch to her...what should I do I'm so tired of this..i have no where else to go I can't kick her out..i would tell her but one time I told her that she smelled in a nice way and she got offened and started to get mad at me and cry then wanted to fight me..and later threatend me..so imagine if I tell her all this other stuff she's a beautiful girl people would think she would be this way ..but she is dirty,nasty and trashy in reality I was surprise!.. if I known she was like this already I wouldn't of been her roommate. Its to late now so what should I do about this any opinions?..please comment..thanks :)

[ya_ya_ask_already]

I am so sorry. Having a pain in the ass roommate is one of the worst things. Home is supposed to be a sanctuary. I don't get how she is your best friend. I wouldn't treat my best friend like that. She needs to be considerate. No, you can't kick her out. But I would make it known that you cannot live under these conditions and are going to look for a new place ASAP. If this doesn't change her behaivor, just continue to "bear" it and get out of there as soon as you can. Moving out seems to be the only solution to me. Also ... get some more considerate friends.

[Asker]

Yes.cause I can't take it much longer..

[Anonymous]

Well, if she's your best friend, you should be able to confront her about her behavior without her getting offended. But even if she does get offended if you calmly talk to her about it, at least she'll know and if she really is your best friend, she'll stop what she's doing.

Or you could start doing things that annoy her so when she confronts you about it you could just be like "I'm only doing it because you're doing it to me."

[Asker]

I like the second solution..hmm..if that's doesn't work then where probably going to end up fighting...

[Opinion Owner]

I like the second solution too lol She needs to realize that what she's doing is making you uncomfortable and she isn't being a very good roommate.

[Paullus]

I see, you are quite in a tricky situation. Your best bet is to keep looking for places to live. I would not recommend confronting her about any of the things until you already have another place secured. People like her are very dangerous and unpredictable. Keep your distance from her and do your best to live through it :)

[Asker]

Oh I'm looking...but I pray that I suceed.

[Paullus]

I know you will succeed!

[Anonymous]

Beat the stank off her!

[Opinion Owner]

And lol at the spider part