Ex girlfriend of mine broke up with me after 3 year relationship. We had an amazing relationship, we were and still are compatible in just about every way (with enough differences to keep things fresh and fun of course). We were going to move in together and start a life together.
I had to move because it was either move and go to school or go on deployment and prolong life another year. She really was looking forward to the big move with me, but she began to feel bailed on, like I pressured her into getting a job she might not have wanted and her job search did not work out so great. She had reasons to break up, and I understood and accepted them, so she did, and she tried to work on herself. I was devastated but knew we'd be back.
Sure enough, two months later, we are back to talking and working things out. She was depressed about her situation (living at home and job), and about our relationship. Her confidence and motivation were in the tank. Eventually, we really were doing well; working towards getting back together and working things out. She started the job search again and we saw each other as often as we could.
She began to fall victim to "grass is greener syndrome" (I would discover this after the fact). She suddenly distanced herself from me, didn't really give any explanation other then "you're being annoying," she began gaining interests in things she never normally would (her style in clothes, tattoos (we both have some tattoos, but I mean full blown sleeves and such), music etc..), and eventually would tell me she didn't want to talk to me anymore and repeatedly told me to "get over it." She gave no explanation, and probably didn't really have one to give. She probably was and still is just as confused as me.
I didn't know at first what had happened, until she started spending time with someone she is completely incompatible with (I'm sure he's a nice guy, and I probably am exaggerating, but his lifestyle is video games, heavy metal, tattoos, etc.. not very much like her or me at all. And he has a seven year old daughter). That's when I realized that I once again lost the love of my life, my future, but this time to the "grass is greener syndrome."
Ever since telling me she didn't want to talk anymore, I have completely exited her life, and have dropped completely off the radar. No Facebook, Instagram, etc..
If I am to ever have a future with her, am I doing the best thing in just letting her go and vanishing? Is it best to let her sort herself out without any influence or presence, and let her figure out whether or not the grass is greener? What do you think led her into GIGS? Do you think she wonders where I am, what I am up to, etc.. Or does she probably not care right now?
Sidenote:
I am not handling life without her very well at all, but she probably thinks I'm moving on and living just fine without her.
Is it best that she think or believe that?
I had to move because it was either move and go to school or go on deployment and prolong life another year. She really was looking forward to the big move with me, but she began to feel bailed on, like I pressured her into getting a job she might not have wanted and her job search did not work out so great. She had reasons to break up, and I understood and accepted them, so she did, and she tried to work on herself. I was devastated but knew we'd be back.
Sure enough, two months later, we are back to talking and working things out. She was depressed about her situation (living at home and job), and about our relationship. Her confidence and motivation were in the tank. Eventually, we really were doing well; working towards getting back together and working things out. She started the job search again and we saw each other as often as we could.
She began to fall victim to "grass is greener syndrome" (I would discover this after the fact). She suddenly distanced herself from me, didn't really give any explanation other then "you're being annoying," she began gaining interests in things she never normally would (her style in clothes, tattoos (we both have some tattoos, but I mean full blown sleeves and such), music etc..), and eventually would tell me she didn't want to talk to me anymore and repeatedly told me to "get over it." She gave no explanation, and probably didn't really have one to give. She probably was and still is just as confused as me.
I didn't know at first what had happened, until she started spending time with someone she is completely incompatible with (I'm sure he's a nice guy, and I probably am exaggerating, but his lifestyle is video games, heavy metal, tattoos, etc.. not very much like her or me at all. And he has a seven year old daughter). That's when I realized that I once again lost the love of my life, my future, but this time to the "grass is greener syndrome."
Ever since telling me she didn't want to talk anymore, I have completely exited her life, and have dropped completely off the radar. No Facebook, Instagram, etc..
If I am to ever have a future with her, am I doing the best thing in just letting her go and vanishing? Is it best to let her sort herself out without any influence or presence, and let her figure out whether or not the grass is greener? What do you think led her into GIGS? Do you think she wonders where I am, what I am up to, etc.. Or does she probably not care right now?
Sidenote:
I am not handling life without her very well at all, but she probably thinks I'm moving on and living just fine without her.
Is it best that she think or believe that?
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