Women: You SHOULD initiate (Page 2)

[Anonymous]

I know I'll get shot down for this, but I still want to say it.

There have been guys who talk to me over text. I answered always. But as soon as I try to send him a 'Hey what's up' text, I get ignored. I don't trust it anymore. It happens every time.

[Farbehind]

This has happened to me recently. Weird.

[Prilee1992]

It's because the guy has no clue of what he's doing, he should ask you out instead given the sign.

[myTake Owner]

Then he's an ass and was probably just playing. Those who are genuinely interested won't lose interest just because you initiate.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

"hey, what's up" doesn't mean much if anything and beyond something along the lines of, "nothing/noth much. what about you?", there's nothing really to say or go off of. i had/have a friend that sends me texts saying "hey"... like, i want to talk to her and respond, but i literally cannot generate a conversation off of something that generic. so instead of saying something like, "hey, what's up", try and text something more specific that you and the other person can talk and have a conversation about. unless he's a total ass, then he'll be more receptive to respond. that's my 2 cents at least.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

i meant to say that the response to it is very limited beyond the lines of...

[Opinion Owner]

@Other_Tommy_Wiseau OK I get what you're saying but I can make a convo out of 'Hey what's up' if he responds. He doesn't have to

[Leon1]

If I get a random message from someone saying 'Hey what's up' I could just assume it’s a wrong number. If I get a “ Hey Mario, it’s Luigi from mushroom kingdom, how you been? “ then I’d think oh shit I know Luigi from mushroom kingdom and I’d respond.

[Anonymous]

Thank you for this! It was just what I needed. You are so right. This is one of my favorite takes, because it benefits me the most. I tend to hold back initiating contact and now I see it from another perspective.

[OpenClose]

It's cool so many girls are agreeing with this. It makes me want to jump back into the dating game!

[Frost_Byt3]

PRAISE THE LORD! SOMEONE FINALLY UNDERSTANDS! THANKYOU!

[tyber1]

This is so simple and logical but you just know that some women are gonna reject this advice and then come back on in a few weeks and ask why this guy stopped texting them.

[myTake Owner]

Then that will be their issue and they'll stay single for a long time.

[thisdudejimmy]

True

[kittyscandyshop]

Ha! So true! Sad but true!

[fondue]

Maybe if I read enough of these I can get over the hesitancy to put myself out there lol.

[myTake Owner]

DO IT!

[tyber1]

You should listen to myTake Owner

[Octavius]

^^ Haha that made me think of this

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZXsQAXx_ao0

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

@Octavius me too!

[fondue]

@Octavius omfg. xD

[Northeast106]

Me too lol.

[ThisAndThat]

This actually make a lot of sense. I'm not sure but maybe it makes either side feel more valued if the other side chases them and dumps their feelings all over the floor. But I've passed up a lot of girls over this topic. Today's good news is I can't say I have any regrets.

[Moose2coolvargas]

Yes please, it gets very tiring to be the one doing the chasing. It would be quite refreshing I would say if a girl at least attempted to initiate contact... never once had that happen, I guess that doesn't happen in today's world

[LaBoheme099]

I do it to every guy I'm interested in. Sex doesn't play a factor in wanting to talk to someone and show interest in my opinion

[Prilee1992]

Personally I will never EVER reach out again if I've initiated contact for THREE (3) times for DATES just to see whether she's romantically interested. If there was no contacts, it was just wasting of my time & energy & financial resources.

[Anjellygirlyeah]

Hmm.. So the guy im into always hits me up and just suddenly stopped after he slept over (nothing happened. just a few kisses) and now i keep trying to talk to him but he doesn't reply? ok yeah totally testing me

[schnipdip]

orrr he doesn't like you... :/

[myTake Owner]

Might have just lost interest in you for some reason.

[Tacticious]

GREAT post!

It's not hard to lose interest if you feel like you're giving 100% and the other person is giving 10%.

[red324]

YES!!! Very rarely if ever have I had a girl start a conversation on her own. Like for example a good morning text and then proceed to ask things about me like how long I've lived in the area, how many siblings I have, do I know how to dance. etc.

[Star_Lord]

Well I not a woman or girl, But I'm glad to see this take, All the wome on GAG shuold come to see this, Thank you for spend your time for share a message to the other girls.
I'll bet some of them will listen to you, If they have enough confidence.

[Zorax]

Great Take, and an excellent advice for all the girls here ;)

[9mfeo]

Honestly, yes. If you're interested in someone, you should be taking initiative.

[lime_rampljuset]

Yup, yup.

[lisa98x]

the last time i initiated with a guy who kinda liked me he got so scared and thought i was so desperate... yeah we dont talk no more

[myTake Owner]

Clearly he was too immature.

[abzence]

This is a really good take.
I hope some women read this and take to heart.

[DarkHumorRUs]

Can you tell us what it looks like when a girl decides to do some initiating.

[myTake Owner]

When I initiate, I just text or call first. Or walk up to them in real life and start a conversation. Anything really.

[DarkHumorRUs]

Damn well that's pretty much never happened to me.

[JustinX9]

@Opinion owner yeah it is close to impossible

[DarkHumorRUs]

@JustinX9 what's close to impossible.

[Ihav2fart]

I'm Fart and I approve this message.

@MissNowhere did and look at her now.

[MissNowhere]

I always get what I want 😎

[Enaya]

Well a guy was super friendly and did all this interest showing, so I initiated texts and asked him, he chickened out.

[Punkbuster107]

This is a most thoughtful take. Thanks for sharing it. ☺️