7 Reasons Why You're Still Single

[Anonymous]

1. Being too picky

"Must have brown-skin, beautiful eyes, make more money than me, knowing at least 3 languages..."

2. Being too independent

Do you feel like you don't need anyone?

3. Not making enough effort

No one gives you the number of the person you will fall in love with.

4. Not knowing what you are looking for

You have to know what you want.

5. Being impatient

Let nature take its course.

6. The person you love may not love you back

You love someone once in a blue moon but the person doesn't love you back.

7. Still thinking about your ex

[JudgmentDay]

Although it could be reason 3 and 4, but it won't matter for me anymore.

8th Reason, I've already given up or had decided to give and realize it won't really matter anyway. Even sex is irrelevant and redundant to me, see reasons below.

9th Reason, what is the whole point of dating or relationships for someone if the heart, will or desire isn't there at all anymore?

It's kind of like you just stop investing time, effort and money in something you are no longer feeling any desire to commit to and care about anymore, and besides it really IS all just Hormones in our bodies and brains and therefore all a bunch of delusions and illusions. That's all that's really going on inside all of us causing us to desire someone else sexually or feeling the desire for sex. It's all lust and infatuation, but it won't last forever, so it's all completely big fucking lies. I rather save my money for other things instead of having to spend on shit like birth control and protection, so therefore I've been effectively celibate. Otherwise I would have just gotten a vasectomy first and then put in as much time and effort as possible to get laid, but it's just not something I thought I would do.

If I had ever wanted a traditional family and kids of my own, then I can see that dating and relationships would be worth the risk, the time, effort and money, and that was a very long time ago, when I was still optimistic and deluded and then when reality hit me things have completely changed me forever. Things had happened in my personal life that had changed my entire view of reality and our world altogether, and not in a good way.

And now my views now are ANYTHING BUT THAT and I DON'T ever want a family or children of my own, so it can not possibly work anymore. I've become too deep and melancholic for relationships or even dating to work since I don't have the will or desire to try anymore.

10th Reason, I TRUST NO ONE ANYMORE, at least no fully anymore.

11th Reason, It's just not my personal life goal, at least it never really was in the first place.

[Shorty1991]

Reasons why I'm still single.
1. I'm a bit of a home bird due to lack of funds.
2. I'm too picky.
3. I know what I want but have not found it yet.
4. I like being more independent.
5. I have a knack for attracting men who are already paired off.
6. Other guys take a non verbal interest in me but will not act on it.

[Anonymous]

I'm single because women choose their partners irrationally. Women want psychopathic bad boys, Tall jacked douchbags, six pack pretty players, rich high status men and loud mouth obnoxious bar clowns. Travis Beynon and Dan Bilzerian are the biggest chauvinists ever who treat women like garbage or like objects and get relationships and sex every day from hundreds of women.

Feminism killed the good caring respecting loyal nice guy. Focus on those qualities and you'll be single your whole life.

An people ask me why I hate women.

[NexAngelus]

while true, not to the extreme that u put it. focus on ur major trait. and unless u are low in all categories and are trying to focus on things way out of ur field, which may be the real issue here, u will find a girlfriend who likes u for u in time. its not as bad as u make it out to be.

[Anonymous]

#8 Mind games that people play
#9 How people have too many options, especially with online dating

For #1 , I'm not too picky but I still have standards. If there's no physical attraction, literally none, then it won't work out same if they're attractive but have a bad/bland personality or have absolutely nothing in common. Can't be completely lacking in any of those departments.

Then there's times where the ones we like, end up not liking us back, at least in the long run or we don't like the ones who want us and don't wanna settle.

[Anonymous]

I thought women did not need or want men at all these days !! Women do have 2 key advantages over men. 1 ) Ultra close inter female friendships , women fill each others emotional needs , they don't need men for that. Men do not bond strongly with other men in general. 2 ) Sexual frustration is absent , as the desire for sex is very low / non existent. Celibacy is not a problem , probably even preferred by most women. The biggest criticisms from women about men is ( from a real live woman ) " All those filthy beast men think about is sex !! Which is BS !!

[Cccgala]

Those are sensible reasons and I believe everyone can definitely relate to something among these items for their fair share of reasons. 😃

I think you lack something; where is the I'm-single-because-I-don't-care-about-dating-someone reason?

I'm single because I don't intend to prioritize dating at the moment.

[ObscuredBeyond]

8. Too much past trauma / baggage

If you come to see a clear pattern that you're simply incapable of finding an actually-obtainable partner who isn't a totally toxic, complete mental case that will only bring you down; one that probably belongs in a straight jacket complete with Hannibal Lecter mask rather than floating around amongst society; then it may be time to fold your cards and focus on fixing yourself - before you go chasing any more doomed prospects.

[NexAngelus]

u just have to get them younger. i hate how people always complain about guys going for younger girls... some people dont realize THIS. the younger ones are not trashed yet. the looks are anice side effect, but this is the main reason!

[ObscuredBeyond]

@NexAngelus I knew gals back in high school that were already trashed before they got there. I was just stubborn, trying to give them hope because I wasn't ready to believe they were already beyond any. Mostly because I lost nearly everything familiar during the move, and everything was so alien in a new town. No familiarity, no security, no anything. And each new gal was a quest to prove the previous one wouldn't be the end. I didn't realize then that the audience wasn't worthy of me proving anything to them.

[lanagirl]

We all have baggage. Some more than others. A little compassion can go a long way.

[ObscuredBeyond]

@lanagirl : Thanks. I didn't get much of that back then. And got treated like shit for showing any. May have a little to do with why I have GAD today. Always gotta be a role model, even if my crush acts like I'm a pariah.

[Anonymous]

In my case. Is not because I want it is because the one I used to like does not like me back just as a friend. but also because imnot interesting enough for guys to even ask me out, they dont do that, they dont ask me out so that means they are not interested even if not that ugly. If I dont go out with guys because noone ask me out I can't go out with an invisible person to start get to know that person.

[John_Doesnt]

None of those apply to me at all. The reasons I'm single:
1. I'm very shy & asocial (I have no friends).
2. I'm unattractive in the face and I know it (been rated on this site with the highest score of 4).
3. My teeth are bad and the cost of fixing them is $9,000.
4. I'm bipolar and suffer from PTSD.
So maybe it's not my fault at all, except for the teeth which is slightly my fault because I was homeless for 4 years and didn't have access to a tooth-brush, dental care or anything else.

[Anonymous]

1. Maybe, but it's only natural selection.
2. Not really, I'm not.
3. I'm too shy to make an effort, when I try, it usually ends badly.
4. Not exactly... I know quite well what I want.
5. Well it's about damn time... I'm a virgin in my late 30s.
6. That's the main problem in my case - unrequited love.
7. Nope, I have no ex.

[Shorty1991]

3 and 6 tie in nicely together, so by unrequited love you mean that you had a serious crush on a woman but you never had the courage to act on it. I seem to encounter guys like that quite often now. Sadly none of them get anywhere unless they can at least break the ice with me. It shows me that he is more serious about me that way.

[Opinion Owner]

@Shorty1991 Actually, I've tried and failed, it was devastating for me :(

[Shorty1991]

Sorry to hear that, no wonder people are becoming more and more reluctant to act on it these days. They have bad experiences and begin to think its going to be like that all the time. When they do find someone genuine, they miss all the signs and throw that opportunity away. Good luck in the future, hope you find someone worthy of you. ;)

[Opinion Owner]

@Shorty1991 Thank you, I hope so too :)

[Shorty1991]

Your welcome, and thanks. I'll need it. Lol

[smartman12]

Im single cause i can't find a career level job due to being fired from 3 jobs in a row, most women i meet are too young or mean and won't give me a chance, and im 31 years old and never had a girlfriend. I go sleep every night wishing my dreams would become reality but i wake up experiencing my current life with no quick way to fix it. I need help but no one seems to know or want to helo me.

[NexAngelus]

ya the material thing has def gotten a lot worse, but its funny how u still see all these girls that are complaining with bfs with no jobs doing nothing... . irony... i feel ya though

[LoloWaye]

I'm single by choice. I attract men but they're manipulative, have bad intentions, etc. I'm not going out with someone and putting my self respect on the back burner just to be with someone.

[LittleSally]

I'm the combination of 2 and 3. Also 1, but not in the external clearly more superficial department... more in the personality department.

So yeah... Never gonna happen.

[Octavius]

1-4 are definitely all me.

For 1 it's not as superficial as you might think. There's plenty of super attractive girls around but personality wise I don't like very many of them.

[capturemyheartnow]

The greatest reason why many young men want to remain single is because of financial reasons. They feel that they are unable to provide for their family.

[NexAngelus]

single and knocking out babies is two different things. u know having a girlfriend tied to u is going to dramatically icnrease ur sex right? ur saving on porn and hookers, strippers... all kinds of things. after a while girlfriend are cheap entertainment. u just need to make sure they dont turn into a factory and start spitting out babies.

[Loveherbut]

The reason is i gave up on finding a genuine woman and yes im old fashion i want someone to date me only until we decide to work or not dating multiple people not in my mind thats why many women these days dont work for me

[TMWLOP]

Tryd and was annoyed, so maybe the choice of asshole works for you? Eh to bad i like it

[Scrambledagain]

Or you are a nice guy, nerd, love comics, kind, caring, struggling with money etc lots of things if you are a guy.

[menina]

These are good reasons to explain why someone is single. But none of them is mine.

[Saoirse_Nua]

A lot of those can be so true - Some of them aren't bad but you should water down the impact they have on your life.

[zagor]

I'm still single, and those don't apply to me. OK, maybe 2, 3 and 4, a little. I just see finding someone as something that may or may not happen. I meet very few single women these days.

[GOOSEBOY78]

you forgot the one that is most obvious: single not by choice. and they just dont like you.