7 Things Aromantics Would Like You to Know

[askingforafriendx]

It's amazing that most people nowadays support the LGBT+ community. But as an aromantic I made the experience that most people really don't know about it existing

So here are some things we would like you do know:

1. Aromanticism is a real thing

Not everyone experiences sexual attraction.

2. We are not being like this just for attention

It's not that much of a big deal. Probably it's one of the least interesting things about us.

3. It's not just a phase

You can't change your sexual orientation like you do change your underwear.

4. ''You just haven't met the right one yet''

Well 1st I have no desire in meeting someone and 2nd I don't think you had to meet the 'right person to realize you were straight/gay/bi/etc.

5. No, we are not heartless

We can still love our family, fiends and pets. There is more than one kind of love.:)

6. We just don't really get the obsession with romance

So much confusion, emotions and drama...Not really worth it anyways.

7. And we wouldn't change it for anything

[Dsg11694]

I completely understand where you are coming from. As a woman that doesn’t have much dating experience, people have looked at me as if I have 8 heads. Numerous people have provided closure about my lack of relationships due to not meeting the right person or bad timing. However, I am skeptical of this viewpoint. While I do see other attractive men, I may imagine myself dating them or a minor form of intimacy, never to the extent of actual intercourse. I love the idea of romance and how it can make one feel. However, I find sex repulsive. As a person who has dated someone kind of romantic and has had sex, I don’t see how it is as enticing as others make it out to be. Once again, I do not know if it boils down to my personality or simply who I was with. I don’t go out of my way to find a partner or flirt. This is something that will take a lot of speculation.

[Jody89]

I agree with your viewpoint when it comes to sex. It is very repulsive and I wish the expectation of it was not such a big thing. Like on some of the shows on TV, why does it always have to turn into someone screwing someone, why do they have to glorify it.

[Dsg11694]

@Jody89 I concur completely. It’s overrated. And distasteful at times ☹️

[Catholicgirl22]

Probably because there are so many different sexualities and genders these days with more being invented and competing for attention that it's too complex and people can't keep track or just don't care.

[ZoeyS__]

I agree with you. Iike, yeah people can be attracted to the opposite and/or same gender or choose to change theirs, but when you start getting into being sexually attracted to objects, animals, yourself, identifying with animals, and all that other stuff, that’s when it gets to be a bit ridiculous in my opinion

[ClearSea]

They're not being invented, just finally being named.

[SaintJonesy]

I'm asexual but I wish I was aromantic too. Not having sexual attraction is a boon, I wish I didn't desire romantic attachment too. It seems like it would be simpler, although from your take y'all have to deal with a lot of the same shit as asexuals. Minor shit but it adds up when it's literally every time you have to seld-disclose your identity.

[wyldun]

does that also effect your sex drive in the same way?

[askingforafriendx]

Well... let me explain.

There is a differnce between being aromantic and being asexual. Some people don't experience romantic attraction AND sexual attraction.

Since I identify as an aromantic I just don't get the whole romance thing. It doesn't affect my sex drive in my case.

[Logorithim]

Thanks for explaining this, but, TBH, I am still having a hard time wrapping my arms around it.

[ClearSea]

How come?

[Lostranza]

I think that aromanticism is a real thing and that people should respect people who dont necessarily have romantic inclinations. I dont know why it is so hard for people to understand. In fact most people come into the world this way and others stay this way into adulthood.

[rjroy3]

"So here are some things we would like you do know:"

"2. We are not being like this just for attention
It's not that much of a big deal. Probably it's one of the least interesting things about us."

Then why bring it up? lol. It's kind of like starting a conversation with someone and opening with, "Let me tell you about all of the least interesting facts about myself that will probably bore you. But hey, let's give it a whack anyways".

[100lbguy]

I totally agree because I'm myself aromantic but a very sexual person, I don't why I'm aromantic but I wish I had romantic attraction because its hard to keep a relationship if you don't how to be Romantic and people will only think you only looking for sex and heartless prick

[DeVille_]

Asexual here. Glad you know that Aromantic and Asexual aren't the same thing, too many people get them mixed up :/

[genericname85]

i wonder when we will start flipping our shit, cause you just marginalized queer and all other sexualities out there by just casually subsumizing them under the plus.

i say same rights for all the bullshit! xD

[Anonymous]

I don't think people other than your immediate family would care all that much.

Romantic asexuals are more of an issue, because they go date people who aren't asexual and then one or both is miserable.

[bethshepherd]

Each to their own. Good thing so many ARE into romantic relationships, it keeps me very busy with work.

[Anonymous]

man, i see so much stuff on this site about asexual people.

honest question: do y'all really feel persecuted?

Cause for real I've never met anyone in my entire life who hated asexual people. If anything, we pity you.

[Oram52]

I honestly didn't know there was thing like Aromantic, I honestly feel a bid sad someone not feeling romantic attraction.

[AD240pCharlie]

People assume that I'm aromantic just because I don't want anything to do with relationships.
I'm definitely able to feel romantic attraction, just ask Cat Valentine!

[ovoxo_]

This whole time I thought I was asexual but I'm actually aromatic

[Dudeman1234]

I feel this was a very elaborate way of saying "Some people prefer to be single".

[Anonymous]

You guys are lucky i wish if i had no romantic or sexual desires

[PrettyRegular]

That can't be only a bad thing. Pretty amazing that it's possible. Men are created for attract about women and other way around.

[Anonymous]

Thank you OP. I hate when people say "aww you''ll find someone one day/change your mind".
What makes you think I'm interested in finding someone?

[Browneye57]

Every point you made is the opposite of truth. So much bogus bullshit.

[howlyz]

It's a new trend ;)

[Anonymous]

How do you interact with other people who you aren't related to?

[askingforafriendx]

Just like anyone else I would say. I have many good friends and I think platonic love is a great thing. I also think some people are attractive. I just have no romantic desire. That's it pretty much.

[Angelina25]

We all love you for who you are!

[Jonny317]

Hyperromantic guy here - seems like the aromantic ones and I always seem to click.