For the Undesirables, How to Live Being Single?

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For the Undesirables, How to Live Being Single?

For those who have the unfortunate luck of being single because of a variety of reasons and cannot seem to find a significant other, life is not over. You maybe physically undesirable or may have terrible luck in the dating game. Society’s promise that everyone deserves to have someone has been one of the greatest disappointments in your life. Now, you are bitter as most would describe. However, I will say it’s a natural reaction to become jealous or “hateful” of those who are desirable who seem to enter and exit relationships as they please. But, to be in this phase for prolonged periods is not healthy for you and the others around you. If you have read this far, and seek some remedies, I, humbly, offer a few.

1. Acceptance

The first step is acceptance. Although it may sound cliche, realizing your limitations in this life can be valuable. For one, you do not set unreasonable goals. This maybe a long process and will be very emotionally volatile. Essentially, you must remove yourself from the gene pool. This goes against every fiber of your instincts and you may cry and feel anger and ask, “why not me?” It’s good to let these emotions out and there are plenty of YouTube videos to help you across this stage. When you realize that some people are meant to be alone, a weight is comes off. There is no pressure to procreate or to raise a family. Instead, you can truly be selfish.

2. Find a Physical Hobby

The world may seem terrible but bad so much beauty. From the ocean to the forests, there is much to be discovered. Whether it is walking, running, biking, or swimming, doing outdoor activities will provide some peace in your life. You get to witness the great natural wonders. More importantly, you will improve your health.

3. Seek self improvement

Doing the physical hobbies hopefully will encourage you to discover and part of discovering is to learn. Learning new skills or enhancing new skills can make you more interesting and more importantly useful. This is not to say you should learn new skills to be abused by others but rather it gives you a sense of purpose and passion. These new skills or hobbies allow you to connect to others lessening those “lonely” moments.

4. Romantic love is not the only love, Volunteer!

If you seek appreciation or love or admiration, you just need to volunteer. People or animals will appreciate what you do for them because of the kindness in your heart. Again, this will give you purpose and provide some endorphins of helping others. Eventually, if you volunteer enough or mentor someone, that person may in return provide you that love or devotion in your time of need.

Love is not easy and the reality is not everyone is meant to find love. You maybe undesirable but that doesn’t mean you do not deserve some form of life. Feeling sorry for yourself is one path that you can take but will lead to nowhere. Taking positive steps can lead to other purposes in your life. Good luck on your journey!

For the Undesirables, How to Live Being Single?
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