Can you feel a connection with someone when it is one sided or is it all in your head?

[Anonymous]

i don't believe in fate or everything happens for a reason but i believe you have a connection with certain people you met thats how you differ your emotions with people. can you feel a connection with someone and it be only one sided, does this mean it is all in your head or there truly is something there? what happens when your both with different people but you can't seem to stop the contact, you always end up in contact whether it be weeks or months later

[HelenM1]

I think that this phrase 'everything happens for a reason' is made up by people just so they could explain why something happened. But, I really believe in that because I've been in situations when that phrase actually had a meaning and it was true. But, if it's one sided connection I think it's all in our heads. Because if there was something between two persons, that connection wouldn't be one sided.. And i think that the worst thing is when you can feel strong connection and it's both sided but something breaks you two apart (age difference, when you're far apart etc.)

[PeopleLie]

this caught my eye cuz i was wondering the same thing. i have that connection with someone but pretty sure he could care less if i ever speak to him again, LOL... its hard to say but i know on my end, it was real. i became a different person, in a good way, when i was around him but now that we haven't spoke in a bit, i am back to being my hermity self. i feel honestly lost without him

[Asker]

i know how you feel when you say you feel lost without him. the guy i feel it with, started it all and we have known each other years and through relationships always end back up talking, he's currently in relationship and said he wanted to stay friends so he could always know how im doing but she found out she is pregnant and now he says he doesn't think its fair if we stay friends. so thats why im starting to doubt if there ever was a connection. i have become a dofferent person as well, why are guys so complicated lol. i feel as though if it was all in our heads then why was in so intense when we did see each other and speak... its all so confusing

[PeopleLie]

I am sorry this happened to you. I lose friends all the time (I suk at friendships apparently) but It never bothers me long, but this one does... I NEVER felt the way I did when I was with him... I don't think its in our head, we can't help how we feel. I just not sure its always something they feel too. It makes no sense why it would be one sided but in my life, it seems to be the case

[Asker]

sorry it happened to you too it sucks. they say there is always that one person for everyone that you just can't ever get completely over maybe thats what they both are to us. i guess if it wasn't one sided though they would be with us now

[PeopleLie]

i don't believe there is one person for everyone... only a lucky few. most people settle... anyway I don't know i am hoping we can work things out, i have lost so much sleep over this... and i hope you can find a way to remind friends. maybe get to know the new lady in his life and see if she accepts you into the group

[Asker]

im with you there i dont believe there is one person for everyone. so many people settle before they are comfortable and get attached to that even if they are not 100% happy I've seen it with so many married couples. i hope you can work it out. same my sleeping is so bafd at the moment i wake up in the night worrying about it all, hopefully it will pass for us both soon. we won't be remaining friends he doesn't think its fair now he is having a child, he has said this before then always got back in touch but i think its the end now. his girlfriend doesn't know about me cos we've always been more than friends so its not like we can just be friends and keep it simple, very complicated lol

[PeopleLie]

the worst part is, everyone you talk to about it will say you are crazy or obsessed. like your feelings are invalid. it makes you feel even more alone which makes it all worse. that being sad, if you need to "talk" message me anytime and i am sorry things are too complicated to fix for you :(

[Asker]

yeah lol i think sometimes i sound abit obsessed with it all to my friends! it does make you feel alone and even more sad! thank you, you too! yeah me to but its life i gueess