I met this guy online and we've been texting/talking on the phone for 2-3 months now. He seems perfect, he's boring, loves the kind of stuff Iike and we seemed to click over the phone. We finally went out and I acted like a complete idiot. I treated him like I treat every other guy who doesn't care about intellectual stuff and acted like a shallow, mean self centered bitch. Date was one of the worst dates ever but he's perfect IF I hadn't put on a fake front I tend to put on in front of most people I meet.
I talked to him over the next two days and told him honestly, that I have issues and I always have a fake mask on and I would like a do over date where I want to try to put my walls down and actually be myself. He said he'll "ponder/ think" about it and I said okay, thanks. and thats that. This was last night. Haven't heard back from him, but its been less than 24 hours. I feel like I finally met someone who is genuinely nice and caring, unlike every asshole I've dated in the past, and he's interested in the same boring stuff that most people scoff at me when I bring it up.
Its all my fault and I feel like I let someone great get away because of my issues and I get scared and ruined the date on purpose. And now I feel miserable and feel like he'll never talk to me again. I'm actually NOT like that. I'm not the bitch I was when I went out with him.. I don't know why I had to negate everything. Help me?
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I wouldn't be shocked if you scared him away. Immediately it's clear for one to see if they were to enter into a relationship with you many issues would be brought to the table.
IF he decides not to have a "do over date" I doubt blame him.
But if he does, that's fantastic !
I hope u learn from this experience and let people see you for who you really are.
You can potentially ruin any relationship (that forms) if you do not let your guard down.1