I collect a few of these, but probably not as many as your boyfriend. I collect the ones I have because I find them aesthetically beautiful in some way or another. Either the facial expression, the attire, the specific character, or something about them just makes them beautiful. I don't have a fetish and I don't see them as "attractive" in the manner some are saying. They're just a figurine that's beautiful and nothing more. The downside to them is that there are more sexualized figures than non-sexualized depending on the character.
In your case, have you talked to him about it specifically and not in passing? Every hobby and every collection has a trigger and a reason. I collect certain things, but not everything in that genre is what I collect. For instance I collect Funko Pop figures and Beauty and the Beast stuff, but I don't buy them all. I only buy the stuff I buy for specific reasons. Just ask him about it in a non-confrontational way such as asking where he got each one, why he bought that specific one, which is his favorite and why, and get him to explain his reason and method of collecting. You may find out that the collection has no sexual reasoning and is just a hobby like baseball cards or comic books, but you would at least be able to understand it better.
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Geez, a guy can't collect stuff? I have 3 little anime figs on my own sitting on my desk and really like them. I didn't know you could take their clothes off but I don't think I'll do that because they look really fragile. But I like anime because the stories have very unusual and interesting premises and characters that you just don't see anywhere else. If I had more money I might consider collecting little figures of my favorite characters. But they're pretty expensive. I think they're harmless. I see some of these other responses saying he should see a shrink. You'd think he hid a p*rn mag in a bible that he hollowed out and was caught by the priest. If you just can't stand them, then say so. He'll either explain it or get rid of them. But in Japan, collecting these are considered rather normal and even women buy them. I really don't think it's that bad.
My bf has anime figurines not as many or as sexual as what you described but they are pretty bad he hasn't bought any in recent years. I am also into anime but I have an issue with one of them he has I haven't said anything because:
a) it's in the back corner you would have to look to see it
b) He doesn't really pay much attention to them
and
c) I don't live with him and it's not like he is having sex with them so I really have no place to complain
I know in his previous relationships his gfs had issues with them and he more or less I think resented them for resenting his hobbies (he is a bit of a closet geek).
What I would suggest just mention you don't like them in passing and leave it at that. You don't want him to feel like you resent his hobbies. If you don't live with him you can only comment in passing about how much money he is spending on his hobby and just say you are concerned. If you do live with him you have more say in finances and how he decorates.
Haha oh man, I'm a girl and I collect a few figures like this too :) I really like Super Sonico~ They're so cute and beautiful, I don't see any harm in it. ^^ They're also not real, I think of them as art. However, if my significant other had "dozens and dozens" of naked anime figures displayed in his room I think I would be a little uncomfortable with it as well. Especially if the only reason he's collecting them is for the fact that you can take their clothes off, not because he's a fan of the character. They're also quite expensive, so if all his money is going towards this otaku lifestyle, that could be more of a serious issue that he may need some help with.
Wow that sucks. I know a lot of people have said to just let him be but I can totally put myself in your shoes and see how it would bother me too. I think if it was me I would think "Why does he need these dolls if he has me? Am I not enough?" Call me a girl and that I'm making a big deal out of nothing, but I think it is a problem. I know most guys won't see it this way but it's probably more than just a harmless hobby and there's something more serious going on with him. I would talk to him and tell him that it bothers you and why. If he won't change then you need to think about whether this is a deal breaker or not.
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I actually know what you're talking about and where you're coming from. I find them to be more than a little creepy, personally.
Like, I can see how it's a sexual fantasy, but it's also just extremely creepy to me... like he thinks about women as possessions.
Kind of like this big fat guy from Paranoia Agent, who gets done having sex with a prostitute, and then starts thanking all of his dolls for the orgasm in a really, really creepy manner
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Does this pic seem familiar? :PJust because he collects them doesn't mean its what he Is attracted to them. The figures may be from his favorite anime and therefore he will collect them. I collect a few from my favorite animes and they are as you described, oversexual but that isn't the reason I am collecting them.
If it bothers you this much, the best thing to do is tell him. He may not realize they bother you so immensly. If he still insists on having them, try buying ones for him that aren't so overly sexy. In conclusion though, I doubt he will continue to waste his money on them if he knows how much they bug you, some can cost an arm and a leg. You should also think of them as a collectors item like a man who collects baseball cards or hockey pucksWow, I had to read this one twice to make sure I got it! in my opinion there is no explaining it, beyond the reality that he has a need to have props for a fantasy. With so many of these dolls, and the fact that he removes the clothing, it suggests that he has an unnatural fascination and obsession that probably interferes with his real life. I can't imagine that it doesn't, and it certainly affects you, because it bothers you. I don't think there's anything wrong with you! However, because of his obsession, it's unlikely that you could ever effect change in his behavior, so I suggest that you evaluate your relationship and recalibrate your expectations, given that his doll fetish will probably only continue and grow. Can you live with that? Does he ever involve you in his fantasies with his plastic harem?
It's a fetish sure, it I don't see the harm. It's not fair for you to ask him to give it up, but if it does bother you and you plan on being there a while then ask him to trade it out. In exchange for him giving up the figures, you be the toy. He's not after the toy, it's just a sexual fetish that entered into his head at some point, and it is rather healthy considering there are people out there who have sex with cars, in fur suits, and switch roles ( depending on who you talk to the last two are vanillia.)
Just offer to roleplay with him on a couple of his favorites. he'll probably label you as a keeper and be very easy to convince to do stuff... Maybe take you to a chick flick you been hinting at, surprise you with flowers maybe?hahahahaha what really oh my god. he buys the sex animes. the ero toys. Holy shit. haahahahaha
id k I mean. what does he do with them? Does he have them like, in his bedroom? In his livingroom! Are they on display? Or does he keep them in like a box under his bed. And the box kinda smells a little but like just a little, and you don't know of what, but you can smell it.
I have no idea what to tell you lmao. My instinct is like 'run' honestly. He's probably a fucked up weeabo who uses 4chan /c/
ask him who his waifu isObviusly he loves hentai, he probably has masturbated to hentai since it was available on the internet, and he possible still does. It's just a thing otakus do.
But he possibly lives in his own world, he needs to go out more to the real world, you should check out if he collects them just because he thinks they are beautifull art or he's obsessed with that. I once show my friends some hentai mangas and they freak out, while i was pointing, wow, do you see how creative is this guy or how skilled he is drawing naked girls...A* lot of the figures he buys are overly sexual* and what I mean by* this is they remove their* clothes and are* posed inappropriately. He* has dozens* of these dolls. I don't mind the normal action figure but these dolls bother me immensely.
If* any girls dated someone like this, how did you deal with it?
Guys* who do this, could u explain it to me?
I've been trying for months to figure it out but I've failed. Please help.
Atrocious grammar, just wanted to fix a few things for you. If you're going to at least complain, do it correctly.
As for the problem. So he collects dolls, who the fuck cares. You're with him for him, not for what he collects. Dude, chill outWhy do they bother you?
Does it upset him that it bothers you?
Does he want you to accept this hobby of his, and would he be delighted if you do?
Is this really a big issue or just a trivial thing?
I don't collect figurines, but I have a girl who collects cards of pretty boys and pretty girls. I just treat it as being part of who she is - it makes her interesting and it doesn't really impact my life much, except maybe the fact that I have to learn to appreciate it too so she can share her hobby with me.
Thing is don't try to fix people, you can't. All you can do is accept them or leave them.This is a strange thought. But, in your position... I'd move one. And, I don't mean hide it or anything. I mean just move it (like a few inches to the left when he is out doing something). And, see if he notices (and if he does notice how he reacts)... maybe invite a friend over to hang out in the main part of the house before he returns... just in case this is more of an issue then you think it is.
I actually watch a decent amount of anime and the whole thing is super sexualized. Honestly, he may be one of those guys who likes the 2d girls and stuff, which is a weird fetish in my opinion, but to each his own. I think you should get his opinion on it and try not to come off as attacking him, more trying to understand his views on it. I guess so long as it does not detract form his interest in you (you seem pretty cute from your pic), I guess it is not too bad...
My ex collected WWE figures, video games and consoles that are not even in existence anymore he also liked anime games and p*rn . Did I find it odd? yes this is something he was doing before I came into his life and he has every right to do what makes him happy. Whatever reason your bf like to collect these dolls for, it should not other you and you should not let it bother you.
It's just something he is interested in. If these dolls don't affect your relationship or the way he treats you, I don't see why he should get rid of them. If you are truly bothered by them, then ask him if he would be willing to get rid of them. If not, then you need to make a choice between staying with him for who he is and what he likes, or leaving him.
It being inappropriate is only your opinion and I think it's important you recognize that. I'd imagine he has his own complaints with you as well. If it bothers you I'd tell him how you feel while recognizing that he is his own person and if something like that is a deal breaker for you then you'll just have to move on.
I don't see you getting him to stop without counseling especially since he doesn't want to stop. Your options now are deciding for yourself if you can be with someone that has this kind of hobby or not. It is weird. But I'm wondering if he just kept them in a box somewhere out of site, would it still bother you?
If the answer is, no they wouldn't. Then you should talk to him about how you feel about his toys and bring up him maybe packing them away when you are around.Lmao I wish I could buy some of those but since I live with my parents I'm too ashamed to get them. Listen they are just toys / figurines, he does not love them, he probably does not masturbate to them and even if he did, most guys masturbate to something aren't you happier knowing that he's not looking at other real women? Just let them keep his toys, as long as he's not taking them out for dinner instead of taking you he's fine.
The only person who seems to have a problem with it is you. Also anime in itself is pretty sexualized, as for his collecting it doesn't seem to have a negative impact on his life and no body seems to care that he does it. So just leave it be poking at it will only cause more problems.
I assume it's japanese? Your boyfriend is into hentai. Most guys 99% are into that since it allows them see their sexual fantasies. My uncle has A LOT but his wife doesn't really seem to care since they were friends since they were children. It's not good for their kids though lol.
Have you tried telling your boyfriend that the dolls bother you and asking why he has them, and in such great quantity?
Or are you afraid it's going to escalate into an argument of "It's me or the dolls!" and he's going to choose the dolls over you?It's a harmless hobby. why not try to ge his attention more and understand his personal preferences instead of criticizing him over it? everyone has a kinky side and he just admires attractive female characters. Just show him that you can be more attractive than those dolls.
It's has nothing to do about sex. My brother used to collect these dolls and he also draw anime female sketches. After that, he moved on collecting transformer toys and get obsessed with it. As he explains, is more of an art thing; the figures, the details in all of it. The female body of course is a perfect fit from that point of view so you'll be seeing a lot of female models next to their evangelion and gundam figures.
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