How do I get my boyfriend to stop watching anime?

[RestlessMango]

Okay, my boyfriend WATCHES a lot of anime and I mean a lot I can't have a conversation with him without him making a refrence. I do watch anime myself but it's getting out of hand and he's constantly on wattpad and jerks it to hentai when he has a girlfriend? He also insists 2D girls are better than real ones? He bought me a ring and necklaces and things, but I'm confused if I'm his girlfriend or not! I dont want to call him addicted and then us break up though. I really love him and I'm worried. I need help!

[AwesomeCookie]

I read your title and was like what why the heck would you want to do that! Anime is amazing!!
Then I read jerking off to hentai etc.. wtf is wrong with him! Lol
You don't get someone to stop. You express your dislike in a full adult conversation, not through nagging, and if it goes unheard by him then he doesn't really care that much about your feelings. I'm not opposed to porn, but I don't favor it. My boyfriend had never engaged in porn near or around me, not like it's a secret he hides.. but I mean heck im right here so porn shouldn't be needed. But if he is disregarding you or not providing you the attention you want then you need to make plans or dates with him, engage him in other ways and if he doesn't show interest then heck he ain't interested enough in you to engage.

[Trooper205]

Oh dear... First of all, *before anything else* I'm so sorry! This must be VERY difficult for you!
Second, I'm a bit of a Weeb myself, so I understand the "predicament" to an extent...
Now, this is a decision He will have to make for himself, I'm afraid... He can't be forced, so to speak. He has to make the ultimate decision on whom He will be more loyal to:
You: A real Woman made of flesh. Someone He can talk to, walk with and make time for.
Anime: Fake sketches and drawings made by Man who can't even say Hi on it's own.
Granted, Anime is cute, alluring and erotic... But ultimately, it's all fake. He should know this...

[ZackBan]

You having watched some anime must know the grip it can have. I used to be sunk deep in that hole, my brother still is even though I've tried to get him to get over it. A good way to get him to drop it would be to introduce him to something else like tv series. Chose the right ones and he'll have something else to do.
As for hentai well in his head he might think he's being loyal, jerking off to fictional drawings is certainly better than jerking to photos of real women. If that bothers you then you need to reevaluate your sex life.
Usually a sexually active couple don't have time to jack off.

[meesegoMoo]

Staying with him will not help him grow up. Find a more mature man, preferably one with no obsessions.

He is immature and that is not something you can help with by staying with him, tell him how you feel, then at least take a break and see if he comes to you having changed.

P. S. not dissing anime or manga, just saying not to let object control your life.

[meesegoMoo]

Also, almost forgot. Does the porn hurt your feelings? If so he needs to know, and if he doesn't stop he might not be all that caring. if you are monogamous you should be his only woman.

[Phoenix98]

Just sit him down and communicate to him that you really love him a lot and are worried about him and see if y'all can come to a compromise, I mean I like anime to but when I got a girlfriend she's the priority, virtual is not real and can't replace a real woman.

[MikeGaveO]

Did you try to calmly explain your situation to him?
Since that's the only thing that's bothering you and all.

[RestlessMango]

I've tried telling him it bothers me. He says "Okay" and then nothing else.

[MikeGaveO]

No, not like that
Sit down together and tell him how you feel
Like "Hey Anon, you are a amazing boyfriend, but your constant anime watching and jerking off to hentai is really getting into my nerves. Could you tune it down?"

[MikeGaveO]

If he STILL doesn't do anything about it, then the issue runs deeper

[RestlessMango]

I'll take your advice, so far he's ignored me on the matter and when I tell him I'm uncomfortable he'll brush it off. Hopefully I can try just talking and saying it to him and he can not be on his phone looking at more of the issue.

[MikeGaveO]

I wish you luck, I got into a similar situation with my girlfriend and my porn addiction. All turned out well

Keep me updated!

[cavmanier]

I don't think you can or should try to change that about him. That's just him and his preference.

[RestlessMango]

Well here's the problem, I'm okay if he has a preference on a body type and stuff. But animated not real girls better than the real thing? That's where it confuses me. I'm not trying to change it, just dial it down a bit to where we are both comfortable

[cavmanier]

Just asking questions to understand him better. He probably likes the unrealistic bodies the girls in anime have.

[RestlessMango]

I've told him I'm uncomfortable with the girls in little bits of clothing in his phone and to stop showing them to me. He keeps sending it and saying it's an accident. I've told him how I feel about my body and he told me I'm beautiful, but went back to his phone to read more fanfiction and anime stories.

[cavmanier]

The problem with what you're doing is you're trying to control how he feels. You can't do that. You can force his desire. It's better to find somebody who fits what you really want.

[cavmanier]

*You can't force his desire

[RestlessMango]

I really do love him and I'm fine if he watches anime and stuff but ever since I got with him it's gotten out of hand and he needs to dial it down at least a little bit.

[cavmanier]

Yes I believe you love him. That has nothing to do with this though. People fall in love with people that aren't good for them all the time.

[RestlessMango]

Yeah your right, but I'm just confused in why the obsession has grown stronger over the past most of the year I've been with him.

[cavmanier]

It could be for so many reasons. If you want to know, try talking to him, but he probably doesn't want to tell you. I can't say much because of how I don't know this guy at all.

[slurreyboy]

Has he ever brought up that he wants you to fuck some kind of octopus

[RestlessMango]

No but he's showed me a picture of a girl being tentacled before -<-

[slurreyboy]

Oooh ya... He's in deep. You either love it or you don't. But if he isn't willing to budge for you then move on... relationships are a give and take.

[RestlessMango]

Eh yeah. True that. Hopefully he'll budge.

[slurreyboy]

Or walk in the room with a sailor schoolgirl uniform on with a bunch of octopus hanging in you and also jizzing on your face. Maybe that will get it out of his system

[RestlessMango]

If anything it'll make him think I'm encouraging it and it'll go deeper into it.

[slurreyboy]

Come on, that was funny. Maybe he watches cartoon Japanese people fucking because your boring

[RestlessMango]

Whatever. I've tried engaging with him but he brushes me off and tells me to cut it out. Whenever I suggest something.

[slurreyboy]

Then leave him or live this life... That's the choice... Or live with me, anime sucks

[RestlessMango]

Pbft. Nah definitely not the last option. I'll think a bit more and try to sit down and talk

[slurreyboy]

In was joking, as you are joking about doing anything.

[mrman2020]

Oh weird I’m sorry you’re struggling with this. Is there anyway it’s just a little phase?

[mrman2020]

Like how does he enjoy jerking off to cartoons when you are there as a person for him?

[RestlessMango]

Exactly! I hint at sending him erotic pictures, and send him pictures of my thighs and such but he says no and won't pay attention to me.

[RestlessMango]

I hope it's a phase. He has a lot of anime girls saved on his phone though in small amounts of clothing and it makes me uncomfortable I can't be like them.

[mrman2020]

🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️ whyyyyyy ha sorry but that must be so uncomfortable. Have you tried pushing the idea that an older man probably drew those anime characters?

[RestlessMango]

No I haven't yet, that's actually a pretty good idea though.

[mrman2020]

I mean 🤷‍♂️. The reality is that he’s jerking it to something a guy spent twenty hours stuffed in a tiny cubicle of an office drawing on some computer. Its rather disturbing but I’m sure that guy who drew it appreciates it

[RestlessMango]

Eh probably. I'm still confused on it though. I've told him I'm chubby and i look horrible and he's supportive on it and tells me I'm beautiful but then 2 seconds later he whips out his phone and starts reading fanfiction with reader inserts of harems

[mrman2020]

Yeah that’s a strange addiction

[RestlessMango]

Ya think? Lol

[mrman2020]

I don't know I mean on the flip side you could just give up and give him dome while he watches it 😂

[RestlessMango]

Eh maybe. I don't want to even think of breaking up with him but who knows I might have to. I've been with him for almost a whole YEAR and he's been like this.

[mrman2020]

Yeah try it then. Maybe it’s the right move

[RestlessMango]

Let's hope!

[mrman2020]

😋😋

[The_man_whol_aughs]

Woman you are just a trophy not a girlfriend

He's just using you to show off to his friends that he can get a girl otherwise your just meaningless to him

Those necklaces and gift are just to shut you up

[Potatocream]

god sorry but that sounds disgusting lol, tell him you're not putting up with his shit anymore and see if that does anything

[Anonymous]

He needs to grow up before he loses the best thing that's happened to him. But people only appreciate others when they're no longer there then they realize what they had and lost

[Anonymous]

He’s making a Jojo reference!
Anyways you can try cosplay and fuck him?

[RestlessMango]

I just- I just said I have a problem with it what makes you think I'm gonna do something I'm not too fond of?

[Opinion Owner]

Be a MOE and give him a nose bleed!

[Joker_]

Your boyfriend is a retard

[Anonymous]

Personally, I’d leave him. I couldn’t cope with that.

[RestlessMango]

The thing is I really love him. I dont want to leave him. He treats me amazing, this is the only thing that bothers me.

[Opinion Owner]

The only thing you can really do is sit down and tell him how it’s affecting you, maybe scare him a little and tell him you’d have to reconsider the relationship if he doesn’t calm down with the anime a little

[RestlessMango]

Maybe. The scaring sounds a little crazy though.

[Opinion Owner]

And the anime obsession doesn’t? 😝

[RestlessMango]

I dont want to get rid of something he likes though.. just dial it down.

[Opinion Owner]

I didn’t say get rid of it

[RestlessMango]

I know, just clarifying.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m just saying tell him to tone it down before it becomes too much for you to handle, because at some point it will. Addictions ruin relationships, and by the sound of it he’s addicted.

[RestlessMango]

I'll talk to him then.

[outside_Toronto]

You don't. You live with it or move on

[thederekmichael]

Have a talk with him and try working it out.

[farhaan7]

Clicky Ur sexy photoes make him jerk to u.

[thelich]

You don't and you watch it with him.

[Anonymous]

move on...

[GayLoner]

You don't