So the girl I've been in love with for the past year is also my best friend. We hang out all the time, and whenever she would call/text me to hang out, I would always make time for her. However, when I would call her to do something, she wouldn't always be down to do what I wanted to do. It has been selfish on her part, and definitely unfair.
The thing is, she's 4 years older than me, and when we met 2.5 years ago, I asked her out. She told me,"your too young for me lets just be friends". So I moved on, but we started hanging out more and more, and I fell for her. We hang out at least 4-7 days in the week, her family loves me and they invite me places with them, or over for dinner, and even was asked to go to her mom's bday dinner.
Now, I'm fed up with giving her so much and showing her that I'm such a great guy, but she still goes on dates with other guys and doesn't give me a shot. So I'm distancing myself from her and it's been 8 days.
I've just been doing other things, and not making time for her. Over the weekend she would text me and I wouldn't be interested in keeping the conversation and she would say random things to get me to talk to her like, "its snowing" or "my dog misses you!". She has texted me everyday in the past 5 days asking to hang out and I've just said I'm busy, and I was sick so I told her that.
Last night she texted me to come over, and I told her it's too late for me and I'm not feeling well. she responded with, "OK feel better, I miss u".
I just don't want to hang out with her unless she plans it in advance so I don't drop what I'm doing to go over, or if she wants to come over my house which she NEVER does!
I'm fed up with us being so close like a couple, but not actually being one. I've never had a "friendship" like this with a girl before where we do everything together and are not dating. Especially when she links arms with me, or rests her head on my shoulder. And when we watch TV will rest her legs on me.
Friends? IDK?
The thing is, she's 4 years older than me, and when we met 2.5 years ago, I asked her out. She told me,"your too young for me lets just be friends". So I moved on, but we started hanging out more and more, and I fell for her. We hang out at least 4-7 days in the week, her family loves me and they invite me places with them, or over for dinner, and even was asked to go to her mom's bday dinner.
Now, I'm fed up with giving her so much and showing her that I'm such a great guy, but she still goes on dates with other guys and doesn't give me a shot. So I'm distancing myself from her and it's been 8 days.
I've just been doing other things, and not making time for her. Over the weekend she would text me and I wouldn't be interested in keeping the conversation and she would say random things to get me to talk to her like, "its snowing" or "my dog misses you!". She has texted me everyday in the past 5 days asking to hang out and I've just said I'm busy, and I was sick so I told her that.
Last night she texted me to come over, and I told her it's too late for me and I'm not feeling well. she responded with, "OK feel better, I miss u".
I just don't want to hang out with her unless she plans it in advance so I don't drop what I'm doing to go over, or if she wants to come over my house which she NEVER does!
I'm fed up with us being so close like a couple, but not actually being one. I've never had a "friendship" like this with a girl before where we do everything together and are not dating. Especially when she links arms with me, or rests her head on my shoulder. And when we watch TV will rest her legs on me.
Friends? IDK?
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