How long until you say 'I love you' ?

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So I just read a question which got me thinking, I'm sure at one point or another everyone has said 'I love you' and not meant it.
Have you? 

Anyway, my question is as what point do you actually think you fall in love?
I'm 19, and I've never been in love. 
I'm not worried about it because I'm not rushing anything or looking for 'the one' .. Whatever happens, happens. 

I've had SEVERE infatuation, and at that time I genuinley thought I was in love. But I definitely wasn't lol.
I think it's gonna take me months and months to actually fall in love.

Just curious how long does it take until you say it?
And what do you say if they say 'I love you' and you know you don't love them yet?

Thanks lovelies ! 😘

godfatherfan · Accepted Answer

If you truly love someone you can never NOT love that person. There can never be a point where you say "I fell out of love with you..." if you say that, then you never truly loved that person. You can love someone a different way is all.
I have only told my (ex) wife that I loved her. I still love her. I didn't want the divorce. So she is the only one I ever told it to. but I never had a girlfriend before when I was young. I went on dates with 5 women before meeting my ex wife. I have been out with 12 women in the last 14 months since the divorce. 9 were from mid march to beginning of June when I realized I was not ready to date. none of those lasted more then a week or two so nothing there.
But I have met the woman I will marry assuming she does not dump me...
just like I knew with my ex wife, I know with her. I am already almost to love. but I will not say "I love you" until I mean it. I take that very seriously and you don't say those words just to make someone happy. but at the rate I am falling I am betting within a month or two I will be able to say it. But since I don't want to scare her away, I will probably wait until she says it.
Since women typically are the ones that don't want something serious and spook easily, I just want to be careful not to push her too fast.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I've said it to friends in a silly manner, and I've been in almost-relationships where I didn't want to fully commit because I've not felt what I believed would be genuine love.

This week, actually, I told someone I loved her for the first time in my life. It's been 7/8 months, and she hurt me 4 months ago (not intentionally - she didn't know how strongly I felt at that time already), but I've forgiven her for that and, after telling myself I was infatuated at the time, I genuinely think I've found love.

She's said "I love you"s before; when her (prick of a) previous boyfriend first got into her pants she blurted it out because she felt she needed to; but she realises how wrong she was. She cried her eyes out that she couldn't give her virginity to me after I unveiled that I was still one at 22.

Oh, and she said it back to me, too. :)

obiwansmistress · Accepted Answer

My husband and I are each other's first loves, and we both think people throw around "I love you" too much. We loved each other for months before we said it, I waited for him to say it first because I knew he wanted to and that it was important to him. He finally said it one night (around 3 or 4am) when we were just cuddling and talking after sex. We had been dating 6 months, 1 day, and a few hours.

mychelle · Accepted Answer

I am with you, I think that it is very easy to confuse infatuation with love. I think it also really depends on the couple and/or situation. But I would agree with you, months and months would be a safe time frame, for me.

honeybee888 · Accepted Answer

i think after the honeymoon phase is over and u really know the person. id say maybe after a year or two?

JustinCaseUDontKnow · Answer

My first ex gf were together for 2 weeks and we started telling each other  we loved one another.. Our relationship lasted about 3 months but we never remained friends.

SakuraChii · Answer

Depends on the couple some already have strong feelings as they first get into the realationship. I would say 8 months +. Yet I first said "I love you" after 4 months (it was a middle school realationship so you get the idea)

SenorAries · Answer

There is no time. Love is different to everybody. You define what love is for you. What you feel is infatuation, may be love for somebody else. Slippery slope it is! :)

Anonymous · Answer

basically i prefer saying "i like you" instead of "i love you"!

Star_Lord · Answer

Until I found my soulmate, Then I love you these words accidentaly across from my mouth, I can't help it, I love you also can say easily but meaningless.

girlandhermusic · Answer

For me, it’s not a period of time. It all depends if it’s truly how I feel. It could be the first date, or after years of dating.

unlucky555 · Answer

I said after 6 weeks it in the 6th date  We staid around 2 years. But see my name unlucky I think it's true haha

Anonymous · Answer

Once I know that I can trust the person with everything!

Marissa1300 · Answer

It depends how fast you get to know one another

Anonymous · Answer

About four years on average.

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