How long does it take you to say I love you in romantic relationships? And do you mean it every time you say it?

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PeacefulRainDrop · Accepted Answer

It varies depending on the relationship.. sometimes things just come easy and natural other times things are a slow burning fire.. so it doesn't matter on how long it takes to say it; it more about how much quality time you guys have together.

Yes I have meant it everytime I said it... even if I had to say ohhh that hit me as a surprise.. I definitely care about you and want the best for you but love is such a strong word ahhh I love you as a dear friend right now who knows where that will go. Some guys think being nice = flirting when really in reality the world has just become so shitty that no one is really nice anymore so its understandable... some people push matters I make the lines well known I am very blunt.

Sue_Free · Accepted Answer

I actually never said that before in that way, I'd feel awkward saying or hearing it. I express it through lots of long hugs. If you could read my mind while I do that, it would probably spam "ILY ILY ILY ILY" but I wouldn't say it. Maybe I don't because I haven't met him yet. If you ever hear those words from me, you know it's real.

weeee · Accepted Answer

This is weirdly hard for me to do. I have a hard time expressing gratitude. Even in non-romantic contexts I have a hard time to really just, you know, voice my appreciation/gratitude/other nice words to someone. I express these things much more in non-verbal ways, and sometimes in roundabout jokes that dont seem like compliments on the first glance.

I think its because when i was younger, I used to shut out a lot of my personality from folks which caused me to become unhealthily stoic. Im trying to work on it and change that nowadays. So yeah, when I do really say it to someone, you bet I fucking mean it!

MysteriousT · Accepted Answer

I'm a romantic guy and I like expressing my feelings towards my girlfriend. I just think it's important that she knows how much I love her and I'm happy to be in a relationship with her.

I'm very picky when it comes to relationships though, so it's not very easy for me to have one but once I'm in a relationship I'll for sure tell her that I love her by looking at her eyes and making her feel that I mean it.

And yes, whenever I tell her that I love her, I'd mean it every single time. I care about being genuine in the relationship and I'd expect her to do the same as well.

fr44c3iqqs · Answer

I haven’t actually ever been in a romantic relationship, but if and when I do get into one, like from the point me and that young lady would have agreed to be together in a relationship (by which there is no way I could get into one without feeling that she is special, that she inspires me, and that I have love feelings for her), then I will for sure within that minute or two just go for it and tell her that I love her, that she is very special to me, and that she fills in the missing pieces of the puzzle. I can’t see how would that weird her out.

hahahmm · Answer

A few times I said to a woman: "I love you... just as much as you love me."

And this infuriated them. Ha ha ha. I was laughing on the inside because you see I'm not a sucker.

I rarely say I love you. I show it. And if that's not good enough for her she can move on down the road to the guy who says it every hour.

lindakayyyy · Answer

50 years... Like literally! I am so afraid of expressing my feelings and becoming the vulnerable person in the relationship. My current partner always says I am so cold. Even though on the inside I'd die for him but i fear being too romantic will make him take me for granted and lose interest.

scholastic_vibez · Answer

I’m careful to wait a while before I say I love you because girls will make fun of you to their girlfriends like “He said it to soon, and he doesn’t know the difference between love, and being in love.” Screw that. You don’t play a good game if you say it too soon.

ohshee · Answer

Well I'm so glad at the moment, and I'm picky but not in the ways you would think, any way when I find someome I like and if she floats my boat I said to her yes and I do need it just like I can say I love you to you too and I mean it so there's over five hundred different types of love and they're all powerful none of them are the same though

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

For me, usually 6-12 weeks or 2-4 months?

I might feel butterflies as soon as the first or third date but I will say things like, I'm falling for you, or I really like you, or I care about you, before saying the big ole I love you.

To me, saying I love you should come after your first disagreement, when you've discovered your first 'not peachy moment' but are willing to work through it constructively.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

I don’t think there is a time limit on it, with some girls it’s been really soon after dating, it was with my ex wife.

Also I am bit unromantic in the delivery of the first ‘ I love you ‘

its more on the lines of ‘I’ve been thinking, did you know that I really love you’

Mofunfour20 · Answer

Yes, because getting my love is predicated on her supporting my purpose, staying fit, feminine, cooperative, and peaceful. Not a general length of time but it comes down to the amount of work she does in the relationship for me to tell her Id risk my life protecting her and providing for her unconditionally. Takes time yes but your best effort to be feminine is more important

Pj1981 · Answer

I have only been in 2 relationships that I loved the other person. One started when I was 14 and lasted until I was 31 the other started at 31 and lasted till 37. I don't remember how long when I was a teenager but my last one it took a couple months and I definitely meant it. I've dated a little and have had women try telling me after a few weeks but I didn't believe it and definitely didn't feel it so I didn't return it.

exitseven · Answer

It takes as long as it takes. Traditionally it is the guy that is supposed to say it first. It is a scary thing because if you say it too soon she may think you are desperate and if you wait too long she may think you are losing interest.

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

My relationships usually don’t last long enough to say I love you and if i ever did say it I would be lying because I’ve only ever loved one girl and I’ve never felt that way about another girl I’ve dated or hooked up with so unless I ever get together with that girl again I’d probably be lying

have_a_good_day · Answer

I haven't said it a lot in my lifetime but every time I said it it felt, to me, like I didn't mean it. Words feel weak to me.  If I love someone I show it. My actions speak for my heart.

primrose97 · Answer

I have never allowed myself to fall in love love. Love is highly inconvenient at my age, living in London. Dating people that are unsure about their futures. Just like I am.

It’s not sad. Because I don’t know what I’m missing out on.

Everyone defines love differently anyways.

SwedishTwizz · Answer

Like 2 or 3 weeks later the guy says he loves me. Its like im processing his love to see if i feel its real. My heart have a weird way to work, he love only of he feels loved

StarAstro · Answer

I don't know where i live, saying i love you is not considered something serious as it is considered in societies in US, Canada, etc. So I'd take like a month or so

JBlade · Answer

Never been in a romantic relationship. Though if I was in a relationship, I doubt I’d ever say it because I’m aromantic wouldn’t mean it. Don’t know what love is and have never experienced it.

witness1 · Answer

I say it often, I like saying and hearing it. The earliest for me was the 3rd date (with kissing) when I was 18.
And if I don't mean it, I don't say it.

But I do understand, that I am one of the rare kinds of men with this behaviour.

Anonymous · Answer

I’ve never said it, but if he’s gonna say it to me I’d rather he not say it before 3 months bc it’s seems too soon for me. 3 months is good in my opinion

rcljr · Answer

Had a woman tell me she loves me within 3 hours of first meeting, needless to say she’s either desperate or a psycho, I split.

Sincerly_KittyCat · Answer

Okay I know this is childish but, I want to hear him say it first.

JosyJosy · Answer

I don't say it often, maybe once every couple of months. I don't express it often using words, but more through actions

MindYourEyes · Answer

It m was always different. But I think it took me 3 months to tell my boyfriend that I love him. XD

Jlegacy · Answer

Every time I have said it, I meant it but I meant agape love. Only my wife would have all the shades of my ILUs.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

I don't know. I just dont have hard time saying it also because i dont think deeply about it. Im aromantic by the way but i do "squish" on someone i find attractive.

AydenHazor · Answer

I tell my close friends that I love them and I absolutely mean it every time. Love need not be romantic and only romantic

Guanfei · Answer

I always mean it. If I say to a girl that I love her, it means I'm really in love with her. Which explains why I haven't said it a lot.

Aquariusmystery · Answer

There’s no set time. When you feel the time is right then you say it

Browneye57 · Answer

About 20 minutes. Said several times a day for over thirty years now.  Yes, we mean it.

MrJMM · Answer

Pretty sure never because I think I’m not meant to have anyone since people keep telling me how if a terrible human being I am.

Anonymous · Answer

it took my partner a month, he said it first. i felt it after 2 weeks.

dudeinohio · Answer

Depends on the relationship. And when I do say it, I mean it.

collie22 · Answer

i don't say that much cause i don't like getting hurt

TheAfrikan · Answer

O do not say it as anyhow or as quick as possible. It can take a while but once i let it out I mean it. I mean saying it in words.

Minahh · Answer

It takes time for me because I want to be 100% honest when I say it.

Nick245 · Answer

I have never been in a relationship... so I can't say

amasingh30 · Answer

Depends on how we have emotionally connected. Yes when i say it i mean it i dont like fakin relations and ditch people.

Slim57 · Answer

It depends, I've said it to only one girl and meant it, it only took a month but we had been talking for a good while before we dated

Asianguy123 · Answer

I have never had stable relationship so I don’t know but I would guess it takes 6 months

jon28805 · Answer

I’ve actually never said it, but I don’t think it would take long if I was in love with the person.

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

I think if its 2 sided there is no need to say it.. it becomes understood automatically

Anonymous · Answer

I mean it every time I say which is why I don't say it till like 8 months

Anonymous · Answer

If your love is true and pure... you don't need to say it... you feel it every moment.

Anonymous · Answer

yeah i mean it everytime i say it otherwise it'd be a pretty shitty thing to do

Adogdog · Answer

It would take me a while. I have never told a girl I loved her, but when I do it will be real.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

A year for my past relationship

rjroy3 · Answer

No timeframe and I always have when I did.

cute_kitty12 · Answer

I would never say that if I didn't mean it

ChiTown33 · Answer

I haven't said it yet.

TheFlak38 · Answer

the man who says "I love you" loses the game

FamilyGuy2020 · Answer

Realistically at my age about two to 3 months.

Anonymous · Answer

As long as it takes to fall in love.

MyGoodman · Answer

That's. An individual thing

elpapas · Answer

Over 6 months, maybe more. And always honest

Anonymous · Answer

Took one week for myself and my husband

Supernormal · Answer

49 days

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