I cancel our date and he blocked me?

[Anonymous]

So I was suppose to go on a date with this guy I message him four days before the date. He saw my message and never reply back so I got upset because wtf you were online so obivously you have time to message me and he never bother to message me during those 4 days. So I thought our date was off so I cancel it on the day of the date. He argue with me he didn't want me to cancel but I brought up how he could had took 2 seconds to message me on why he can't talk to me during those days (he said because he working overtime). He said "fine then ruin our chance together" we were trying to become a couple so then he like "bye I'm blocking you" I was wondering why did he blocked me? I don't understand why he did that. All I wanted was a apology and I would had went on that date I even said that but he refuse to say a apology.

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+1 y

Well he did mention of a girlfriend who he loved who used him so maybe he thought I was using him or that's why he overreacted?

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+1 y

Ok first of all I really like this guy I did want to be his girlfriend he piss me off because I know he was online those 4 days and he did not reply to me so I believe he didn't care enough for me because if you care for a girl then you would want to talk to her not ignore her.

[Guiltz]

I think both of you have a point. You overreacted to his delay over answering a message and he eacted to your menace of canceling a date. I went to a date 3 months ago in a very similar situation. I did not answered imediatelly and forgot to answer when I recharged my phone. The girl cancelled the date. I got angry. She ultimatelly decided to go to the date. It was not a good date. The fact I did not answered did not meant I did not care for her. It meant I did not thought I could answer in the moment I received it. When she cancelled (she had already cancelled other times with bizarre excuses), she was showing me she did not care about me. And when she decided to go, I saw it as crazy and therefore got more picky.

[KDA20]

I think you are both overreacting you to him not replying and him to cancelling date

[Asker]

how did i overreact?

[KDA20]

It was only a text some people aren't into texting

[Asker]

I know but my fear of getting hurt got in the way so that's why I did what I did.

[KDA20]

Well tell him that is why you reacted like that

[Asker]

I type him a big ass message and he did not reply I do believe he was online so? why is he so mad I don't understand

[KDA20]

Give it a bit of time to settle then try again

[KDA20]

Thanks for MHO

[Asker]

Your welcome.

[KDA20]

Hope it works out for you

[Asker]

I'm not even sure he will ever talk to me again.

[brownchic]

let it go. if he doesn't have a minute to spare to get back to you or even ill text you in a bit rather than ignoring you for 4 days is so stupid. let it be dont call him or try to get to talk to him. you just dodged a bullet! let it be.

[Logic_Hammer_Bear]

It's him who's dodging the bullet of this game playing waste of amino acids.

[brownchic]

Lol no I think she gave him enough time to decide whether or not he wants to go on a date with her and he never reciprocated shows lack of interest in her.

[Asker]

Actually I just want to say we were on for a date he agree I agree. It just upsets me that he was online and he couldn't reply. How you going to be my boyfriend but planning to ignore my messages for days?

[brownchic]

Same thing happened to me too and now we ended in 3 months of dating

[Asker]

All I can say Men they can't admit they wrong most of them not all of them.

[RationalLioness]

Sounds like he was an immature dude. I don't see why he wouldn't message you back when he was on... clearly he didn't care enough for you to respect you.

Forget that loser.

[Logic_Hammer_Bear]

Nice. Blame the guy when it's clearly her fault.

[brownchic]

How is it her fault? Can you not comprehend what she wrote in the description?

[Asker]

Exactly notice how all the girls agree on this and all the guys think I was in the wrong except two?

[thatkaruguy]

He had nothing to apologize for. If you wanted to talk to him you should have better yet you could've waited to talk to him on the date.

[RationalLioness]

If she had no contact with him until the date, then that would be the only method of contact.

[thatkaruguy]

That is correct but she did not attempt to contact him she waited there for him to contact her. Cancelling a date because of that is stupid and even worse since she did it at the last minute. I don't blame him for blocking her though I don't block people. So again he owes her no apologies if she wanted to know if the date was still on she could've asked instead of cancelling it

[Asker]

I cancel it because I got piss and thought he was fucking with my feelings by the way.

[thatkaruguy]

Correction: she did message him but he did not want to talk if it's facebook he probably just wanted to read posts. But I still think she should've asked if the date was still on or not @rationallioness

[thatkaruguy]

You know what they say about assuming asker. You make an ass out of you and me. And in this case it's true lol

[RationalLioness]

Perhaps she wanted to have a conversation before she did that. It's kind of awkward to suddenly bring up out of nowhere especially since that would have been their first.

[Asker]

Ok I don't understand how I am making a ass out of myself but ok.

[thatkaruguy]

@rationallioness it's not awkward I ask if the date is still on everytime I go on one because something could've come up and they forgot to cancel if they ask why I tell them I'm just making sure

[thatkaruguy]

You made an ass out of yourself because you cancelled the date due to insecurities and did a "I'll hurt them/cut them off before they hurt/cut me off" and he didn't take it well due to his own insecurities.

[thatkaruguy]

Hence you made an ass of yourself and him lol

[RationalLioness]

That's YOU. YOU are not important in this issue. She is because this is what she's going through and this is how she may feel. YOU are irrelevant. Just because it's not something YOU would do does not mean that people don't do it.

Let's use common sense.

[thatkaruguy]

How about you use common sense yourself I was using myself as an example to something YOU said but clearly didn't understand. Asking if a date is still going to happen is much more sensible than cancelling it because you don't think it's still going to happen @rationallioness

[Asker]

Well I thought if he didn't message me on the day of the date I will cancel it so that's what I did.

[Logic_Hammer_Bear]

You cancelled a date with no "rain check" and you're made at him for not answering back? Oh wait, under 18. Never mind.

[Asker]

Well my friend told me to and every other girl gets why I did it so?

[Logic_Hammer_Bear]

Congratulations on continuing to ruin the reputation of every girl ever.

[Asker]

Wtf ok well he should had message me back because I know if he has a enough time to be on fb then how does he not have time to say he can't talk?

[Logic_Hammer_Bear]

I had a female "friend" who was online on facebook all the time. Think she just forgot to log out.

[RationalLioness]

Read a little closer, old man. She messaged him BEFORE canceling.

[Logic_Hammer_Bear]

Maybe when you get your diapers off you'll see I read correctly.

[MattDamonAndFriends]

Because you're under 18 guys are very emotional with the changes of his body hormones the starting of testerone you probably blocked you than punched his cat in the eye

[Theguyoverthere]

He sounds crazy. Him blocking you is better off. Ironically I don't think you want to message him anyway.

[thatkaruguy]

How does he sound crazy?

[JohnBhoy94]

Did you set up a date for a later time? If not, that's your answer.

[Asker]

What you mean?

[JohnBhoy94]

If you didn't reorganise the date for a later time he clearly thought you blew him off completely so he blocked you.

[Asker]

not i just cancel it before the date started.

[JohnBhoy94]

I understand that you cancelled it, but I'm asking whether you reorganised the date for some time in the near future.

For example:

You: "Sorry (insert his name), I can't make the date (insert date) because (insert reason), could we go out on (insert date) instead if it's OK with you?"

Instead, something I'm only assuming, you didn't reorganise the date therefore he blocked you.

[Asker]

oh no he blocked me.

[JohnBhoy94]

You've got to move on

[Asker]

well I know that I just want to know why he so angry at me.

[JohnBhoy94]

Because he liked you and because you blew him off... damn, come on.

[Asker]

Yeah but if he care for me he would had reply before.

[JohnBhoy94]

He doesn't owe you a reply. YOU blew him off.

[miserybusiness]

He sounds annoying, good riddance

[Anonymous]

he's immature and salty