Why did he block me after a good date?

[applestoremonkey]

hi f19 here!

I matched with a guy on bumble and went on a date with him the next day. We went to different bars and talked for 3 hours - about music, our passions, etc. We got along surprisingly well and I couldn't stop smiling. Usually I can tell when the vibe is off - but it wasn't with him. Actually I felt the time rush by and I could have talked with him or just sit in silence the whole night. But I remembered that I was just in for a hook up and that's what we did at the end.

However to me the night felt so warm and intimate - too good for a hook up. And by the way he acted towards me I think he was also surprised how well we understood each other. It felt as if we had a real connection growing.

Well the next day, he made breakfast, I left and he unmatched me later that day. We didn’t exchange socials, but he still managed to find my instagram account and block me.
I'm an overthinker by nature and my mind wanders to really negative self beliefs (was I not pretty enough? was I unpleasant?)

I'd be really glad if someone can give me advice on why a guy would do that after a great night? Thank you in advance!

[OlderAndWiser]

Four possibilities come to mind.

1. In conversation, maybe you said you weren't ready to have children, or you want to move to Paris, or you aren't religious, or you are religious, or you want to be a stay at home mom. There are lots of things you might have said that would have told him, 'this is not The One,' even though the conversation was flowing smoothly.

2. You didn't mention his age. Perhaps he is at the point of thinking about finding a partner for a long term relationship. And maybe he was happy - in the moment - to pull down your panties and give you a poke, but some guys will assume sex on the first date means promiscuous woman. . . means not LTR material.

3. You also didn't mention how things worked out once you were in bed. Maybe you were too vanilla for him, or maybe he is too vanilla for you. Or, maybe in the throes of passion, you said something stupid like, "I love you," and that scared him.

4. Maybe he just wanted to fuck you once and he got what he wanted.

You will probably never know whether it is one of these reasons, or something else. You were ghosted, and if you just want hookups, this is what you should expect to have happen. If you can't handle this happening and you want more, don't be so eager to jump into bed with guys.

[BarryLiverstone]

You wanted a hook up, sounds like he did as well. Did you want more?

[AI Opinion]

I'm sorry you're going through this. 🌼 It’s natural to feel confused and question things after a situation like this. Sometimes people block others because they're not ready for something more, or perhaps they felt overwhelmed. It might not be about you at all. Remember, his actions shouldn’t define your self-worth. 🏆 Focus on what makes you happy and always cherish the moments that felt genuine to you. In time, you’ll find someone who appreciates your warmth and connection. 💖

[Abbycado]

So wait, you did or did not hook up?

[applestoremonkey]

we did hook up

[Abbycado]

That’s why then. He got what he wanted and you’re no longer of use to him, unfortunately.

[In_Trance]

Apparently it wasn't that good

[chickychickyparmparm]

Maybe don't put out on the first date.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he's just a jerk.