So we are having a third "date". Should I cook for him?

[Anonymous]

So this is our third date and I asked him out. We are going to hang out at a friends place (without the friend lol) Should I cook for him for the dinner or just let it be?

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+1 y

Mission accomplished :D

[lightbulb27]

I assume you are good at it or at least decent, then sure. what is let it be? I don't follow? I think nice to cook, and have him help cleanup.
nothing wrong with carryout as well though.

a lot can be learned about both of you in how this all goes.
I'd keep it simple so that what is simple is more successful and less stressful.

[Asker]

I am good at cooking yes but I think I'll have to do everything since I will cook at my place and take it to his place. I dont know if we will learn about each other a lot by just this?

[lightbulb27]

oh that's easier. I was thinking you cook together. You'll find all kinds of compatibility or issues doing that. Have fun, you sound like a great girl, he's a lucky guy, I hope he appreciates it.

[Asker]

I'll make sure we cook together in later dates. Thank you :) I hope I cook well.

[lightbulb27]

What are you making? :)

[Asker]

indian cuisine.
Paneer butter masala
www.rachnas-kitchen.com/.../...butter-masala11.jpg
OR
Palak Paneer

www.dairygoodness.ca/.../palak-paneer.jpg

[worldscolide]

Dude, i am the one that always cooked!! if the girl i was dating surprised me with that, i dunno what my reaction would be, but in my head i would be thinking "Oh Yeah, she's a keeper"

Go for it i promise he will love it!!!

[Asker]

I am confused if I should surprise him or just ask him first if I can cook something for dinner?

[worldscolide]

Surprises work!

[Asker]

I am confused since the guy im talking about is german.

[worldscolide]

Thanks for mho!! And I am happy that it worked!

[Asker]

You are welcome ^_^

[OhLookADistraction]

You could ask him in a casual way what he would like.

[Asker]

whatever he likes I can't make since I am vegetarian and he is non-vegetarian. :/ And I can't cook European dishes.

[Cool4ever5]

if you like him like really like him, cook for him.

[Asker]

Yea I do like him one way. We are just knowing each other right now. And I dont want to eat the stuffs that he brings from the shops :D I like eating healthy.

[flypaper]

Awww that sounds very nice!

[Asker]

Thank you :) I hope it is something he likes to eat. Wish me luck :D

[flypaper]

Goodluck Lady, hope he loves it!

[Asker]

Vielen dank :* :) Fingers crossed.

[Pyrofox]

If you have a personal favorite meal that fits his eating parameters (doesn't have any of his possible allergines.) Then go ahead and make it as I'm sure he will like the meal.

[Asker]

I just need to put "less spices" since I am dealing with European and I am Indian. I hope he is not allergic to indian cottage cheese :D

[akadatank44]

@Asker What is difference between regular cottage cheese and Indian cottage cheese? Lol

[Asker]

@akadatank44 I dont think there is any difference but its just the way I am used to call it. Paneer or indian cottage cheese.

[Pyrofox]

Just ask him on a a scale of 1 to 10 he's going to try it ether way just use a little less. Make it mild.

[Asker]

I know the European taste very well and would not add anything thats uncomfortable for his stomach and mouth. Milder yes :)

[Pyrofox]

But its okay to use authentic spicing just no need to go maybe as overboard with the indigenous or foreign spicing. (I have experince making Korean and mexican and a little Indian. So I know its safe to make it taste like the authentic stuff just dont go too over board.)

[Asker]

Oh yes. I understand what you mean there. In that case, I will use authentic spicing as it is. Will keep the whole spices like bay leaf, ginger, cinnamon, nutmeg, whole black pepper intact and reduce on amount of red chili powder, cumin powder, turmeric. A lot of cheese though.

[MadeInAmerica]

What you mean by let it be, no food. No thanks unless your implying of going to straight to making out and sex then I'm sure he won't mind doing that on an empty stomach.

[Asker]

No sex for third date. Not my thing.

[ZenithDawn]

:O ya my boyfriend skipped the 3rd date and tricked me into moving half my shit into his place. but ya cooking is a good thing just dont cook bad foods.
im going to cook some chickan bacon fettuccine alfredo for me and him tonight :D

[Asker]

hahahaha I was planning to take food to his place since mine is a little bit crowded with other students. You seem to have good cooking skills!! :D Unfortunately I am vegetarian.

[ZenithDawn]

Why are you vegetarian?

[Asker]

ummm I am Indian and follow Hinduism. Not so strict about it but then I am not enthusiastic about eating non-veg food. I can cook paneer butter masala very well though :D

[ZenithDawn]

oh your vegetarian via religion ok that makes it ok with me. im sick of seeing people who are vegan/vegetarians because the want to save animals.

[Asker]

Yes I am believer :)

[truthbeknown]

Mmmmm! Dinner! Just remember though, just because you cook for him doesn't mean he "owes" you anything!

[Asker]

:/ Where did you get this from? That he owes me something if I cook for him?

[truthbeknown]

Kidding! You know how they say a woman owes the guy sex if he pays for dinner? Just making a joke. In all seriousness, I think making dinner is an awesome idea!

[Asker]

hahahahaha he owes nothing neither do I. ;) Just paying for dinner makes him entitled to sex? :/ I am clueless. Easterner dating westerner.

[flypaper]

No you never owe him anything sexual. Your good. Cooking for him sounds very nice :D

[Asker]

@flypaper I was a little bit tensed since I dont want sex to be involved too soon. I'll pay for my dinners :D

[Prof_Don]

If you have the cooking skills, he will definitely love and appreciate you making him a home cooked meal! :)

[Asker]

I do have good cooking skills but I need to know if he likes the Indian cuisine.

[Prof_Don]

If he likes spicy food, then he probably will like Indian food.

[Asker]

I will not add spices rather adapt to european tastes with indian touch.

[Prof_Don]

That's a good call. He will enjoy and appreciate it. :)

[Asker]

Fingers crossed ^_^

[AustinMan]

What else is on the agenda? Do you want dinner before or after the sex?

[Asker]

No sex for third date. Not comfortable with it so soon.

[AustinMan]

Whatever you say...

[akadatank44]

Do it! There is a saying about about to get to a man's heart you must get to his stomach. Or something like that 😂

[Asker]

I know that very well :D Im going to use it as well. haha

[akadatank44]

Haha good!

[DiogoRibeiro]

If you have the skills, go for it!

I'd like that date. :)

[Asker]

oh yea I do it very well. :)

[Oram52]

Trust me guys love when girls cook for them. Yup definitely.

[Asker]

I am not missing out on it then :) Dinner is a done thing.

[genericname85]

ask him if he´d like that. just doing it like that is kind of awkward.

[Asker]

Good suggestion. I will ask him first. :)

[AmeerX]

Cooking would be nice provided you have good cooking skills, otherwise it would be best to let go :)

[Asker]

Yes I do. I was planning for palak paneer or shahi paneer for that case with some naan or rice.

[AmeerX]

Then go for it :)

[Asker]

Im totally doing it. :)

[AmeerX]

So, what were the results did it went well?

[Asker]

It was amazing. He loved it since he never ate Palak paneer, naan and lassi. :)

[AmeerX]

Wow, that was great :). Okay Good bye

[oldanddecrepid]

That sounds like a nice third date, then perhaps on the fourth date he could make something for you :)

[Asker]

I dont expect but it will be good :)

[oldanddecrepid]

Ya I know at your age, I was able to cook pretty well, but my mom was a chef. Some young guys are picking up on cooking skills, but not nearly enough!

You never know he might surprise you!

Have a fun third date, regardless :)

[Asker]

True. He will just pick up some bread and fresh cheese (European) and some juice. Viola. lol.

Your woman is the lucky woman, I must day. In case you cook :D

[Asker]

Thank you :) I hope its good. Fingers crossed.

[oldanddecrepid]

I was just lucky to have a mom that cooked well!

[Asker]

Nah its also your enthusiasm about the whole cooking thing. My mom is amazing traditional mom who has learnt knitting, sewing, decorating but I am quite not enthusiastic about them. So enthusiasm matters. :D

[oldanddecrepid]

I am a little unusual that way. I just see things like laundry, dishes, vacuuming, etc., as just chores in general the same as the outside work. To me there is no his and her chores they are just what needs to be done before having fun.

[Asker]

You are rational about it. Actually thats an attractive trait. If the guy asked if he could help me with home chores I will appreciate it too. The same my father taught me to repair little things in my own bike, fix doors, computers and little electronic stuffs. There are no his chores, no her chores. Golden words :)

[madhatters4]

sure you can cook if you want to

[Asker]

I want to!!

[madhatters4]

i always find it hard to cook at other people's places because it means bringing all the ingredients and then trusting that they have everything in their kitchen you need to prepare the meal (although sometimes it works out great if you are in a better kitchen than your own).

what are you thinking of cooking up?

[Asker]

I will cook everything in my hostel and take it to his apartment. He will not have any of the indian spices I need.

I am planning either of these with naan
Panner butter masala
www.rachnas-kitchen.com/.../...butter-masala11.jpg

or
Palak paneer
www.dairygoodness.ca/.../palak-paneer.jpg

[madhatters4]

mmmm. mouth watering

[Asker]

Yes they really are :)

[badger25]

I love cooking with/for a date!

[Asker]

I will be doing all the cooking :D

[John_Doesnt]

You should cook up some sex.

[Asker]

hahahaha not so soon. :D

[realname]

that is actually really cool thing to do!

[Asker]

oh yea :D A happy tummy, a happy mind lol

[Anonymous]

Don't cook anything, use only raw fish and have him eat it from your pubes.

[Asker]

He is not eating anything for there for some time more.

[Opinion Owner]

why not, red sauce is good

[Asker]

Not for me lol

[Casstiel]

Its up to you sis.

[Asker]

I want to... very much.

[bcromartie]

Are you a good cook?

[Asker]

yes I would say I am. :)

[Anonymous]

why not

[Asker]

True that! Why not.