Good or bad idea - first date at his house (he's cooking)?

flygal
So I met this guy online and we've been on the phone and Skype for 3 weeks now. I'm going to be in his City for a couple of days and he's invited me over for a first date at his house for a home cooked meal. Good idea or bad? Should I move it to a more neutral location? Keep in mind, we are older - I'm almost 40 and he's mid 50s so I would hope we are past the silly rules (?) - but still I can't help but think that one thing will lead to another.. and perhaps not a good thing on a first date when one wants a long term relationship. Of course, we've kind of been "dating" via telephone and webcam... so is it really a first date? My roommate (he's a guy) says to hell with rules - he doesn't see anything wrong with just going with the flow even if we end up in bed. He said he's never thought negatively of a woman who's "given it up so easily," but of course my girlfriend thinks I should play harder to get and ensure that by going to a neutral location. I guess I wouldn't be so confused if we lived in the same City, but the limited time is a factor. Your thoughts are appreciated...
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All good comments everyone! Thank you all for the constructive advice and sharing your experiences! I am leaning towards changing the location to somewhere half way between us. If we like each other then I still have a second night open while I'm down there to plan something. He has already implied that he's leaving the whole weekend open to see what happens...
Good or bad idea - first date at his house (he's cooking)?
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