For your 'First date,' @LaVicksy, as wise an owl as I am, I know how this will... Go down.
Tell Tinder foot hat You would Prefer going Out to eat and get to know him better. Explain to him that you don't just go to Somebody's house on a whim and a prayer and First, you would like to see if you both Mix well in the Public's eye before you go off parading under his thumb and roof.
I also would not suggest taking in a flick downtown. I have done this, been there, and believe me, you won't even know when Intermission takes place.
Good luck. xx
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That's a big "not happening" for me... huge red flag. You'd think he would realize that a girl is probably not comfortable meeting him alone at his house on the first date.
I had a guy from OKC try that, and he said it had to be at his house because his puppy was losing it's teeth and he had to be there for it. Really?
Tinder is well known as a hook up site, and it sounds like that is exactly what this guy is expecting. Try to get him to meet you out, but don't be surprised if he just blows you off. Your safety comes first.
Yeah.
1. He's a rapist
2. He's socially awkward and doesn't understand that suggesting a first date at my place sounds like he's a rapist
3. He's dumb for not thinking about how terrifying meeting for the first time at a strangers house may be
Those are your options. Personally I don't like this guy.
The way I see it, if you have any doubt whatsoever, suggest a first date somewhere else. An invitation to his house seems like a 3rd date kinda thing (or at least it's something I'd do). As a first date, it seems a little bit rapey unless you've known the guy for years.
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wtf? Don't do it, this guy sounds like a jackass... unless all you want is to screw and even then you should first meet at a public place.
Ahahhahahaha NO. NOT AT HIS HOUSE. EW. RED FLAG. CREEP.
If you don't "want any" then don't go. That's what tinder is for.
Always a good idea to meet in a public space first. If you like him enough that way then you could go to his house.
bad idea
always meet in public until you know more about himMake a counter-proposal to meet outside.
its simple... meet him in a public place
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