I saw my boyfriend looking at my sisters boobs and then again and I can't get over it?

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Basically we were sat at a table and my sister lent over and her boobs were fully out and my boyfriend noticed them and looked. I saw too so didn't mind the first time but then I saw him look again in the corner of his eye and that is what has upset me. She has much bigger boobs than me and it has made me feel worthless as she is my sister also. I can't help but think why did he look twice? Did he like the look of them and so look again? :( I asked him and he told me he did notice them as they were obvious but he wasn't checking her out. But I still feel hurt :(

GingerGuy · Accepted Answer

It really is a natural reaction for a guy, sometimes honestly we can't control it, it's like driving by a car crash and not looking. For your feelings, realize that it's just that, looking, it means NOTHING at all other than that. If you seen a hot guy (totally your type in every way) walking down the street without a shirt, might you take a quick look or two just admiring. But it means nothing, same here. That may not be the best example but what I'm saying is you're taking it too personally. Now if he starts staring at her randomly now without any reason (ie she hasn't had her boobs in his face lol) then maybe you have something to be upset about, but this case specifically, don't think about it. Move on. It was just in that moment and it's over. Again, it honestly very hard for us guys to control sometimes, we do it and don't even realize it sometimes seriously. I've caught myself looking at strangers before and I've thought to myself wtf? Why am I looking? Uncontrollable. Just a natural reaction.

Red_Arrow · Accepted Answer

Guys like boobs. And the bigger boobs are, the more noticeable they are. I myself prefer smaller boobs, but when big ones are prominently in view, I will look at them. In the situation you described, where hers are larger, and yours are small, I probably would have looked just as much as he did. But I will tell you very firmly, that from your description I prefer yours a LOT more than hers. It is simply that hers were "out there"!

My wife used to say that if I ever stopped looking at other women, it would mean that I was too old and decrepit for her. She expected me to notice and look. But she also very clearly expected that I would look, but never touch. And though almost 40 years of marriage till she died, I did look and never touched.

Paris13 · Accepted Answer

I believe that you do not have much to worry about. Up to now, for you never said, he has never given you any Proof in his own sweet Pudding that He Looks and lurks Other girls, much less Boobs to Boot.
I am sure that with 'My sister lent over and her boobs were fully out,' He probably was Both Shocked and Surprised to his Wondering, Not Wandering, Eyes, that She had the Nerve to wear Something So... Revealing.
I am sure he did 'Look twice,' and with them Coming out of their Package, How can Anyone Not help but take a Second Glance by Chance?
He was quite off guard, and with you Approaching him on this Sister Sore Subject, he tried to "Lie' his way out of it because he couldn't Explain it. His Tongue was in a Twist.
He loves you. Up to this point in time, has there ever been a 'Time" where Sis has Ever been on his Mind?
Good luck. xx

toast-is-nice · Accepted Answer

Maybe he was checking her out, maybe he wasn't. But it doesn't really matter, and here's why:
There will always be people who he finds attractive. There will always be girls that he thinks are hotter than you and that he will check out. But your worth isn't based on your appearance, you are SO much more than that. Your appearance is a bonus, but that isn't why he loves/ is interested in you. Just like its not the reason why you love/ are interested in him.

CODgirl · Accepted Answer

Men are going to look as long as they don't say or do anything about it I have no problems I mean my dad used to do that when he as with my mom but he obviously liked her much better. My boyfriend doesn't really care for appearances but if you are confident in him, your relationship, and you trust him it should be fine ! That's the best advice I can give ya 🙂

DodgersGM · Answer

I'd give him the benefit of the doubt this time.

I'm just gonna be honest: when some woman is parading her breasts in front of us, it's VERY ddifficult for many dudes to resist looking at.

Now he knows how it made you feel, so hopefully he'll adjust accordingly and all is good in the world.

bluenose1872 · Answer

You only feel hurt coz you got an inferiority complex and thats your problem not his. All men notice things like that. can't help it. Might as well ask water not to be wet. Its not a choice its instinct. If he had a brother and he walked past with a big massive bulge for talking sake you wouldn't even glance? Bet youd look more than once. Nature. No point bullshitting me i know women are just as bad as men that way. I've been with enough to know. you're just more prudish about it coz you worry what people will think if your too obvious. You can't treat your partner like a pet whos broke their training. People are people, learn to laugh it off instead of getting wound up

Heart_Whisperer · Answer

He loves you. Don't worry. And I'm a guy so I totally understand lol!
Us guys have a wiring for them. We will always double look, probably even if it's our grandma XDDD
Don't worry about it. If he makes a move on her or you notice strange behavior from him while around your sis, talk to him

Kaylyne · Answer

Well at least he was honest and upfront about admitting he noticed them, there again by what you've written it would have been extremely hard for him not to really.

zombiebabe · Answer

he saw bewbs that's why... he should keep staring tho... its disrespectful (even more cause she's your sis) and next time.. tell your sister to cover up

truthbeknown · Answer

All guys look, can't help it. Wait until you catch him looking at your mom!

thorthorley · Answer

Its sort of a natural reaction for a guy to look at breasts and i wouldn't think too much of it.

TadCurious · Answer

So just to be clear, your sister leaned over and her boobs were FULLY out? Like really fully out of her top and bra? Or was it just cleavage that was visible. I'm having a hard time picturing this.

Anonymous · Answer

I was going to write a nice answer, but Red_Arrow said it. Him looking doesn't mean he prefers large boobs. It means he notices noticeable boobs. Big difference.

modeve · Answer

If your boyfriend never wished to see your sis again and again, just ignore it. All men see other women's boobs especially if exposed fully or partly. Nothing to worry.

Cmasterson · Answer

They're right in his face, can't really get upset over something thats so obvious right there. He wasn't staring at least, but don't feel hurt they're just boobs.

Maclips · Answer

Okay, every guy looks it's what they do as long as he doesn't touch or make any physical contact it's fine 😊

chrisbigman · Answer

They must have been quite noticeable. That doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Your sister just caught his attention - for the moment.

bubbakong2006 · Answer

Well if boobs are out a man is going to look that’s just normal but that’s not saying he had any interest in them other than that but I mean your going to look

genericname85 · Answer

if you think him "looking" at stuff is a threat to your relationship, you shouldn´t have a relationship. guys don´t want tot fuck or love everything they look at.

slimstiffy · Answer

He didn't mean that i think. It was accidental. He is with you, not with your sis. Im sure he finds you hotter. If he starts flirting with your sis though, thats a red flag

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think he wants your sister but I believe if anyone's boobs are out, all men look. Even girls look.

fulloflife · Answer

Because he's a guy. Even if y'all grow old together he'll still be looking at titties till the day he dies.

apple24 · Answer

boys are boys ): I would have slapped him right there and than!

ConsultantIsBack · Answer

Shrug it off or be a cat lady op, you can't let every thing bother you guys

bigshot69 · Answer

No reason to be upset. It would have been very hard for him to resist. Doesn't matter who it is. I'm sure he still loves you very much!

Anonymous · Answer

He's a guy. Boobs are fun. It happens. It doesn't mean anything

bcromartie · Answer

You'd look twice too! T_T Don't take it personally.

orphan · Answer

can you just get over it? classic drama queen making issues out of non issues. so fucking petty.

pilot_steve2035 · Answer

Don't be so upset. Its built into guys brains to look. As long as he is only looking don't worry.

Melcart23 · Answer

A guy looked at boobs? Omg. What ever shall we do😱

TheAngryBanana · Answer

guys will stare written into our DNA sorry it gonna happen

Anonymous · Answer

Awww hon... Don't feel bad.. I'd just noobs.. big or small... They are awesome

Anonymous · Answer

Her boobs were out? You're lucky he didn't reach for them :P :P.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys always take a look at a nice pair of boobs! That's the way we are😜

anonman32 · Answer

at least you know he's not gay.

That1Thing · Answer

I'll take your boyfriend

prosmind · Answer

It's guys' nature, and also normal.

jesusnicolas768 · Answer

Damn that's disrespectful

mistixs · Answer

It means nothing.

Anonymous · Answer

What did the police have to say?

Anonymous · Answer

Dump the perv!

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