My boyfriend makes me so insecure about my boobs?

Question

My boyfriend of 10 months is constantly making snarky comments about the size of my breasts, like asking what size bra I wear and then just laughing at me saying it's impossible that I'm any bigger than an A cup (I'm a 32B but they look smaller). Other comments he's made is that I should get implants, that I'm a fake for wearing push up bras, that I wear bras that are too big and according to him pretending I have bigger breasts than I do.

When I was younger I used to be really insecure about having a small chest, but I got over it. but now I can't stop thinking about it. I won't take my top off in front of him anymore! I sleep with my bra on so the look bigger to him! 

Please give me any suggestions of how to think about this to make myself feel better, or if there's anything I can say to him to make him understand that it really gets to me?

Victorianne · Accepted Answer

He sounds like a controlling and manipulative person. He is trying to lower your self-worth , and his motives are working. If you had bigger boobs he would find another reason to criticise you.

Relationships are supposed to make you feel emotionally safe and secure, not make you feel worthless and insecure. You should be with a guy who views your body as beautiful, regardless of the size of your boobs.

I couldn't be with a guy who intentionally tried to bring me down, because once he has you at rock bottom he will do all he can to keep you there. You should leave him before he knocks all of your confidence out of you , once that happens you will feel too depressed to leave

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

It sounds like to me this guy is interested in sex, that is number 1. Number 2, your breast size is not his business. You don't have to tell him anything. What I want to know how can you deal with this guy for 10 months! The first remark about my body in that manner would have resulted in the break up. For good. It doesn't matter if you sleep with it on or not. If you feel comfortable wearing it, then wear it. Don't be with guys who make you feel that way. It's a warning sign. Drop him a. s. a. p! That is emotional abuse and you need to put a stop to it now. Not later, but now.

Jend1028 · Accepted Answer

You say it's only been 10 months? Baby, run, not walk. I'm sure you're a beautiful person. Anyone that will willingly hurt someone they claim to care for on purpose is not worth your time. A lot of men prefer smaller breasts, as well. Keep your head held high and find someone that loves ALL of you. If you want to talk to him, try to turn the tables... ask him how he'd feel if you were constantly critiquing the size of his package. Maybe that'll get to him. But don't depend on him to make you feel good.

luvstoned4him · Accepted Answer

boyfriend says You are fake for wearing push up bras but suggests surgery.. What a Ass!!

Dump him and find someone who appreciates your assests. You are Fairfully and Wonderfully made. Big boobs aren't everything. I know I have a nice pair of well made boob that I am proud of.

dogbert444 · Accepted Answer

Sounds like you should keep your bra and change your boyfriend! How can you have any feelings for such a nasty inconsiderate git? You are worth much more than this. There are loads of guys who love small boobs, me included. Don't be scared of being on your own for a short while. Dump this idiot and find yourself a decent guy.

ksoma · Accepted Answer

you're under 18. you could still grow.
don't get implants. i remember reading they can damage nerve endings. you have big boobs then, but you don't feel much from them. all show, but no fun.
and besides, lots of guys like smaller boobs.
don't be self conscious just because he's being a dick.

hazoplmeught · Answer

listen to this song. Either dump his ass or stand up for yourself. There is no such thing as boobs that are too small for a guy unless ur chest is completely flat. Your a B cup so TF are y'all talking about, u listen to him too much. he obviously got with you with the boobs you have right now. Dump his azz if he dnt stop cause this is obviously hurting you and he is obviously an ass. by the way why are u still with him, either he got ur confidence that low that someone else wouldn't want u (if this dump his ass cause ur confidence is low) or he must be TEARIN THAT ASSS UP (lol jk (or am i?)). But listen to the song

Exmorted · Answer

Dump him.

A guy should love his girlfriend, regardless of her breast-size.
if he flat out mocks you for your boobs, then he's just a dick, and every day you're not breaking up with him, you're just telling him "it's okay that you're mocking me".

He's trash, he should be trashed.

GingerGuy · Answer

Stand up for yourself. This is emotional abuse. Tell him very seriously that you won't accept him talking to you that way anymore. If he just laughs it off (which he might not thinking you're serious) then maybe "take a break" from him. Or, dump him and find someone that will treat you with respect.

SüßeJäger · Answer

Damn, get rid of him. Nobody deserves that. Could you imaging what a guy would do if his girlfriend did that about his 'size'? It's the same thing. He is not the one for you. You gotta drop him for your own good. Then get a new boyfriend and ask him to kick the shit outta your current boyfriend. He deserves it. That would be so much fun stomping a mud hole in his ass. Besides, that is just about the perfect size of boobies.

MrOracle · Answer

He's being a total dick. You need to tell him exactly how you feel about those things, and that it isn't right. If he doesn't get it, then call him out on his masculinity (penis size, ability to please a woman, etc.) and see how he feels.

But, really, you probably should just kick him to the curb.

xHoneyxBeex · Answer

Wow, what an asshole. Why are you still with someone who puts you down like that? I'm a 32B also but my boyfriend has never made me feel insecure or "lesser than" for my breast size. I know most men prefer larger but he's never even remotely acted like he has an issue with my size.

A boyfriend should be supportive of you and want you to be secure in yourself and confident. I would recommend dumping this jerk and finding someone who will actually respect and support you.

ovodm · Answer

You need to leave him. The last thing you need is to be made to feel insecure about someone you could possibly spend the rest of you life with. Imagine these comments and how they would Grow over the years you'll spend your entire life trying to change things about yourself for him. You should never allow your boyfriend to criticize you like that. Even if he felt like you had smaller boobs than he is used to he should never say it and make you feel bad about it.

Bigboy915 · Answer

If a guy is able to do that then he can't truly be thinking of how you're feeling. The first thing I try to do with a girl is reassure her how beautiful I think she is, even the things she doesn't like about herself or things that aren't "what guys want" like big boobs. Personally I think smaller boobs are gorgeous in the same way I think big boobs are gorgeous.. it's more about respecting that everyone is different and if he can't realise that you are who you are then he isn't worth it.

pix23 · Answer

He sounds like a douche bag. You know what? You don't have to put up with it, there's guys out there who like small boobs. If he doesn't appreciate the privilege of being able to see your boobs, don't let him anymore. There is no reason to feel bad about wearing a push up bra! Do what makes you feel sexy and confident.

Try having a serious talk with him about it maybe? If he loves you and cares about you he'll stop with the comments if he knows it hurts you.

AARON9890 · Answer

It could be that he is just joking around being sarcastic? However it doesn't seem that way from what you are writing. Why would you put up with an arrogant asshole like that? There are plenty of men out there who dont have girlfriends and would treat you 100% better than this guy. End it with him as soon as possible if its really starting to get to you

truthbeknown · Answer

He is not boyfriend material. I would not put with up that.

Red_Arrow · Answer

You are a fake for wearing push up bras but you should get implants? How stupid is he? How much faker than implants can you get?

He is an asshole treating you this way and he will never change that part of him. You should have left him long ago.

genericname85 · Answer

i guess he doesn´t really know what he´s doing to you. you could make some remarks about how small his penis is and then tell him that that´s as bad as him telling you shit about your boobs.

also you should consider that only he might not really like them. to other guys your boobs will be perfectly fine.

suseel_sushi · Answer

never ever let anyone do that. well we don't know the tone he used or if you do the same about his assets too. when we men say big boobs, we doesn't mean that giant hanging rice sacks. it's all about the texture and firmness. if he really means to hurt you, he is an asshole. big, small , stretched or having stretch marks ; boobs are boobs and men love them. make sure that your boyfriend hasn't got other options.

AnnVdB · Answer

wow, he clearly doesn't love you if he would laugh at you for y our boobs or push you into surgery to get fake shit implanted in your chest. I have small breasts myself, an A cup actually, and my boyfriend would never ever say those things to me.

bryon · Answer

I only have one suggestion. Dump his cruel ungrateful worthless @ss

Poppykate · Answer

He is an asshole! Next time he tries that crap, turn the tables on him. 'Your penis is 6 inches? 🤔 It looks more like 2! 😂

Sara413 · Answer

My suggestion is leave the boyfriend. He's an asshole. Your boyfriend is supposed to make you feel good about yourself, not insecure.

donthewatcher · Answer

just let him know in a minuet he won't have too worry about your breast
eviction notice... let him know you are both still growing (unlike his brain) , and one day he will wish he still had you... and your slammin breast
to the left to the left

HookingSwan · Answer

My only advice and also only course of action you should have is simply to: DUMP THE ASSHOLE  Really -__-

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