My boyfriend got annoyed because im always insecure about my body?

[Anonymous]

Last night we were at his place on the couch and he was feeling me up. Its not unusal because we always do that, but in that particular day, he noticed how stand off-ish i was to his advances. I knew i didn't want to have sex. Not because i didn't want to, but because I didn't shave and dont want to be touched there when its not trimmed. And i was wearing jeans for the first time in a long time and my body just felt fat and pouring out... Every curve he touched, i moved his hand away from. At first it was fine, but as the night progressed, he got annoyed and told me its like I dont even know him. I love him with all my heart, Im just really insecure of my body. I enjoy all of his affection and I love giving him affection... i just dont know how to be confident in myself.

[NaomiNate]

Well my opinion is that you should tell him why you were uncomfortable, no matter how insecure you are. I know it's not a light switch to turn your insecurity on and off but, instead of giving him the idea that you are repulsed by him, why not accept the fact that you're not perfect, but still perfect for him, and tell him how you really feel at times when he gets so intimate; it will make it so much better.
Accept your body, let me ask you, when he got intimate, did he feel repulsed? If he did, then he does not accept you, or your body, you're probably not pouring out, it's just your insecurity that allows your mind to think like that; and you accept it. But if you feel comfortable with suiting it to his' or your needs, then do it. On the other hand, if he does accept you though, then make the best of it, embrace your curves and be comfortable in your own skin, you might feel like the weight you had on your shoulders was probably non-existent this whole time, like your insecurity in contrast to describing your body.
Don't try to be something you're not. Build your self-esteem by being optimistic with yourself and encouraging yourself to be more of yourself- that's why he loves you right? Think happy thoughts!

[Azara]

shave and l;one weight and week out--if it really bothers you. i mean its n to like anything you mentioned is set in stone. you're lucky ALL of those things are within your control. of course he can love you as you are.. but you need to feel comfortable with you. he can't make you feel that way and he shouldn't be annoyed bc you're uncomfortable as if its a reflection on him. its not. nothing to do with knowing him. its how you feel about you. take control.

[Transigence]

"nothing to do with knowing him. "

That's the crux of the problem right there. She's... essentially overriding what he wants for himself with what she wants of herself. It's sick.

[Azara]

typo. shave and l;one weight and week out

# Shave. lose weight. work out. IF these are things important to you.

in my opinion, they are both too concerned with 'him'.

[desidoll]

Well it looks like the problem is more on you, not him. He doesn't say anything about your body right? If you feel like your body is the main reason on why you feel this way, then you have to lose weight.

[Transigence]

Yeah, fuck that shit. I wouldn't have time for it either. The main reason to be attractive is to attract a mate. If you ALREADY HAVE a mate who WANTS YOU AS YOU ARE...

Just, yeah. Fuck that shit. You're putting up artificial barriers. What you're doing is saying, "I'm not good enough for you."

Imagine, you're sitting there with a bowl of chocolate ice-cream. You got a job, earned some money, went to the grocery store, bought the ice cream (which YOU CHOSE)... washed a bowl and a spoon, scooped some out... now you can smell it, and you want it. You can almost taste it.

Then someone slaps the bowl away from you and says, "That ice cream isn't good enough for you. You don't like that kind of ice cream."

How fucking disrespectful is that to insert your own demands for yourself (which are probably unrealistic and unattainable anyway) OVER his desire and acceptance of you?

You're TRASHING his judgement.

I'd be gone lickety-split. No fucking time for that shit.

[Transigence]

You're essentially sending the message that he isn't fit to decide for himself what he likes.

[Mesonfielde]

Well you could have waltzed off to the bathroom and trimmed instead of silently making it seem like you're repulsed by your own boyfriend's advances, do you SERIOUSLY want to sabotage your relationship so desperately?

[RainbowFanGirl]

Try telling him about it. I'm insecure too but when I told my boyfriend about it, he understood. :) maybe he just doesn't know how you feel.

[Transigence]

The problem with this is that he's probably going to start offering advice to fix the problem, which I'm CERTAIN she doesn't want.

I think she needs to get this under wraps herself.

[Kylesar]

Lose the weight then
My girlfriend is the same way

If your insecurity is connected to your weight, lose it

[es20490446e]

Children love their hole body, including their own poo.
Why you don't?

[XNicholeMariex3]

Have you explained to him how you are feeling?

[skeptic007]

hun fix it stop saying it

[Walls_and_Doors]

If all else fails keep it to yourself 😔