My boyfriend isn't happy with my body?

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I am 5'6 115 pounds i dont know if im being oversensitive but my boyfriend always makes comments about how im so skinny/too skinny, how he wants me to gain weight and get a bigger butt and stop being so skinny. He always bugs me to weigh myself when im around him if i lose any weight (i have a fast metabolism and my weight fluctuates) he gets kind of annoyed and if i dont eat a lot he shakes his head he loves thick girls with big butts, i do try to do squats and work out but he still says how im never going to get "thick" my boobs are small and so is my butt my measurements are 32-24-35 so yeah pretty skinny i dont know if im just being too sensitive or if its just him telling me he likes thicker girls or if he's being rude... it bothers me but he thinks im too emotional and doesn't want to listen if i talk to him about it. by the way he does compliment my body but the criticism DEFINITELY outweighs the compliments plus before he has said to me "youre not hot you're just pretty and cute, hot girls have it all" implying a better body

FashionQueen86 · Accepted Answer

Change your body becuase YOU want to, not for anybody else, especially someone who brutally judges your body and finds any flaw about it to complain, complain, and complain.

If you were to get a big butt, that will only satisfy him for awhile, becuase then he'll look for something else to complain about. If you got breast implants, he'll make fun of your nose. If you got a nose job done, he'll tell you your lips are too flat. If you gain 20 pounds, he'll tell you, you gained too much, etc, etc.

You CANNOT please every single person you meet on this planet. If I were you I would honestly run fast. I noticed you said you were trying to do squats. Have you always done squats BEFORE dating him? Or is this something new you're doing becuase of HIM? See how you're living your life around his needs? Not cool.

blazeisbad · Accepted Answer

Okay, first off.. if I were you, I'd straight up tell him to fuck off & go find a girl like that, if that's what he wants so bad. He has NO right to tell you how you should look. & he has no right to make you feel shitty about your body. I'm skinny too, & I've heard it all, those people are douche bags anyways, including your man (sorry)! Girl, don't put up with that shit. Be strong, & be proud of your body, & lose the guy. Find someone who likes you exactly the way you are! My man, he loves my body, he even did when I was underweight a few months ago. You want someone who makes you feel good, no matter what. Not someone who criticizes you more then he compliments you. Skinny girls are hot too.

ekc8295 · Accepted Answer

You're not being too sensitive. It's completely normal to be hurt when your partner repeatedly insults you and puts you down. That's not what a good partner does. The saying "people treat you how you let them" applies here. You need to tell him that putting you down about your appearance is not acceptable. If he doesn't find you attractive enough, that's his personal issue and he can either leave or accept you the way you are. If he continues to insult you, you need to leave. This is not how a healthy relationship is and you can definitely find someone who will find you attractive and respect you enough to not insult you.

AnotherConfusedGirl · Accepted Answer

wtf... your waist is almost the size of my thigh... Anyway, one of two options you point out all the things you don't like about him and see how he likes it or just dump him because he sounds awful. Sure sometimes I think a guy I'd be going out with could have more muscle or look a little different but I'd never tell him that because why would I ever want to knock his confidence like that? His tearing down your self esteem and I wouldn't stand for it if I were you because its a tactic abusive boyfriends use.

TCJ1234567 · Accepted Answer

There are LOTS of guys that love skinny girls. And yes he is being rude.

Bottom line, you can only be who you are. Pretending or wishing you were something else is not healthy for your relationship. I would understand if you were so skinny that you are having health issues, that is different, but if wants a girl with a big butt, let him go find a girl with one and you find a guy who thinks your butt is perfect.

The scars left from him telling you over and over again that you are not good enough will never go away and will only build up over time and ruin any chance that you might have for happiness.

He needs to care about you for who you are or he needs to hit the road. Period.

madhatters4 · Accepted Answer

well you shouldn't be with someone who does this. he should love you for you. it's ok to make a kind suggestion about something for their sake but he is selfishly badgering you about changes to your body for his sake... that is wrong

so don't be with someone who treats you this way. or make it crystal clear that you don't appreciate and will not tolerate his constant criticisms. you will not weigh in for him. and if he can't appreciate who you are then maybe he should find someone who is willing to be his pet that he can mold and shape to his specifications

TadCurious · Answer

What a jerk wad. It sounds like you're just a naturally slender girl. I don't think you're being too sensitive to the fact that his criticism of your body greatly outweighs any compliments. That's just fucking mean of him. Ask yourself very seriously if you want to be with someone who can't accept you the way you are without fantasizing about you being "thicker" or having a bigger butt or boobs or whatever else he has in his mind. There's nothing wrong with your body. There is something wrong with your boyfriend.

Anonymous · Answer

That guy sure as hell don't deserve you, if he's being constant with his criticism.
Although since I don't know him I can't tell if he's trying to help you or not, but I don't know... "youre not hot you're just pretty and cute, hot girls have it all" it's not something you say to the person you're in relationship with. It's like you start criticising his manhood... same thing. One thing I can tell you for sure is that he doesn't love you, it seems like it's even close to that, maybe he's just using you.
My advice will be to leave him, because you're doing everything possible to make him happy with eating, squats and stuff and he still treats you like that. I'm starting to get little pissed from idiots like that, so I'm going to cut it to here.

heath2000 · Answer

my ex always says I am too skinny and I need to gain weight and tries to help me eat more to gain weight even if I don't listen to him. even though he thinks I'm too skinny he still loves my body. honestly, if he doesn't respect how you look now I don't think he's worth your time.

AmazingAva · Answer

He sounds like an asshole. Why even waste time on him? A lot of girls would want to have your body. Unless you have an eating disorder or if you really have a problem with your weight then who cares? What he says doesn't define you and you need to get him out of your life.

Mustachekitteh · Answer

Even though that's his preference, it's still pretty rude to keep bringing that up. I would just tell him if he's so unhappy with your body then he can just go and find someone he looks more perfect to him. That you won't just stand around and let him bash you like that.

Anonymous · Answer

Lol if the genders were reversed in this question and you were the one to tell your boyfriend that he was too skinny and needed to gain weight no one would care or tell him that he deserves better. People would call the guy a pussy and that he should suck it up. This site is incredibly sexist and it attracts manginas and people that worhsip women "for who they are" . Big deal. He's probably gonna leave you anyway. Id he doesn't find you're body attractive then he's not gonna stay so you have plenty of desperate vagina worshippers out there to tell you how "lovely" your body is - even if you're a walking skeleton or a whale. You have the media and everyone else telling you that you're body is perfect just because you were born with a vagina. Facts

BellePepper · Answer

I think you should discuss your weight with your doctor. Then get rid of your boyfriend. He doesn't have the right to demean YOUR body based on his preferences. Not okay. You deserve someone who respects you.

Anonymous · Answer

Well, next time he wants to weigh you suggest that he find a way to measure his maturity first. Then when he weighs you, you can measure how mature he is, When he suggests that you work on getting a bigger butt, suggest he work on getting a bigger brain. Or you could just dump him andget a boyfriend that is more mature.

PoorCollegeStudent · Answer

Tbh.. sounds pretty douchey of him. What barrel did you scrape the bottom of to get him? Tell him to knock it off and if he can't accept you don't like the way he degrades you then tell him to hit the road. Sounds like you deserve way better.

Shaggyshark · Answer

Sounds like a jerk, I don't think ur being too sensitive at all he should love you for who you are, and your personality, and stop criticizing your body. Try doing it back to him and see how he reacts lol.

AustinMan · Answer

You absolutely deserve better. Dump the sorry knucklehead and find someone who appreciates you as you are.

Anonymous · Answer

He doesn't seem to realize there's a human being inside your body. Find a guy who is kind and respectful. And who is good with you as you are. (Lots and lots of guys like the body type you described.) Nobody should have to put up with that shit.

Blonde401 · Answer

Dump him. If he wants a thick girl he should date a thick girl. You are who you are and you should love your body for however it is. Don't put up with this, dump him.

HOAAH · Answer

Tell him that he is hurting your feelings and if he is not considerate, than find someone else. He sounds so shallow.

Anonymous · Answer

You sound really pretty and definitely hot :) if he doesn't like you because your body type is smaller then he doesn't deserve you. It sounds to me like he is being rude for no reason. Next time he does it address him about it.

TuMeManques · Answer

Ummmm you like this guy? Just start responding about his height or dick size and compare him with guys who "have it all".

Kit_Kat88 · Answer

You can tell him to go find a fat ass girl if he's unhappy. You literally sound like you have a great slim body with a nice waist. Don't change that because of his brash comments.

Kaylyne · Answer

Why do you call this pathetic loser your "boyfriend"?

ginny_weasley · Answer

If he calls too skinny, it's time to call him single and he can go get himself a curvy girl.

ThunderButt83 · Answer

if he's not happy with you, dump that asshole, you deserve real love.

Luvme66 · Answer

all i can say he does everthing he could but i assure that he doesn't love you...

archiz · Answer

that s condescending  plus he shouldn t be changing you but be happy with what you have

Anonymous · Answer

Your body sounds smokingly hot to me. he may like curvy girls, but tons of guys like your build.

Aweir · Answer

Unless he has a great body himself, he shouldn't really talk

Anonymous · Answer

Well, I'm sure there's stuff about him you don't like, why not point that stuff out, see how he reacts

Elarra · Answer

You're boyfriend is an asshole. Dump his ass.

Dog19 · Answer

I don't know if he's trying to help you or not

baabyput · Answer

Are you sure he isn't joking 😔

JSmuve · Answer

Aaaaaaand you're with this guy why?

SoFeckinAddicted · Answer

dump him and let him find himself a thicker girl

idonutlikeuglypeople · Answer

maybe because it's a bad body. fix it.

pooper89 · Answer

He's an asshole

Anonymous · Answer

i'm happy with ur body ;)

Autumn-Bunny · Answer

Move on from him

Touchmehxx · Answer

DUMP HIM

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